Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: SWMississippi
Harmones Or Hismones? Posted: 10-31-05 01:08am
Ok ladies, this one hits home for me and
being a man, I would appreciate a
professional opinion especially from the
female gender which certainly deserves a
degree of expertise. Now here's the
question(s):
my wife (a registered nurse) filed for a
divorce one year ago and we did battle in
court until recently. We have two
beautiful childred (boy/girl twins).
These kids were planned not oops born only
after fertility treatments and seven
months of her being confined to the bed by
her obgyn since she had troubles carrying
in the past resulting in miscarriage in
the early stages.
Some months into what became the "war of
the roses" I decided that it might be a
good idea to get a vasectomy. I knew I
would be dating after the divorce and I
could see my life could get complicated
especially for my two children because of
an unplanned pregnancy with another person
who may also prove incompatible.
To make it short we attempted a
reconciliation that is not working no
matter how hard I try and comply to her
demand$. Upon my return to the marital
domicile she asked me to go by her
pharmacy and pay for and retrieve her
'scripts. I was surprised to see the
prescription was birth control pills. We
had not had sex in over a year and not
much before then. Further, she knew of my
vasectomy since I put the bill on her
health insurance provided by her employer.
When questioned she replied it was only
for harmonal purposes to regulate her
period. Don't they make other pills for
that? Finally, if someone were to put a
gun to your head and ask you to answer
correctly or die and the question was: is
she screwing around on me? What would be
your answer?
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 10-31-05 03:09am
Well, some women do use birth control
pills to regulate their cycle, lessen pms
symptoms, or clear up their skin. It is
possible that she is using them for one of
those reasons. Do you have any other
reason to believe that she is cheating on
you? Or any evidence?
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MissInformed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: SWMississippi
Hormones Or Hismones Posted: 10-31-05 04:10am
Well, when we were first married she
contracted clamidia which I never got.
Perhaps it was due to her having side
effects from the pill and she demanded
that I use condoms when on the rare
occaisions we did have sex. She also had
yeast infections on such a frequent basis
our house smelled like a fish market.
This was another reason used for the lack
of intimacy which began literally when the
honeymoon was over.
I work in the energy industry and am home
only on weekends. There were always
fresh flowers or arrangements in the house
which she said were from elderly patients
who appreciated the way she treated
them.
However, since I will probably be in court
again soon it may not be wise to share my
recent epiphany with you at present time.
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MissInformed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: SWMississippi
Hermones Or Hismones Posted: 10-31-05 04:25am
Afterthought, p.S. Or pms,
i forgot to mention my future ex-wife
turns 51 in january. Did I see on this
board somewhere it is not medically
recomended to take the pill at this stage
in a woman's life especially for the
reasons she gave if alternate medications
are available. Am I just being paranoid?
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 10-31-05 15:56pm
If she is 51 she has to be at least
starting to go through menopause. Women
can get pregnant during that time. After
everything else you said about her, if I
were you I wouldn't trust her!
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MissInformed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: SWMississippi
Hermones Or Hismones Posted: 10-31-05 21:19pm
I understand and realize the average age
of women as far as the occurance of the
initial phases of menapause. My question
is are there alternative medications
available for regulating the menstral
cycle during these phases and if so are
the options safer and less costly than bc
pills?
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lovinmom4
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 11-08-05 08:06am
Well, first of all, I really dont think
she would have you to pick up bc pills if
she had something to hide. Yes, women are
prescribed bc pills for other reasons than
to prevent pregnancy. I know of many of
these cases. With her past history, I
really cannot say if she is trustworthy
though.
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MissInformed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: SWMississippi
Hermones Or Hismones Posted: 11-09-05 11:04am
The bc pills were only part of the meds
she had me pick up for her that day.
However, by having me retrieve the bc
pills it would seem less suspicious than
if I were to find them hidden as I have so
many other items in the past (i.E. Daily
log of my activities to be used in divorce
proceedings, deleted e-mails sexual in
nature with other married man, etc.). I
have found her to be extremely calculating
and most of her actions when cordial to
me, have hidden agendas.
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lovinmom4
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2005 Posts: 37
Trust Issue? Posted: 11-09-05 21:14pm
Sounds to me like you have already made
your decision about her cheating on you.
It would be hard for anyone, like myself,
to come out and say she is definitely
cheating on you. Theres no way we could
know for sure. Have you asked her? I
mean you all were in divorce
proceedings....And like you, I dont
believe in even dating until the divorce
is final.....But, does she? Everyone has
different opinions on that issue. If you
cannot trust her I honestly do not know
how this trial reconciliation could ever
work. You have got to have trust. For
your sake and the sake of your familly, I
certainly hope she is not having an
affair. I wish you all the best of luck.
