Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-03-05 12:42pm
Thank you 19mommy for explaining what was
going to me! Lol I was 15 when I got
pregnant, and the only way my now husband
would have gone to jail was if my mother
filed charges agent him with or with out
my premition. Or since he was in the
military they could have done it with out
us knowing, thats why we got married so
soon because they could not say any thing
about it then. In sone stats yes you can
get married while pregnant at a young age,
my mom signed the papers for me to get
married. But in no state can the man get
throughn in jail for being 18 and messing
with a 15 year old with out some one
fileing agenst him. Or the girl filing
statuary (sp) rape. If that was the case
o my gosh how many people would be sex
offenders?! Im not saing what happend to
you in the hoosy isnt true im just saying
they couldnt have done any thing with out
some one else tring to. Im sure that
thier not going to just take away a young
father from his new family because he's to
old for you, thats your and your parents
dession. I was scared shitless when all
this started happening to me when I was
15, im sure this gir is to, give her
support and advice not try to stress her
out even more then she already is. She
tring to plan her future, hormones going
crazy any ways, werried about what people
are thinking of her, still having the teen
life ect.... And then she hears that the
person who helpd her begain this life
inside of her is going to go to jail and
she cant to any thing? When is is suppost
to be the one there helping her along?
What is she suppost to do now!?!? Dont
say things like that unless you know for a
fact that that is what is going to happen
in her situation. Again she need suppost
right now, not to be scared shitless.
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-03-05 12:56pm
And every one has a diffrent maturity
level. Some people shouldnt even think
about having a boy friend/ girlfriend. I
have alot of friends who are having kids
and I feel so sorry for the baby because
thier parents are way to immature to have
a child and time soon. And most of them
are older then me! Im 17 married have a
nice 3 bed room house. My husband is in
the military, and when he gets home I go
and work for 4 hours and make a bit more
then half what he makes. Not every
teenager are irrresponcible (sp) people!
Some people lean from thier mistakes some
dont. When I was pregnant I want to talk
to other teens in my situation, it helpd
me along alot. And no one should tell
some that they dont even know to get an
abortion because your to young because I
was to young. Thats wrong, again not
every ones situation is the same as yours!
You need to look at her exact situation,
maturity level, relationship, money
buesness ect... Before you can tell them
what they have to do! Again this board is
suppost to be supporting people and
telling them thier options. Im the reason
she hasnt even written back on this board
is because she doesnt want listen to all
the caca. Im tring to get over the damn
teen parent sterotyping, and for awile I
forgot why the stero type was the way it
was because I was talking to alot of
mature loving responcible teen parents but
on this board reminds me what I have to
show my life style off so that maybe not
every one will look at every teen parent
and think that thier a peace of caca, and
that they dont know how to take care of a
baby, or that that dont care for thier
child right. Im tired of people looking
at me like that when im far beyound that!
And its people like some of yall on here
thats making a bad name for all teen
parents.
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-03-05 13:37pm
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I
didn't realize it was only for kids?
My mom gets paid $900.00 a week at her
job and all she does is use the
internet!!!!!!!! Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its
called slang and I there is a spell check
on this site so if I wanted every single
word spelt the way it is suppose to I
would use it. And grown people can
use the net, but when it isnt for useful
things then they shouldnt even bother with
it. Like seriously what person tells
every person thats below a certain age to
put their child up for adoption.
There are people on this site who arent in
their teens anymore and they give great
advice like michelle1981 so unlike you she
has sense and isnt as ignorant like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on
here asking for advice? Most of them
are asking for it from (other people who
have been there). I think past
experience and advice are useful things!
And I didn't tell every person under a
certain age to give up their child. In
some situations I think it's best for the
child. Like totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many
times you've told pregnant girls to not
keep their child and give it up for
adoption. And your basing your
experiences as though they would apply to
everyone. Just because u think you've
had it hard doesnt mean they will....Even
though I dont agree with everything
dalicialynn says, but take her for
example, 17 own place, job and has her
head on very straight. Im not saying it
will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your
own.
and where is her baby
while shes at work, probablly at
daycare!!!!!! Why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
i believe her baby is still in her uterus
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-03-05 13:41pm
babyrae
wrote:
f**k your stupid! Someone
is not raising the other kid.. So do you
think the same way about when your kid
goes to school? That someone else is
raising them and teaching them? Cuz its
pretty much the same f**kin thing as u
b**tching about putting them in daycare.
Don't have anymore kids, in fact, dont
even be around kids. Your horrible and
can't even think straight. Your just
plain
stupid..
what your saying is sooooo darn smart. So
if she was in the hospital and her husband
was working would she give her kids up for
adoption because she isnt there to take
care of them? People have school and jobs
that they have to do inorder to provide
their child with atleast a decent life and
shes talking about daycare being an
irresponsible way to raise children...fool
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mama0789
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 19 Location: blue island IL
Posted: 11-03-05 13:46pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
1. You're 15 and wanting
to get married? Uh yeah okay.
2. Your boyfriend's age & yours is
illegal, which means when you give the
hospital the fathers name they'll arrest
him for child molestation in the 2nd
degree.
well with that I was 15 and my now ex
boyfriend was 18, there really nothing
they can do out that because my mom tryed
to, and I gave the hospital his info to an
at the time I was 16(april 7) when my son
was born and he was 19 going to be 20 in
nov, they didnt do nothing. And also if
her mom knows about it and says its ok
then there noting that they will say,
becase my friend reda is 16 and her baby
daddy is 21 and they didnt do nothing, but
im not trying to put anyone down bout
this, but this is what I know b/c I done
it.
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mama0789
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 19 Location: blue island IL
Posted: 11-03-05 13:59pm
kourtney08
wrote:
you're wrong, wrong, wrong,
wrong.
The end, theres no way around it.
I know plenty girls from missouri, I can
have some from another board come on over
here and talk to you.
They will not, and can not press charges
against him, her parents can though.
She's 15, he's 18, they've been together 3
years.
Think about it sweetie.
Seriously.
sorry to jump in but if you are 3 years
apart then theres nothing the cops can do,
and tyey are 3 years apart, so you are
right!!!!!
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mama0789
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 19 Location: blue island IL
Posted: 11-03-05 14:05pm
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I
didn't realize it was only for kids?
My mom gets paid $900.00 a week at her
job and all she does is use the
internet!!!!!!!! Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its
called slang and I there is a spell check
on this site so if I wanted every single
word spelt the way it is suppose to I
would use it. And grown people can
use the net, but when it isnt for useful
things then they shouldnt even bother with
it. Like seriously what person
tells every person thats below a certain
age to put their child up for adoption.
There are people on this site who
arent in their teens anymore and they give
great advice like michelle1981 so unlike
you she has sense and isnt as ignorant
like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on
here asking for advice? Most of them
are asking for it from (other people who
have been there). I think past
experience and advice are useful things!
And I didn't tell every person under a
certain age to give up their child.
In some situations I think it's best for
the child. Like totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many
times you've told pregnant girls to not
keep their child and give it up for
adoption. And your basing your
experiences as though they would apply to
everyone. Just because u think you've
had it hard doesnt mean they will....Even
though I dont agree with everything
dalicialynn says, but take her for
example, 17 own place, job and has her
head on very straight. Im not saying
it will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your
own.
and where is her baby
while shes at work, probablly at
daycare!!!!!! Why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
i believe her baby is still in her
uterus
i dont want to say that anyone worng here,
but dont tell that girl to give here baby
away, b/c none of you guys know her, b/c
everyone I know told me to do that, and
you want to know what if I did give my
little boy away I would have never ment my
best friend nor one of the best guys in my
life!!! So please dont tell her what she
sold do with her life, she can do wat she
wants!!!!
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Kimwall27606
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 33 Location: raleigh nc
Chill Out Posted: 11-03-05 14:25pm
Most of you girls on here are just arguing
about things that you will never settle
this girl came on here to get advice not
drama im pretty sure she doesnt' want to
read your arguments she already has enough
things to worry about
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-03-05 14:39pm
Thank you and I agree with you 100%
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ryansmommy16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 72 Location: alabama
Stop Trashing Young Mothers! Posted: 11-03-05 15:10pm
Ok for the peope that keep putting down
the 15 y/o pregnant chic by an older guy I
just want you to know... I'm 16 I have a
7 month old I have been married for 1 year
2 months. I got pregnant at 15 I got
married at 15! My husband was 18. I went
out of state to get married and my parents
didn't even have to sign. They knew
nothing about it. And guess what? I'm
pregnant again! Yep caca happens. And
just b/c she is young what right does
anyone have to tell her to give the baby
up? Well let me tell you something I
would have never gave my son up and the
first person that would have told me to do
it I would say go to hell 2 them! I
wouldn't take anything for my son nor do
anything different. Just because we are
young doesn't mean we can't be good
mommies. My son gets everything he needs
we pay for everything he has never went
without. But anyways I just read all this
bs and had to put my 2 cents in.. Girl,
if you want to talk my e-mail is tiffson1
5@yahoo.Com. I would suggest not
listen to all these negative comments.
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madremajikGal17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Puyallup, WA
Posted: 11-03-05 17:31pm
Yeh...To the lady who keeps going on about
how she wants all teen moms to put their
baby up for adoption because had she done
it, her son would've been spared a lot of
pain...I've gotta say you're entirely
right...In your case only...Your son
prolly would have been a whole lot better
off not being raised by you!!! One of the
big reasons being that you've prolly felt
this way for awhile...How do you think he
feels knowing his mom wishes she'd given
him away? How do you think he feels
knowing that his mom is telling other
girls to give their baby up for adoption
because raising him was so difficult and
horrible...
Honestly...As long as they don't make
their kids feel like that, they're a whole
lot more qualified to be mothers than you
ever were!!!
Bottom line is...Just because you're
a horrible, resentful woman who seems to
blame all of her troubles on her son,
doesn't mean that teens can't be good
moms!!! I for one know for a fact that
i'll be a better mother than you, cause my
baby is wanted, and I will never, ever let
her think otherwise!!!!
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-03-05 18:44pm
Exactley, thank you im glad that there are
a few more people that agree with me. Not
all teen parents are horrable mothers, or
wish they could go back and give thier
baby away. I dont know what I would do if
any thing ever happened to my daughter. I
do not regret anything that has had to do
with her. And would go back and do it all
again. We support our daughter, she has
every thing she would ever need and want
including a loving caring stable family.
I know im a great mother, and my husband
is a great father. And when any one see's
our daughter that can tell that she is
very well taking care of and loved. Even
though we are "young" parents.
Re: Stop Trashing Young Mothers! Posted: 11-03-05 20:49pm
ryansmommy16
wrote:
ok for the peope that keep
putting down the 15 y/o pregnant chic by
an older guy I just want you to know...
I'm 16 I have a 7 month old I have been
married for 1 year 2 months. I got
pregnant at 15 I got married at 15! My
husband was 18. I went out of state to
get married and my parents didn't even
have to sign. They knew nothing about
it. And guess what? I'm pregnant
again! Yep caca happens. And just
b/c she is young what right does anyone
have to tell her to give the baby up?
Well let me tell you something I would
have never gave my son up and the first
person that would have told me to do it I
would say go to hell 2 them! I wouldn't
take anything for my son nor do anything
different. Just because we are young
doesn't mean we can't be good mommies.
My son gets everything he needs we pay for
everything he has never went without.
But anyways I just read all this bs and
had to put my 2 cents in.. Girl, if you
want to talk my e-mail is tiffson1
5@yahoo.Com. I would suggest not
listen to all these negative
comments.
close your legs and edit.
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ryansmommy16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 72 Location: alabama
Posted: 11-03-05 22:28pm
Well honey as everyone knows you only have
to have sex once and get pregnant. It's
not like i'm a editthat goes around
sleeping with tons of men. I have only
had sex with my husband ever! As for you
I bet you can't say the same can you? Ha
ha do you not have anything better than
get on here and trash people that are
looking for advice. What the editare you
doing here anyway? Well as for keeping
my legs close that's my choice and we have
the resources to provide for another
child. We are not getting help from the
state. Can you say the same. Uh I
think not. People like you disgust
me..Your the edit who needs to edit
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ryansmommy16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 72 Location: alabama
Sooo Funny! Posted: 11-03-05 22:36pm
Ha ha your so funny. Well for your
information it only takes one time to get
pregnant and my legs didn't even have to
be open. Lol. Well anyways why are you
getting off on on thrashing ppl on here.
Don't you know ppl come her for advice.
So what the hell are you doing here. Also
know this... It's not like i've slept
with a ton of me I have only been with my
husband ever! Can you say the same? I
thought not. You don't bother me with
your childish comments. It's actually
quite funny. Thanks for giving me a good
laugh over your stupid ass. Oh also if I
want to have another baby it's my business
and it's not like be don't have the
resources to provide for it. We are not
getting any help from the state can you
say they same???? Thought not. So don't
even bother replying..
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ryansmommy16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 72 Location: alabama
Posted: 11-03-05 22:40pm
Well I thought that that post didn't go
through so I wrote another one almost
exactly like it so if anyone was
wondering..
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-03-05 22:45pm
Yeah again this board is for support, not
getting off on putting people down who
come here tell thier story and asking
advice or for friends.
well honey as everyone knows
you only have to have sex once and get
pregnant. It's not like i'm a
prostitute that goes around sleeping with
tons of men. I have only had sex with
my husband ever! As for you I bet you
can't say the same can you? Ha ha do
you not have anything better than get on
here and trash people that are looking for
advice. What the medical answer are
you doing here anyway? Well as for
keeping my legs close that's my choice and
we have the resources to provide for
another child. We are not getting
help from the state. Can you say the
same. Uh I think not. People like
you disgust me..Your the b*tch who needs
to shut the !@#^
up.
you dont even know me, I know from what
youve told everyone.
Edit
i can say the same, im actually very proud
of myself for what im becoming in life, im
pregnant & can provide for myself
& my baby. I dont need to get
married at 15 for a guy to help support
me.
Sorry, but at 15 you dont even know what
love is lol.
Nothing lasts forever edit hope ya realize
that before you're head gets too edit
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diamondsz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2005 Posts: 3250 Location: , Candyland-Canada
Thanks: 87
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Posted: 11-04-05 08:48am
Why have a child if your gonna pay someone
else to raise it!! There better off
being put up for adoption!![/quote]
cause were not all stay at home moms, im
sorry I enjoy working and the money I get
goes to my child, daycare is actually good
for the child they get to interact with
other children.
In this day and age both parents work to
support there families if you dont agree
then that is your opinion but we have
reached a new era where one paycheck isnt
enough.
My husband makes more than enough but I
like working so I have extra cash for
myself so I can go out and actually enjoy
life whether it be with my daughter or
friends. I would never put my daughter
up for adoption and I wont be putting #2
up either, i'm 21 and I do a pretty
incredibly good job of raising my
daughter.
Dalicia lynn is doing something for
herslef besides living on welfare or tanif
whatever you call it in the states and I
give her credit that she actually
contributes to society and has a higher
level of maturity then some people....
If your going to give advice give
supportive advice instead of being sour
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ryansmommy16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 72 Location: alabama
Posted: 11-04-05 09:33am
Oh, i'm a promiscuous person well if you
think that I guess that's fine. You don't
know me either. I have been with my
babies father since I was 10. I didn't
just marry him for support.We were and
still are in love. Plus I didn't need
him my family would have supported me.
Love must not be something you know about
or something. It is possible for a 15
year old to know love, age is just a
number and I am more mature than you
clearly b/c I didn't get on her putting
ppl down when they were looking for
advice. If I didn't think we would last
why would I have wasted my time getting
married. My head is not messed up. But
it seems like your is. Sorry but you need
to grow up! Just leave it at this you
don't have a clue what my life is like and
I don't care about your. Again you don't
bother me health forum please!
