I'm 24, my gf is 25. Please help. I just
woke up from not being able to sleep so
i'm posting here. Here is my problem. My
gf said she's going with her sisters (2)
and brother in law to this hollowin party
and I wasn't ok with it at first, then I
called her around 9pm because she had said
she's gonna go no matter what cause she
doesn't wanna miss these parties when she
gets 40-50 years old (by the way, she
couldn't invite me because we are secret
bf/gfs. Our parents are those type that
shouldn't know.). So I called her
thinking if it that if it was me i'd not
have much fun when at a party that my gf
said not to go and to tell her that i'm ok
with her going. She said then that she
wasn't gonna go since I wasn't ok with it.
I said that and told her that's it's ok
with me and then we were talking when she
had to hang up because of her friend
(girl) called. She said she'd call back
but didn't untill I call aroud 10:15 (45
min later) and I was upset but she said
she knew I was ok with her going so she
went to get dressed and was in a rush so
she couldn't call and said that I
shouldn't have been mad.I got more upset
and she had to go so we hung up. Untill
now (1:53am) I haven't been able to sleep.
How could she be having fun when knowing
i'm in pain here. I don't wanna sound
needy but what should I do.
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hellburn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Posted: 10-30-05 05:57am
Tomorrow go and talk to her and tell her
how you feel. And work things out
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htoudiee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 6 Location: CA
Did That Before... Posted: 10-30-05 06:03am
We've talked before...
One time she straigh up told me "i'm not
gonna not go even if you say so". What do
you think is the right action
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htoudiee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 6 Location: CA
Posted: 10-30-05 12:45pm
Anybody?
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Happiness03
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 333
Posted: 10-30-05 12:47pm
Well, if you guys are 24 and 25 years old,
what difference would it make if your
parents didn't approve? Do you live on
your own? That just sounds weired to me!
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htoudiee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 6 Location: CA
Posted: 10-30-05 12:54pm
Well, please let's not get into why we
need to be secret. Yes, we both live with
our parents yet. Please don't get
offended as I don't mean any harm. It's
just I need help... She's called and I
haven't answered yet... I don't wanna
sound misrable and needy.
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htoudiee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 6 Location: CA
Posted: 10-30-05 13:11pm
Update:
just got off the phone with her, she said
night was ok and I insisted in knowing
what it wasn't great and she finally said
"because I got off the phone with you when
you (ment me) were upset".
I assured her that I don't wanna ruin her
fun night and the reason I said ok while I
wasn't was only because of her and for her
to have fun. She had to go so we didn't
get to talk too much, nor did I see the
need to talk more about it on the phone
anyways so just an update.
