I too grew up in a home that made me
mature a lot quicker and I also hung witht
he older crowd. 14 is not a really young
age. Look at ppl way back when they knew
what love was when they married at that
age. I got pregant with my son at 15 I
had him at 16 on april 6,2005. I am now
pregnant with #2 also. I know that is
soon but I had to stop bc because it was
making me sick and not long after I was
peeing on a stick. With my son I was
induced at the hospital. I was given a
epidural right then. 12 hours later I was
pushing his heart rate kept dropping so
they wanted him out quick. He was also
sunny side up and had to be delivered with
forcepts. He also had the cord wrapped
around his neck twice. Hey girl are you
from the group too?
kristina86
wrote:
hi, I am 19 now and pregnant
with #2. I got pregnant with my first,
my son with I was 15 about to be 16, he is
now about to be 3 tomorrow (november 5th).
I met my husband when I was 14 he just
turned 21, yes I know 14 is a young age,
but growing up the way I did I matured a
lot faster then kids my age, so I always
hung out with the older crowd.
When I did find out I was prengnant with
my son me and my now husband were both
scared but we both got over that, I new he
was not going to leave me b/c for one
thing I ran away when I was 15 and I left
with him so he would not of taken me and
got in trouble by the cops if he really
didn't love me. Well when I told my mom
that I was pregnant she old me to get an
abortion I told her he!! No I could not
kill a baby like that, then she said for
me to put my child up for adoption and and
I looked at her and almost slaped her she
knew that I would never do that, I could
never put my child up for adoption and
have somebody else out there rasing my
child. Well once she got all that
through her head that I was not going to
do any of those she came to love my baby,
and now he is her world.
Now for labor we had just moved in to an
apt on a friday and my due date was that
coming tuesday (november 5th) well come
sunday night (11 pm)i start to have
contractions but they were like 45 mins to
an hour apart, so I laid down and went to
sleep, when my husband got up at 7am to go
to work I woke up to and my contractions
were still there and they were about 30
mins - 45 mins apart, so when I mom called
me at 8 am I told her and she said that
she would leave work early to come home so
my husband could stay at work, so she gets
home about 1:30 monday afternoon and my
contractions where about 25 - 30 mons
apart then, so when my husband got home
around 6 pm that night they were about 7 -
10 mins apart so we waited until 8 pm and
then we went to the hospital and my
contractions then were about 6 - 7 mins
apart, well we got there they checked me
and they sent me back home, so we get home
about 9:30 - 10 pm dh eats something I get
into the bath to help with my
contractions, we lay down about 11:30 and
dh wasn't asleep but maybe 15 - 30 mins
when I woke him up telling him that we had
to go now (lol) so we went and they kept
me there about 2:30 am wed morning I got
my epidural and a lil after 5 am I started
pushing my son out and I had him at 6:01
am wed morning (november 5th) he came on
his due date.
Well if you have any more questions feel
free to ask
there are people on this
site who arent in their teens anymore and
they give great advice like michelle1981
so unlike you she has sense and isnt as
ignorant like you
:evil:
sorry guys to jump back, but I just read
this thread.
and where is her baby while
shes at work, probablly at daycare!!!!!!
Why have a child if your gonna pay someone
else to raise it!! There better off
being put up for
adoption!!
i just have to say that i'm usually very
calm and patient with the girls on this
site.... But you have pissed me off!
35 years of age, I would not have even
guessed. Where is your maturity.....
Shoved very hard in your problem....????
I don't need to explain myself, but I
will.... Not for you but for the young
girls who may want to know.
I was 17 when I conceived my first son(7
years ago), married at 19, second son at
21, and hoping for a third. My husband
and I have been together for 8 beautiful
years.
Fyi chery, I don't work my husband does.
My oldest is in school and my youngest is
in p/t daycare because of developmental
delays.
I wouldn't have even thought about
adoption... Not saying that it's a bad
choice for some. Chery i'm glad you gave
yours up.... That child would definitely
have a better chance in life. I hope that
child will get to meet you one day so that
he/she will appreciate the adopted parents
much more. I don't think anyone on here
wants your advice.... Anyone?
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-05-05 12:24pm
Nope! And thank you for standing up up
for "young" mothers! It really helps alot
when a "use to be" who has made it in life
as we all hope in the beggening, stands up
for us who are still in the beggening of
every thing! Lol thank you.
I put my baby up for adoption because I
knew at a young age i'd be a caca mom, and
I sure as hell would rather see my baby
being raised by a loving family who cant
have children rather than at the time, a
young little girl who should of been more
careful about opening her legs.
I have no guilt for what i've done, i've
only learned from the experience I went
through & that only made me
stronger.
Ryansmommy16 for your information, you
promiscuous person.
My babys father committed suicide, I am
with a great guy, he may not be the father
but hey, he loves me & the baby I have
inside of my belly. I'm getting married
in a year or so, but I plan to wait until
I dont need parents consent unlike you.
I'm a big girl, I live on my own, go to
school & have a job.
You're not even old enough to move out,
you're in what 9th grade?
You don't even have a say in most things
adults say, because your just a child
yourself.
Don't judge me, I havent judged you, i'm
only going by what you've said about
yourself.
The people that work as social services in
your state must be real sh*tty at their
job.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-05-05 22:53pm
diamondsz
wrote:
why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
cause were not all stay at home moms, im
sorry I enjoy working and the money I get
goes to my child, daycare is actually good
for the child they get to interact with
other children.
In this day and age both parents work to
support there families if you dont agree
then that is your opinion but we have
reached a new era where one paycheck isnt
enough.
My husband makes more than enough but I
like working so I have extra cash for
myself so I can go out and actually enjoy
life whether it be with my daughter or
friends. I would never put my daughter
up for adoption and I wont be putting #2
up either, i'm 21 and I do a pretty
incredibly good job of raising my
daughter.
Dalicia lynn is doing something for
herslef besides living on welfare or tanif
whatever you call it in the states and I
give her credit that she actually
contributes to society and has a higher
level of maturity then some people....
If your going to give advice give
supportive advice instead of being
sour[/quote] do you think you kid really
cares about money or where it goes, i'm
sure your husbands check is enough to
provide your family with what you (need),
you say one paycheck these days isn't
enough, enough for what? For cable tv
(kids don't need that, they'd rather have
someone reading to them) a cool car,
flashy clothes? Thats the problem with
this world, young parents are selfish and
want too many material things that they
really don't need, and the children are
the ones suffering. Almost everyone I
know works and puts their kids in daycare,
and they all say the same thing, we can't
make it on one income. But I see all of
them have 2 cars (usually nice ones that
require hefty monthly payments) , they all
have cable tv, and usually when the come
home from work, either them or the kids
are in front of the tv. They constantly
go out to eat or order out because theyre
to tired to cook, because they worked all
day, and most of them don't even sit down
at the dinner table with there familys to
eat! It's really sad! Why can't your
child interact with other kids at home
with you? I always have other kids over,
or I take my kids to the park. You all
say the same thing (typical guilty
feelings from working moms) daycare is
good for the kids. Well I think if the
kids had any say, they'd say I want to be
with mommy all day instead of daycare.
Yes, they are socializing, but are they
feeling loved all day? I guess thats
just my opinion. I look at the world the
way it used to be , when mommys were
mommys, they stayed home and daddy went to
work , and back then there was so much
less anger and violence in the world.
Look at it now, people treat other human
beings like trash, like their disposable.
I think moms don't realize , that being
put in daycare is kind of like saying your
not important, my car is,etc. They can't
talk so we all think it's ok. But they
grow up angry and they probablly can't
even pinpoint why. I have always stayed
home, even when I was 16 and had my son, I
took care of a few other kids during the
day, that way I could help with bills and
my son got to interact, it worked out
good, and today my son 19 and I have a
good relationship (i can't say the same
for his real dad, hes always let him down)
, but my son doesn't drink , smoke, do
drugs, he's not perfect, but he has always
felt loved, and he has a lot of
confidence. I have 3 other kids now , and
I still stay home, we have one car, it's
old and paid for, we don't have paid tv,
we try not to order out to much, and we
don't charge anything. Whatever, it works
for me and I feel good about it.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-05-05 23:03pm
michelle1981
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
and where is her baby while
shes at work, probablly at daycare!!!!!!
Why have a child if your gonna pay
someone else to raise it!! There better
off being put up for
adoption!!
i just have to say that i'm usually very
calm and patient with the girls on this
site.... But you have pissed me off!
35 years of age, I would not have even
guessed. Where is your maturity.....
Shoved very hard in your problem....????
I don't need to explain myself, but I
will.... Not for you but for the young
girls who may want to know.
I was 17 when I conceived my first son(7
years ago), married at 19, second son at
21, and hoping for a third. My husband
and I have been together for 8 beautiful
years.
Fyi chery, I don't work my husband does.
My oldest is in school and my youngest is
in p/t daycare because of developmental
delays.
I wouldn't have even thought about
adoption... Not saying that it's a bad
choice for some. Chery i'm glad you gave
yours up.... That child would definitely
have a better chance in life. I hope
that child will get to meet you one day so
that he/she will appreciate the adopted
parents much more. I don't think anyone
on here wants your advice....
Anyone?
who said I gave my son
up? Your a looser.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-05-05 23:04pm
michelle1981
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
and where is her baby while
shes at work, probablly at daycare!!!!!!
Why have a child if your gonna pay
someone else to raise it!! There better
off being put up for
adoption!!
i just have to say that i'm usually very
calm and patient with the girls on this
site.... But you have pissed me off!
35 years of age, I would not have even
guessed. Where is your maturity.....
Shoved very hard in your problem....????
I don't need to explain myself, but I
will.... Not for you but for the young
girls who may want to know.
I was 17 when I conceived my first son(7
years ago), married at 19, second son at
21, and hoping for a third. My husband
and I have been together for 8 beautiful
years.
Fyi chery, I don't work my husband does.
My oldest is in school and my youngest is
in p/t daycare because of developmental
delays.
I wouldn't have even thought about
adoption... Not saying that it's a bad
choice for some. Chery i'm glad you gave
yours up.... That child would definitely
have a better chance in life. I hope
that child will get to meet you one day so
that he/she will appreciate the adopted
parents much more. I don't think anyone
on here wants your advice....
Anyone?
who said I gave my son
up? Your a looser.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-05-05 23:16pm
kristina86
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I
didn't realize it was only for kids?
My mom gets paid $900.00 a week at her
job and all she does is use the
internet!!!!!!!! Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its
called slang and I there is a spell check
on this site so if I wanted every single
word spelt the way it is suppose to I
would use it. And grown people can
use the net, but when it isnt for useful
things then they shouldnt even bother with
it. Like seriously what person
tells every person thats below a certain
age to put their child up for adoption.
There are people on this site who
arent in their teens anymore and they give
great advice like michelle1981 so unlike
you she has sense and isnt as ignorant
like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on
here asking for advice? Most of them
are asking for it from (other people who
have been there). I think past
experience and advice are useful things!
And I didn't tell every person under a
certain age to give up their child.
In some situations I think it's best for
the child. Like totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many
times you've told pregnant girls to not
keep their child and give it up for
adoption. And your basing your
experiences as though they would apply to
everyone. Just because u think you've
had it hard doesnt mean they will....Even
though I dont agree with everything
dalicialynn says, but take her for
example, 17 own place, job and has her
head on very straight. Im not saying
it will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your
own.
and where is her baby
while shes at work, probablly at
daycare!!!!!! Why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
huh...B/c some people need to work to pay
bills, you can't make money by just
sitting at home with your baby...If you
can let me know please. And how are
they raising the
baby
you can do what I did
when I was a teen mom, run a daycare, duh
! You can make money and be a mother! Or
are you not patient enough to do that, or
are you not willing to sacrifice your job
for your child to have a mom around?
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-05-05 23:17pm
kristina86
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I
didn't realize it was only for kids?
My mom gets paid $900.00 a week at her
job and all she does is use the
internet!!!!!!!! Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its
called slang and I there is a spell check
on this site so if I wanted every single
word spelt the way it is suppose to I
would use it. And grown people can
use the net, but when it isnt for useful
things then they shouldnt even bother with
it. Like seriously what person
tells every person thats below a certain
age to put their child up for adoption.
There are people on this site who
arent in their teens anymore and they give
great advice like michelle1981 so unlike
you she has sense and isnt as ignorant
like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on
here asking for advice? Most of them
are asking for it from (other people who
have been there). I think past
experience and advice are useful things!
And I didn't tell every person under a
certain age to give up their child.
In some situations I think it's best for
the child. Like totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many
times you've told pregnant girls to not
keep their child and give it up for
adoption. And your basing your
experiences as though they would apply to
everyone. Just because u think you've
had it hard doesnt mean they will....Even
though I dont agree with everything
dalicialynn says, but take her for
example, 17 own place, job and has her
head on very straight. Im not saying
it will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your
own.
and where is her baby
while shes at work, probablly at
daycare!!!!!! Why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
huh...B/c some people need to work to pay
bills, you can't make money by just
sitting at home with your baby...If you
can let me know please. And how are
they raising the
baby
you can do what I did
when I was a teen mom, run a daycare, duh
! You can make money and be a mother! Or
are you not patient enough to do that, or
are you not willing to sacrifice your job
for your child to have a mom around?
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-05-05 23:25pm
babyrae
wrote:
f**k your stupid! Someone
is not raising the other kid.. So do you
think the same way about when your kid
goes to school? That someone else is
raising them and teaching them? Cuz its
pretty much the same f**kin thing as u
b**tching about putting them in daycare.
Don't have anymore kids, in fact, dont
even be around kids. Your horrible a nd
can't even think straight. Your just
plain
stupid..
i'm horrible because I
think moms should stay home and raise
their kids? School is something they have
to do, and not until age 5. The years
before that are very important , thats
when there personalitys are developing,
thats when they develop a sense of
security. Obviously your mom threw your
ass in daycare, your a very angry person.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 11-05-05 23:48pm
Haha im an angry person? Your a person
who has problems. Here u say people work
just to get flashy clothes? Uh no! Two
people work so they can provide a house
for their child, some people need two
vehicles and I know that for a fact becuz
otherwise I couldnt get my child to
daycare so I could work, so I can provide
her with food, clothing, shelter and I get
to spoil her. U say its so wrong for a
child to go into daycare becuz thats when
they learn most? Well what the f*ck do u
think they do in daycare? My child has
learned many things in daycare. She has
made friends, has learned how to make
cookies and draw pictures for her mommy..
So dont try saying to me that I put my kid
in daycare cuz im selfish and want flashy
clothes. U honestly should have put your
son into adoptive care.. It seems you
have probably ruined his life with your
weird ideas and thoughts on life.. Its
more like your the selfish one.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 11-06-05 00:32am
cherylannb
wrote:
babyrae
wrote:
f**k your stupid! Someone
is not raising the other kid.. So do
you think the same way about when your kid
goes to school? That someone else is
raising them and teaching them? Cuz its
pretty much the same f**kin thing as u
b**tching about putting them in daycare.
Don't have anymore kids, in fact, dont
even be around kids. Your horrible a nd
can't even think straight. Your just
plain
stupid..
i'm horrible because I
think moms should stay home and raise
their kids? School is something they
have to do, and not until age 5. The
years before that are very important ,
thats when there personalitys are
developing, thats when they develop a
sense of security. Obviously your mom
threw your ass in daycare, your a very
angry person.
really, how can you tell that over the
internet?
Also, sometimes parents have no other
choice than to put their child in daycare,
that doesn't make them a bad parent, and
it's certainly not going to make the child
an "angry person."
i must have misread in anger.....
So you're giving this young girl advice on
something you know nothing about???
Why?... Because you regret leading your
life for your son at 16....
That sounds selfish to me!
If you wanted to have your life than you
should have kept your legs closed tight.
You sound like a horrible old hag! Get a
life, and stop feeling sorry for yourself!
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Dbaby
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Ohio
Posted: 11-06-05 13:30pm
I can relate to u alot~! I just turned 16
when I found out that I was pregnant. My
baby daddy was 19. The only way he will
get into trouble is if you or your parents
press changers and if your parents did all
you have to say it was consent and they
cant do a thing. They can not prove that
you were raped. My mom did that to me.
My baby daddy was in the army. He left
when I was one month pergant for the army.
Came back when I was 37 weeks. I was
alone the whole time. I bonded with my
daughter the whole time. She is all what
I had and I was all she had. I did not
intend to get pregant either but stuff
happens.I was a 4.0 student. I had
colleges looking at me from every where.
My baby daddy wanted me to have our baby
early so he could be here on her birth. I
had my daughter dec. 28 at 405 am. She
due date was jan. 12. My labor was not
hard. Just remember to breath with your
contractions, go with the flow, dont try
to make them go away or igrnoe them just
breath with them. They last any where
from 10 to 30 seconds. Every hour to five
mins. Dont be scared to get your pain
killers either. I waited until I was six
cemiters before I got mine. . . One
thing I will tell you is make sure you
want to stay with him for the rest of your
life and that he will treach you and your
baby great. I was to get married may of
2005 with my baby daddy. He left me and
my baby high and dry for a 14 year old
little girl when he is 20 in the army
never there so that little girl is going
to cheat on him and everything. The point
I am trying to make sure that is it the
best thing for you and the baby. Dont do
it cause u have a baby with him and that u
think you love him. Just dont make the
same mistake as me. Cause now I am going
to college and working full time and
trying to take care of a ten month old
baby that is walking and talking. It is
hard I will tell you this now. But in my
eyes she changed my life for the best I
would never change it for nothing. If you
ever need some one to talk to I am here.
You can ask me anything
