Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-04-05 13:34pm
Who really kows what love is?! I got
doing it married at 15 and im almost 18,
im happy my daughter is happy and so is my
husband! Maybe you didnt know what the
medical question love was at 15 because
you you were to damn immature! From how
you are talking now you still sound to
damn immature to have a child as your
responcibility! And as for haveing a
child in day care, most parents have thier
child in day care so that they can support
thier family! Not every mother stays at
home with thier chaild any more, im sure
alot want to! But to be able to have
extra money and be able to buy thier
children what they want them to have
people need to work. And yes kids need
too go to day care and get social skills!
Damn thats commin since! Both on what
im writing about is commin since!!!
Again you sound to immature to be giving
any advice at all much less on children
and thier well being. For you to go off
and tell some one they need to put thiner
un born child up for adoption because
thier not "old" enough?!?! what not
every human being is as immature,
irresponsible as you still are. Age
doesnt, or should really matter any more
as long as you are in a good situation,
mature and responcible enough for the roll
your taking apon your self. I know not
every one's situation is the same and
diffrent options are the best for diffrent
situations. But that still dose not give
any one the right to tell some one to get
an abortion because of your age! You
listen to thier situation carefully, and
then give them your openion (sp) and
explain why you think that! So that when
they do come down to needing to pick what
thier going to do they can look back at
what you said and what others said look at
thier induvuidal (sp) situation and see
what they think is best, not get an
abortion because your to young and at 15
you dont even know what love is! What
ever! If your doing nothing but sperding
negitives why are you on this board?!
This is an advice and support board!
Even the 13 year old who wants a baby
souldnt just be health forum at, she need
to be told how it really is, and every
thing she has to have to be planning for a
baby. Talking gets through alot better
then hurrassing and putting people down.
Thats almost makes them want to do it more
and some times make bad mistakes that they
cant ever take back.
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seksiHily
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
Re: 15 And Pregnant Posted: 11-04-05 13:47pm
cherylannb
wrote:
baby_girl12306
wrote:
im 15 and 28 weeks pregnant
I didnt intend for this to happen I was
taking birth control. Im having a girl
im due on january 23,2006. I am still
with my soon to bes babys daddy we have
known each other for 3 year and almost
been together for 2 years off and on after
we found out that I was pregnant we split
up for a little while because he was
getting mad that I never wanted to do
anything because I had morning sickness
really bad. But we got back together
he is 18 we plan in getting married in
april. Any body else got any stories
that relate to this or been throught labor
already because that is what im scared
of.
put that baby up for
adoption, your to young, trust me I was 16
when I had my 1st child. I would have
saved him a lot of pain if I hadn't been
so selfish thinking everything would be
ok.
alright I havent been around so expect
alot of replies from me suddenly
im glad you admit *your* a editmom and
cant take care of your kid, maybe you
should do him and give him up now.
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seksiHily
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
Posted: 11-04-05 13:49pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
yeah, give your babys
father's name to the hospital when they
ask, it's their job in every state it's
illegal in to report something like
that.
I'm telling you, they'll go after him
& arrest him if he doesnt run.
I've seen it happen so many times, so to
be honest, think about it all before you
act. Do some research to help you
understand better.
If my mom worked on a case like that,
she'd loose her job if she didn't report
it, for the simple fact that it's illegal
in the state i'm in. But if its not
illegal in the state your in, which you
can find out online by researching, then
your probably safe.
But the girl who made this post, is from
my state & isnt very far from
me.
ok your mother whose own daughter./..
Yeah....
Ok not even going into it....
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ryansmommy16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 72 Location: alabama
Posted: 11-04-05 18:17pm
Don't young mothers already have a hard
time with criticism? Why should they get
put down when they go outside of the ppl
in their lives for advice? They are
clearly needing help if they can't get it
from ppl closest to them. It's actually
kind of sad that ppl get their kicks out
of harassing troubled ppl through the
internet. I bet your a fun person to be
around. Yea rught. Do you not have any
friends and have to get on her put ppl
down to make yourself feel better? Oh
and dalicialynn aren't you pregnant?
Edit you should have kept your legs
close.. Doesn't feel good does it??
Hahaha lmao>>>
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:20pm
Hi, I am 19 now and pregnant with #2. I
got pregnant with my first, my son with I
was 15 about to be 16, he is now about to
be 3 tomorrow (november 5th). I met my
husband when I was 14 he just turned 21,
yes I know 14 is a young age, but growing
up the way I did I matured a lot faster
then kids my age, so I always hung out
with the older crowd.
When I did find out I was prengnant with
my son me and my now husband were both
scared but we both got over that, I new he
was not going to leave me b/c for one
thing I ran away when I was 15 and I left
with him so he would not of taken me and
got in trouble by the cops if he really
didn't love me. Well when I told my mom
that I was pregnant she old me to get an
abortion I told her he!! No I could not
kill a baby like that, then she said for
me to put my child up for adoption and and
I looked at her and almost slaped her she
knew that I would never do that, I could
never put my child up for adoption and
have somebody else out there rasing my
child. Well once she got all that through
her head that I was not going to do any of
those she came to love my baby, and now he
is her world.
Now for labor we had just moved in to an
apt on a friday and my due date was that
coming tuesday (november 5th) well come
sunday night (11 pm)i start to have
contractions but they were like 45 mins to
an hour apart, so I laid down and went to
sleep, when my husband got up at 7am to go
to work I woke up to and my contractions
were still there and they were about 30
mins - 45 mins apart, so when I mom called
me at 8 am I told her and she said that
she would leave work early to come home so
my husband could stay at work, so she gets
home about 1:30 monday afternoon and my
contractions where about 25 - 30 mons
apart then, so when my husband got home
around 6 pm that night they were about 7 -
10 mins apart so we waited until 8 pm and
then we went to the hospital and my
contractions then were about 6 - 7 mins
apart, well we got there they checked me
and they sent me back home, so we get home
about 9:30 - 10 pm dh eats something I get
into the bath to help with my
contractions, we lay down about 11:30 and
dh wasn't asleep but maybe 15 - 30 mins
when I woke him up telling him that we had
to go now (lol) so we went and they kept
me there about 2:30 am wed morning I got
my epidural and a lil after 5 am I started
pushing my son out and I had him at 6:01
am wed morning (november 5th) he came on
his due date.
Well if you have any more questions feel
free to ask
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:26pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
1. You're 15 and wanting
to get married? Uh yeah okay.
2. Your boyfriend's age & yours is
illegal, which means when you give the
hospital the fathers name they'll arrest
him for child molestation in the 2nd
degree.
not in ever state, I was 16 when I had my
shild and my husband was 23. And when I
ran away with him my mom found my journal
that even said that we have been having
sex and she took it to the judge and they
could not do anything about it, unles I
got up there and said he forced himself on
me....So you may what to check the laws in
your state, and just b/c you give the
hospital the fathers name does not mean he
is going to get arrested....All that is
for is for the birth certificate so they
know who to put on it
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:28pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
she is a child?
The state will find out because she has to
give them the fathers name when she gives
birth, if the father does not live with
her, he'll have to pay child support.
The hospital nurse she has will report it
to social services because thats their job
to do so, its not up to the parents, if
the law finds out he's messed.
It depends the age difference to say it's
child molestation or statutory rape.
End of
read my post above......And just b/c the
father does not live with them does not
mean anything, it is up to the mother of
the baby if she wants to file for child
support not the nurse, nowmaybe the nurse
will ask the mother but they can't do
anything about it unless the mother of the
baby says so
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:30pm
kourtney08
wrote:
dalicialynn
wrote:
1. You're 15 and wanting
to get married? Uh yeah okay.
2. Your boyfriend's age & yours is
illegal, which means when you give the
hospital the fathers name they'll arrest
him for child molestation in the 2nd
degree.
1. Bullhealth question.
2. Bullhealth question
are you !@#^ing kidding me? You think
after her pushing out a baby they're going
to call the cops and have him arrested?
You're out your mind.
Do you know how many underage girls I know
that slept with 19, and 18 year olds?
Infact, I know of one that just had her
daughter a couple days ago.
You're talking out of your ass, don't
scare this girl. I don't agree with 15
year olds wanting to get pregnant, but
this girl was obviously trying to prevent
it.
You're only 17 years old, so don't even
act like you're better than her.
That health question was
ridiculous.
*claps* very well said and I agree
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Re: 15 And Pregnant Posted: 11-04-05 18:34pm
cherylannb
wrote:
babyrae
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
baby_girl12306
wrote:
im 15 and 28 weeks pregnant
I didnt intend for this to happen I was
taking birth control. Im having a
girl im due on january 23,2006. I am
still with my soon to bes babys daddy we
have known each other for 3 year and
almost been together for 2 years off and
on after we found out that I was pregnant
we split up for a little while because he
was getting mad that I never wanted to do
anything because I had morning sickness
really bad. But we got back together
he is 18 we plan in getting married in
april. Any body else got any stories
that relate to this or been throught labor
already because that is what im scared
of.
put that baby up for
adoption, your to young, trust me I was 16
when I had my 1st child. I would have
saved him a lot of pain if I hadn't been
so selfish thinking everything would be
ok.
your in no place to tell her to put her
child up for adoption. So you regret
your choice.. And? That doesnt mean
she has to decide just cuz u feel a
certain way. Give her advice not tell
her what to f**kin
do.
ok, heres my
advice, "put that baby up for adoption,and
stop being so selfish"! Talk to other
adults that have been there,most will tell
you the same! Why are you asking other
teens for advice? They know as much as
you do. Don't you realize if a child
asks another child if he should eat candy
for breakfast, the other child will say
yes it's ok. But ask a responsible
adult and you will get a completly
different answer. Learn from others
mistakes, don't make your own. It's so
much easier. Go to barnes n noble, they
have a self help section with lots of good
books on this subject. Why do you think
they are writing these books? They are
trying to get through to people who don't
know the answers. Also check statistics
on how many teen marriages fail. You
don't have to belive me, it's in every
educated book out there, not in teen
magazine!
ok I am 19 and I have been through this so
I think what I have to say would help.
Why do you need to read a book to tell you
want to do with your own life, that is why
we live in the usa so we can have our
freedom, so we don't have to listen to to
what people think we should do with our
lives, we can do what we want with them,
and just b/c you messed up and you regret
that you kept your baby does not mean that
everybody else will
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:40pm
kourtney08
wrote:
dalicia, you don't have a
damn clue what you're talking about.
They're not going to report him, do you
know what the hippa law is? Hospitals
aren't even allowed to tell a parent if
their child is pregnant. It's illegal
for them to give out information like
that. The only person that can press
charges against him, and send him to jail
is *her* parents.
Please stop talking out of your ass, it's
hurting my
head.
actually you may want to look into that in
your states b/c I know here where I live
(texas) I am the only one that can press
charges against my husband....So when I
was 14 and having sex with him I was the
only one that could have him arrested not
my mom...My mom tried she even took my
journal up to the judge and they still
could not do anything with out me saying
so
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:46pm
frantic4mommy
wrote:
what are you talking about?
I dont get what you were saying.. It
made no sence to me. Im still married to
my husband. We just had our two year
annivercry. What were you
saying?
she wasn't talking to you lol
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:49pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
i have a daughter.
They asked me all those questions at the
hospital.
Baby_girl12306
just for him living with you then you're
parents would be considered unfit. Most
likely your mom will loose you and you'll
have to go to a foster home.
Nobody can take away your child unless
you're considered as an unfit parent.
If my daughter was 15 and I let her 18-19
year old boyfriend live with us, I know
i'd get her taken away from me. That is
too crazy.
all I can say is huh, I was 16 and my now
husband was 23 and we were living with my
mom and nobody could do editabout it
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 18:52pm
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
19mommy
wrote:
cherylannb
i am not 12 im 19, and even though ur old,
your styll not sensible :x and I think
you should read a book and get off da
internet, you a grown
woman
I think you should
check out a dictionary and learn how to
spell simple words! Grown women
shouldn't use the internet? I
didn't realize it was only for kids?
My mom gets paid $900.00 a week at her
job and all she does is use the
internet!!!!!!!! Get a clue
!
lol, simple words? Im sorry its
called slang and I there is a spell check
on this site so if I wanted every single
word spelt the way it is suppose to I
would use it. And grown people can
use the net, but when it isnt for useful
things then they shouldnt even bother with
it. Like seriously what person tells
every person thats below a certain age to
put their child up for adoption.
There are people on this site who arent in
their teens anymore and they give great
advice like michelle1981 so unlike you she
has sense and isnt as ignorant like you
:evil:
so adults shouldn't
bother giving advice about situations
where they've been through the same
things? Then why are some teens on
here asking for advice? Most of them
are asking for it from (other people who
have been there). I think past
experience and advice are useful things!
And I didn't tell every person under a
certain age to give up their child. In
some situations I think it's best for the
child. Like totally ya
know!!
i think having a child at a young age
fried you poor brain. I didnt say that
adultsshouldnt give advice I even stated
that michelle1981 gave great advice and
she is a pleasure to talk to, but i've
read your post. I've read how many
times you've told pregnant girls to not
keep their child and give it up for
adoption. And your basing your
experiences as though they would apply to
everyone. Just because u think you've
had it hard doesnt mean they will....Even
though I dont agree with everything
dalicialynn says, but take her for
example, 17 own place, job and has her
head on very straight. Im not saying it
will be a picnic, but she knows her
responsibilities and is working to make
her child happy and that is the type of
advice you should be trying to give
people....Letting them know that if you
truly can not handle the responsibilities
of being a parent then adoption is an
option, but if your like dalicia and feel
you can do it and you work hard to achieve
it then take care of your
own.
and where is her baby
while shes at work, probablly at
daycare!!!!!! Why have a child if your
gonna pay someone else to raise it!!
There better off being put up for
adoption!!
huh...B/c some people need to work to pay
bills, you can't make money by just
sitting at home with your baby...If you
can let me know please. And how are they
raising the baby
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Re: Stop Trashing Young Mothers! Posted: 11-04-05 18:57pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
ryansmommy16
wrote:
ok for the peope that keep
putting down the 15 y/o pregnant chic by
an older guy I just want you to know...
I'm 16 I have a 7 month old I have been
married for 1 year 2 months. I got
pregnant at 15 I got married at 15! My
husband was 18. I went out of state to
get married and my parents didn't even
have to sign. They knew nothing about
it. And guess what? I'm pregnant
again! Yep caca happens. And just
b/c she is young what right does anyone
have to tell her to give the baby up?
Well let me tell you something I would
have never gave my son up and the first
person that would have told me to do it I
would say go to hell 2 them! I wouldn't
take anything for my son nor do anything
different. Just because we are young
doesn't mean we can't be good mommies.
My son gets everything he needs we pay for
everything he has never went without.
But anyways I just read all this bs and
had to put my 2 cents in.. Girl, if you
want to talk my e-mail is tiffson1
5@yahoo.Com. I would suggest not
listen to all these negative
comments.
close your legs and shut the f*ck
up.
where the he!! Do you get off telling
some girl to shut up and close her legs,
you don't know her, all you know is what
she wrote, I do know her, and hell she
acts a he!! Of alot more mature then you
do
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-04-05 19:00pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
ryansmommy16
wrote:
well honey as everyone knows
you only have to have sex once and get
pregnant. It's not like i'm a
prostitute that goes around sleeping with
tons of men. I have only had sex with
my husband ever! As for you I bet you
can't say the same can you? Ha ha do
you not have anything better than get on
here and trash people that are looking for
advice. What the medical answer are
you doing here anyway? Well as for
keeping my legs close that's my choice and
we have the resources to provide for
another child. We are not getting
help from the state. Can you say the
same. Uh I think not. People like
you disgust me..Your the b*tch who needs
to shut the !@#^
up.
you dont even know me, I know from what
youve told everyone.
Sl*t
i can say the same, im actually very proud
of myself for what im becoming in life, im
pregnant & can provide for myself
& my baby. I dont need to get
married at 15 for a guy to help support
me.
Sorry, but at 15 you dont even know what
love is lol.
Nothing lasts forever b*tch, hope ya
realize that before you're head gets too
messed up.
i have been with the same guy for 5 yrs
and married to him for 2 1/2 I was 14 when
I met him and 17 when I got married, I
didn't get married for him to support me,
and niether did she, she got married b/c
she loves her husband she has been with
her husband for a long time too.
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Posted: 11-04-05 20:25pm
Yes you have made very good points, and
said what I was going to post! Lol and
about her not talking to I figured it out
it just took me a few posts to relize it I
was very confused!!! Lol
oh, i'm a highly available
well if you think that I guess that's
fine. You don't know me either. I
have been with my babies father since I
was 10. I didn't just marry him for
support.We were and still are in love.
Plus I didn't need him my family would
have supported me. Love must not be
something you know about or something.
It is possible for a 15 year old to know
love, age is just a number and I am more
mature than you clearly b/c I didn't get
on her putting ppl down when they were
looking for advice. If I didn't think
we would last why would I have wasted my
time getting married. My head is not
messed up. But it seems like your is.
Sorry but you need to grow up! Just
leave it at this you don't have a clue
what my life is like and I don't care
about your. Again you don't bother me
health forum
please!
that is edit disgusting.
At 10 you didnt even have pubes yet let
alone have a relationship with somebody,
it's clear your the immature one.
Edit up and get off of this forum,
girls like you should have their edit
together.
Age isn't a number to the law my dear, I
myself have learned that, but hey. Were
all retarded at some point, you'll learn
for yourself.
Alabama age of sexual consent: 16
statutory rape law: 16 yrs or older cannot
have sex with a minor at least 2 years
younger than them (ex: 17 year old w/a 15
year old girlfriend can be arrested)
and you're with a 19 year old?
Lol, okay.
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simpleirishgirl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Illinois, USA
Posted: 11-04-05 22:20pm
Dalicialynn, you have no idea what you are
talking about.
I'm from illinois, right on the border of
missouri. My mom works for the state of
illinois and knows many of the laws in
missouri having to do with child support
enforcement since that is the office she
works in and she has to deal with cases
from both states most of the time.
The hospital will be going against hippa
(again something else I know about as I
work in a nursing home and with a local
hospital so they constaintly bang this
into our heads) if they were to violate
the privacy of the mother to be. They
have no legal rights to turn this man in.
The only people who have this right are
her and her parents and obviously none of
them will do so considering she and him
plan to get married in the next year.
Also, he does not have to pay child
support. That is only if she petitions
for it.
My ex and I were together at the time our
son was born, but were not living
together. We only petitioned for medical
insurance and when I was asked if I wanted
to try to child support, I told them no
and that was the end of that.
Also no blood test will need to be done as
long as he signs that birth certificate in
the hospital.
Anyway, I will stop telling you how dumb
you are since it is so obvious.
Op, I just want to say good luck to you
and if you ever want to talk, feel free to
pm me.
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frantic4mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 61 Location: San Antonio, Texas
ryansmommy16 wrote:
oh, i'm a highly available well if you
think that I guess that's fine. You don't
know me either. I have been with my
babies father since I was 10. I didn't
just marry him for support.We were and
still are in love. Plus I didn't need him
my family would have supported me. Love
must not be something you know about or
something. It is possible for a 15 year
old to know love, age is just a number and
I am more mature than you clearly b/c I
didn't get on her putting ppl down when
they were looking for advice. If I didn't
think we would last why would I have
wasted my time getting married. My head
is not messed up. But it seems like your
is. Sorry but you need to grow up! Just
leave it at this you don't have a clue
what my life is like and I don't care
about your. Again you don't bother me
health forum please!
That is doing it disgusting.
At 10 you didnt even have pubes yet let
alone have a relationship with somebody,
it's clear your the immature one.
Shut the f*ck up and get off of this
forum, girls like you should have their
vagina lips sown together.
Age isn't a number to the law my dear, I
myself have learned that, but hey. Were
all retarded at some point, you'll learn
for yourself.
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at 10 manny people have boyfriends or
girlfriends!!! She didnt mean she was
having intercorse at 10! And if your so
mature why are you on here putting down
teen mother and suposidley you were in our
place when you were a teen? You admitted
you had it hard even though you gave up
your child. So why are you tring to
scared the living witts out of some one
whos asking for support and advice to help
her chose the right thing for her baby?
And whats up with telling some one to have
thier virgina lips sown to gather?!?!? I
for one ,and I think manny others will
agree, that you should be the one who
doesnt have the right to have a child. Im
not saying that in the situation you were
in it wasnt the right dession ( and
considering how you talk about children
and babys on here I think you made a great
choice on one thing! ) but that dession
ist for every one! But if you raise your
children the way you talk on here thier
going to have a hard life. And I feel
very soory for them.
