Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
I Was 15 And Pregnant.... Posted: 11-02-05 16:00pm
My name is nikki and I was 15 when I got
pregnant. I also got married at 15. At
the time my then bf was 18 also. I found
out the day before he was to be shipped
off to basic training for the sirforce
that I was pregnant. So I was the one who
ended up having to tell his family and my
mother about my being pregnant. We got
married when I was like 4 mt.S pregnant?
Im 17 now ( 18 jan. 8th ) and my daughter
is 19 mt.S old. We live in san antonio
texas 4 1/2 hr.S from freinds and family.
I love to give advice and help out with
what I can. Feel free to e mail me any
time at
blueflamed_boxers@yahoo.Com or im me
at blueflamed_boxers at yahoo messenger.
If you have any questions on any thing
please ask me! And congrats on the
pregnancy! Hope every thing in between
you and your bf get worked out, but dont
feel like you have to marry him right now
just because of you being pregnant. You
can waite if you feel its not time yet.
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-02-05 16:09pm
I really wasnt going to respond to
dalicialynn, but I had too....How do you
figure that given someones age will
atomatically make the hospital know that
he is over 18??? My mother knows another
lady with the exact same name first and
last and the exact same birthday year
month and date. So seriously you are
talking a whole lot of nothing. Your 17,
your deceased bf (sorry about your loss
though) was turning 18, were you going to
lie about his age? What about your
current bf? Cant he be put in jail
too???? And I think that the article you
showed someone in the family must have
turned him in. And maybe after the baby
was born they decided it was best for the
baby to have a father and so they gave
their consent. But I would like the
original website so I can look at it
myself. Thnx
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-02-05 16:13pm
What are you talking about? I dont get
what you were saying.. It made no sence
to me. Im still married to my husband.
We just had our two year annivercry. What
were you saying?
When they ask the name at the hospital,
they ask the age,birthdate and etc aswell.
They'll ask other questions about if hes
living with you, and if your getting any
benefits from the state. Etc.
In missouri 17 & 19 isn't illegal to
be together. You guys are making a huge
deal out of nothing and it's retarded.
Who gives a flying edit you'll see when it
happens.
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Baby_Girl12306
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Kansas City, Mo
Posted: 11-02-05 18:02pm
Well my parents know that he is 18 and he
is living with me so that makes a big
difference and I plan to keep my daughter
I havent even seen her yet besides
sonograms and she already means the world
to me and I have plenty of suport from my
family and I no that none of them are
gonna turn him in his mom doesnt like me
just because of my age but it oveously
doesnt matter to him his dad likes me we
go and see his dad almost every day and he
is like an hour to 2 hours away and at my
high school they have a daycare and I have
met the moms in there and their boyfriends
are older than mine and they are still
with them they arnt in jail and I no that
he wont go to jail because we have already
talk to a lawyer about it
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 11-02-05 18:03pm
They didn't ask me anything at the
hospital. I filled out the paperwork and
that was it. They never asked a word
about gov't asstiance or anything..
Stop trying to scare people. Do you know
how ridiculous you sound? Do you know
how many people would be in jail if that
were really the case?
They asked me all those questions at the
hospital.
Baby_girl12306
just for him living with you then you're
parents would be considered unfit. Most
likely your mom will loose you and you'll
have to go to a foster home.
Nobody can take away your child unless
you're considered as an unfit parent.
If my daughter was 15 and I let her 18-19
year old boyfriend live with us, I know
i'd get her taken away from me. That is
too crazy.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 11-02-05 19:13pm
Wow, you could not get any more
ignorant.
You're a 17 year old little girl, you
don't know what you're talking about, stop
feeding this girl edit lies.
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-02-05 19:26pm
Ok... I dont understand how this
conversation got started over age and the
father going to jail ect... I thought
this post was over a girl who was 15 when
she got pregnant and was woundering if any
one else had been 15 when it happened to
them? Am I totaly off? Can any one
explain why were talking about this and
scaring people? Im just woundering?
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-02-05 21:22pm
frantic4mommy
wrote:
what are you talking about?
I dont get what you were saying.. It
made no sence to me. Im still married to
my husband. We just had our two year
annivercry. What were you
saying?
im sry my response wasnt to you frantic.
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-02-05 21:27pm
frantic4mommy
wrote:
ok... I dont understand
how this conversation got started over age
and the father going to jail ect... I
thought this post was over a girl who was
15 when she got pregnant and was
woundering if any one else had been 15
when it happened to them? Am I totaly
off? Can any one explain why were
talking about this and scaring people?
Im just
woundering?
well the girl is 15 and the father of her
child is 18, she wants to get married
soon. But dalicialynn says in the state
of missouri, the father of the baby is
going to be thrown in jail when shes going
to the hospital. Everyone is telling
her that simply isnt true and she
(dalicialynn) wont let up.
I dont understand how when your 17 and
your with an 19 year old theres nothing
wrong with that but when your 15 possibly
turning 16 and with an 18 year old the
gov't is going to throw him in jail.
Thats a load of crap
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Re: 15 And Pregnant Posted: 11-02-05 22:04pm
baby_girl12306
wrote:
im 15 and 28 weeks pregnant
I didnt intend for this to happen I was
taking birth control. Im having a girl
im due on january 23,2006. I am still
with my soon to bes babys daddy we have
known each other for 3 year and almost
been together for 2 years off and on after
we found out that I was pregnant we split
up for a little while because he was
getting mad that I never wanted to do
anything because I had morning sickness
really bad. But we got back together he
is 18 we plan in getting married in april.
Any body else got any stories that
relate to this or been throught labor
already because that is what im scared
of.
if you absolutly want to
get married and raise your child together
you can legally get married without your
parents permission ( as long as you have
proof of pregnancy) in baltimore maryland.
Maybe in other states too. You also can
file a motion at your local probate court
office ( in the court house) to become an
amancipated minor, the girls at the desk
probablly will help you fill out the form.
This means even though your not an adult
, the courts will view you as one and
allow you to get married to your babys
father. You don't need a lawyer, once you
file the motion they will give you a
court date, and you can explain you
sitiuation to the judge. Saying that you
feel your mature enough for whatever
reasons you have, bla bla. You'll be o.K.
Also as long as you get pain medicine
(during labor) you won't feel any pain,
the shot hurts a bit, it's in your back,
but it's over quickly. I had to deliver
a 10.8 lb. Baby, naturally, because I
waited so long to go to the hospital, and
yes, i'm still alive, it took me 6 years
before I was brave enough to do it again!!
Good luck!
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Re: 15 And Pregnant Posted: 11-02-05 22:19pm
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
babyrae
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
baby_girl12306
wrote:
im 15 and 28 weeks pregnant
I didnt intend for this to happen I was
taking birth control. Im having a
girl im due on january 23,2006. I am
still with my soon to bes babys daddy we
have known each other for 3 year and
almost been together for 2 years off and
on after we found out that I was pregnant
we split up for a little while because he
was getting mad that I never wanted to do
anything because I had morning sickness
really bad. But we got back together
he is 18 we plan in getting married in
april. Any body else got any stories
that relate to this or been throught labor
already because that is what im scared
of.
put that baby up for
adoption, your to young, trust me I was 16
when I had my 1st child. I would have
saved him a lot of pain if I hadn't been
so selfish thinking everything would be
ok.
your in no place to tell her to put her
child up for adoption. So you regret
your choice.. And? That doesnt
mean she has to decide just cuz u feel a
certain way. Give her advice not tell
her what to f**kin
do.
ok, heres my
advice, "put that baby up for adoption,and
stop being so selfish"! Talk to other
adults that have been there,most will tell
you the same! Why are you asking other
teens for advice? They know as much as
you do. Don't you realize if a child
asks another child if he should eat candy
for breakfast, the other child will say
yes it's ok. But ask a responsible
adult and you will get a completly
different answer. Learn from others
mistakes, don't make your own. It's so
much easier. Go to barnes n noble, they
have a self help section with lots of good
books on this subject. Why do you think
they are writing these books? They are
trying to get through to people who don't
know the answers. Also check statistics
on how many teen marriages fail. You
don't have to belive me, it's in every
educated book out there, not in teen
magazine!
i think your being very closed minded.
Not every child will say that, my brother
is 10 and when others try to get him to do
something wrong he has a common sence to
do the right thing. If she feels she can
in no way take care of this child why
would she keep it? Why didnt you ask
people for advice and give your child up
for adoption? Why didnt you go to barns
and nobles? Why didnt you take care of a
newborn for at least 5-6 hours when you
found out you were pregnant. And many of
the people on the board are well set and
well prepared. They may not be married
and they may not be as old as you, but
they are determined to love and care for
their child and not take an easy way out.
And if you look at the stats many adult
marriages end in divorce many. I do
agree that she should read up on it before
having the baby so she knows what shes
getting herself into, but dont try and
discourage her, thats the last thing she
needs at this
point.
I didn't ask people
for advice, because I was sixteen scared
and didn't want anyone to know, and I
couldn't ask anyone online because there
was no internet, this was 19 years ago,
she has resources! Also, there was no
barnes n noble. I went to the library,
but information was scarce about this
subject back then. And I didn't know
anyone with a newborn or small children at
the time, anyone in my family wouldn't
have left a newborn alone with any 16
year old anyway, thats just how most
people are. I had to learn the hard way.
Kids now, have hundreds of ways to seek
help or advice discretly, and I think they
should do it.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-02-05 22:37pm
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women shouldn't
use the internet? I didn't realize it was
only for kids? My mom gets paid $900.00 a
week at her job and all she does is use
the internet!!!!!!!! Get a clue !
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Re: 15 And Pregnant Posted: 11-02-05 22:37pm
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
babyrae
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
baby_girl12306
wrote:
im 15 and 28 weeks pregnant
I didnt intend for this to happen I was
taking birth control. Im having a
girl im due on january 23,2006. I
am still with my soon to bes babys daddy
we have known each other for 3 year and
almost been together for 2 years off and
on after we found out that I was pregnant
we split up for a little while because he
was getting mad that I never wanted to do
anything because I had morning sickness
really bad. But we got back
together he is 18 we plan in getting
married in april. Any body else got
any stories that relate to this or been
throught labor already because that is
what im scared
of.
put that baby up for
adoption, your to young, trust me I was 16
when I had my 1st child. I would
have saved him a lot of pain if I hadn't
been so selfish thinking everything would
be ok.
listen to the last thing you said no one
would give a newborn to a 16 year old, yet
you expect them to give it to a 15 year
old. Lol
your in no place to tell her to put her
child up for adoption. So you regret
your choice.. And? That doesnt
mean she has to decide just cuz u feel a
certain way. Give her advice not tell
her what to f**kin
do.
ok, heres my
advice, "put that baby up for adoption,and
stop being so selfish"! Talk to other
adults that have been there,most will tell
you the same! Why are you asking other
teens for advice? They know as much as
you do. Don't you realize if a child
asks another child if he should eat candy
for breakfast, the other child will say
yes it's ok. But ask a responsible
adult and you will get a completly
different answer. Learn from others
mistakes, don't make your own. It's so
much easier. Go to barnes n noble,
they have a self help section with lots of
good books on this subject. Why do you
think they are writing these books?
They are trying to get through to people
who don't know the answers. Also check
statistics on how many teen marriages
fail. You don't have to belive me,
it's in every educated book out there, not
in teen
magazine!
i think your being very closed minded.
Not every child will say that, my brother
is 10 and when others try to get him to do
something wrong he has a common sence to
do the right thing. If she feels she
can in no way take care of this child why
would she keep it? Why didnt you ask
people for advice and give your child up
for adoption? Why didnt you go to barns
and nobles? Why didnt you take care of
a newborn for at least 5-6 hours when you
found out you were pregnant. And many
of the people on the board are well set
and well prepared. They may not be
married and they may not be as old as you,
but they are determined to love and care
for their child and not take an easy way
out. And if you look at the stats many
adult marriages end in divorce many. I
do agree that she should read up on it
before having the baby so she knows what
shes getting herself into, but dont try
and discourage her, thats the last thing
she needs at this
point.
I didn't ask people
for advice, because I was sixteen scared
and didn't want anyone to know, and I
couldn't ask anyone online because there
was no internet, this was 19 years ago,
she has resources! Also, there was no
barnes n noble. I went to the library,
but information was scarce about this
subject back then. And I didn't know
anyone with a newborn or small children at
the time, anyone in my family wouldn't
have left a newborn alone with any 16
year old anyway, thats just how most
people are. I had to learn the hard
way. Kids now, have hundreds of ways to
seek help or advice discretly, and I think
they should do
it.
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-02-05 22:42pm
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I didn't
realize it was only for kids? My mom
gets paid $900.00 a week at her job and
all she does is use the internet!!!!!!!!
Get a clue !
lol, simple words? Im sorry its called
slang and I there is a spell check on this
site so if I wanted every single word
spelt the way it is suppose to I would use
it. And grown people can use the net,
but when it isnt for useful things then
they shouldnt even bother with it. Like
seriously what person tells every person
thats below a certain age to put their
child up for adoption. There are people
on this site who arent in their teens
anymore and they give great advice like
michelle1981 so unlike you she has sense
and isnt as ignorant like you :evil:
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-02-05 23:13pm
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I didn't
realize it was only for kids? My mom
gets paid $900.00 a week at her job and
all she does is use the internet!!!!!!!!
Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its called
slang and I there is a spell check on this
site so if I wanted every single word
spelt the way it is suppose to I would use
it. And grown people can use the net,
but when it isnt for useful things then
they shouldnt even bother with it. Like
seriously what person tells every person
thats below a certain age to put their
child up for adoption. There are people
on this site who arent in their teens
anymore and they give great advice like
michelle1981 so unlike you she has sense
and isnt as ignorant like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on here
asking for advice? Most of them are
asking for it from (other people who have
been there). I think past experience and
advice are useful things! And I didn't
tell every person under a certain age to
give up their child. In some situations I
think it's best for the child. Like
totally ya know!!
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-03-05 00:16am
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I didn't
realize it was only for kids? My mom
gets paid $900.00 a week at her job and
all she does is use the internet!!!!!!!!
Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its called
slang and I there is a spell check on this
site so if I wanted every single word
spelt the way it is suppose to I would use
it. And grown people can use the net,
but when it isnt for useful things then
they shouldnt even bother with it.
Like seriously what person tells every
person thats below a certain age to put
their child up for adoption. There are
people on this site who arent in their
teens anymore and they give great advice
like michelle1981 so unlike you she has
sense and isnt as ignorant like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on here
asking for advice? Most of them are
asking for it from (other people who have
been there). I think past experience and
advice are useful things! And I didn't
tell every person under a certain age to
give up their child. In some situations
I think it's best for the child. Like
totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many times
you've told pregnant girls to not keep
their child and give it up for adoption.
And your basing your experiences as though
they would apply to everyone. Just
because u think you've had it hard doesnt
mean they will....Even though I dont agree
with everything dalicialynn says, but take
her for example, 17 own place, job and has
her head on very straight. Im not saying
it will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your own.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Posted: 11-03-05 08:51am
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I didn't
realize it was only for kids? My mom
gets paid $900.00 a week at her job and
all she does is use the internet!!!!!!!!
Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its
called slang and I there is a spell check
on this site so if I wanted every single
word spelt the way it is suppose to I
would use it. And grown people can
use the net, but when it isnt for useful
things then they shouldnt even bother with
it. Like seriously what person tells
every person thats below a certain age to
put their child up for adoption.
There are people on this site who arent in
their teens anymore and they give great
advice like michelle1981 so unlike you she
has sense and isnt as ignorant like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on here
asking for advice? Most of them are
asking for it from (other people who have
been there). I think past experience
and advice are useful things! And I
didn't tell every person under a certain
age to give up their child. In some
situations I think it's best for the
child. Like totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many times
you've told pregnant girls to not keep
their child and give it up for adoption.
And your basing your experiences as though
they would apply to everyone. Just
because u think you've had it hard doesnt
mean they will....Even though I dont agree
with everything dalicialynn says, but take
her for example, 17 own place, job and has
her head on very straight. Im not saying
it will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your
own.
and where is her baby
while shes at work, probablly at
daycare!!!!!! Why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 11-03-05 09:41am
Edit! Someone is not raising the other
kid.. So do you think the same way about
when your kid goes to school? That
someone else is raising them and teaching
them? Cuz its pretty much the same edit
thing as u edit about putting them in
daycare. Don't have anymore kids, in
fact, dont even be around kids. Your
horrible and can't even think straight.
Your just plain stupid..
