Well I tried to. I breeched the
subject...Like...Mom what would you do if
I got perggs? She flipped out!!!! She
yelled at me, damn I hadn't even told her
I was preggs. I let the subject
drop....She told me i'd have to give it up
for adoption because she wasn't going to
work a hundred years to support some
health questions child. The first time
my parents found out I had sex they almost
kicked me out, my dad slapped me around a
bit, called me a prostitute, and a health
forum, however the guy was older so we had
to be at the police station in less then
30 min. So I couldn't leave then,
afterwords my parents had calmed down and
my dad apoligized. Do you guys see why I
can't tell them now?
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 10-31-05 12:25pm
Well from the sound of their reaction I
could see why you wouldnt want to tell
them! They arent helping you out by
freaking out about it, just by asking a
question. It will be hard but you
definetly will have to tell them. Why
dont you talk to a school nurse or
counsellor and get them to be there with
you when you tell your parents, so they
wont outright react in a bad way.
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maybamum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2005 Posts: 35
.... Posted: 10-31-05 12:57pm
But if I tell anyone from school, they'll
know, and they'll kick me out once I start
to show. Otherwise I could hide it ass
long as possible, from the school at
least. That's a good idea though, having
a third party go with me, cuz then they
couldn't totally trip out.
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chrissy721
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 817 Location: Somewhere out there
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Posted: 10-31-05 13:04pm
When you do tell your parents, you should
make sure someone else is there...Maybe
another family member you trust or a
councelor from school. Your dad seems to
loose his cool a little too much and it's
abuse to call you those words and "smack"
you around. Spanking is different, but
from what you let on it wasn't just
spanking. They probably react bad even
after that. Tell the other person that
will be with you that you are afraid how
they'll react and need them there for
support physically and mentally. If they
react badly in a physical way, it can be
threatening to your baby.
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maybamum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2005 Posts: 35
Ok Posted: 10-31-05 13:08pm
How should I actually tell them? Any
suggestions?
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 10-31-05 13:39pm
From the sounds of it you should tell tehm
either in a public place where they cant
do anything bad, or invite a cousnellor
over and talk to your parents with them
around. Just say "hey mom, dad, I need to
talk to you" and go from there.
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chrissy721
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 817 Location: Somewhere out there
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Posted: 10-31-05 14:47pm
Yea that's what I meant. Tell them in
public where they can't hurt you. As for
how to tell them, I don't know really.
Just be honest and and sincere is all you
can do.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Re: I Talked to My Mom Posted: 11-01-05 00:19am
maybamum
wrote:
well I tried to. I
breeched the subject...Like...Mom what
would you do if I got perggs? She
flipped out!!!! She yelled at me, damn
I hadn't even told her I was preggs. I
let the subject drop....She told me i'd
have to give it up for adoption because
she wasn't going to work a hundred years
to support some health questions child.
The first time my parents found out I had
sex they almost kicked me out, my dad
slapped me around a bit, called me a
prostitute, and a health forum, however
the guy was older so we had to be at the
police station in less then 30 min. So
I couldn't leave then, afterwords my
parents had calmed down and my dad
apoligized. Do you guys see why I can't
tell them
now?
i'm sorry your parents
don't know how to calmly communicate with
you. My mom was the same way. I'm 35
now, but, got pregnant the first time I
had sex. I didn't go as far as you did, I
knew what her reaction would be, she would
have dragged me by the hair down to the
abortion clinic. Sometimes I wish she
had. My son is 19 now, I love him, were
very close, but honestly now that i'm
married (not to his dad) and I have 3
other kids, the youngest a girl, I think
completly different. I can't change your
mind, I know I was a teenager once, I knew
it all, everything would work out fine. I
can't begin to tell you how hard it is to
care for a child, you have to give up
almost everything(if you want to be a good
mom anyway) your never first anymore.
You'll never sleep again , i'm not
kidding! Please just really think about
it and do some babysitting the next week
or so, make sure you spend some time alone
with a newborn, a long time, at least 5or6
hours, you'll see. Good luck.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Re: I Talked to My Mom Posted: 11-01-05 12:44pm
cherylannb
wrote:
maybamum
wrote:
well I tried to. I
breeched the subject...Like...Mom what
would you do if I got perggs? She
flipped out!!!! She yelled at me, damn
I hadn't even told her I was preggs. I
let the subject drop....She told me i'd
have to give it up for adoption because
she wasn't going to work a hundred years
to support some health questions child.
The first time my parents found out I had
sex they almost kicked me out, my dad
slapped me around a bit, called me a
prostitute, and a health forum, however
the guy was older so we had to be at the
police station in less then 30 min. So
I couldn't leave then, afterwords my
parents had calmed down and my dad
apoligized. Do you guys see why I
can't tell them
now?
i'm sorry your parents
don't know how to calmly communicate with
you. My mom was the same way. I'm 35
now, but, got pregnant the first time I
had sex. I didn't go as far as you did,
I knew what her reaction would be, she
would have dragged me by the hair down to
the abortion clinic. Sometimes I wish
she had. My son is 19 now, I love him,
were very close, but honestly now that i'm
married (not to his dad) and I have 3
other kids, the youngest a girl, I think
completly different. I can't change your
mind, I know I was a teenager once, I knew
it all, everything would work out fine.
I can't begin to tell you how hard it is
to care for a child, you have to give up
almost everything(if you want to be a good
mom anyway) your never first anymore.
You'll never sleep again , i'm not
kidding! Please just really think about
it and do some babysitting the next week
or so, make sure you spend some time alone
with a newborn, a long time, at least 5or6
hours, you'll see. Good
luck.
you'll never sleep again? Lol, that's
impossible. Don't scare the girl with
your horror stories.
I think you have issues, probably because
of how your parents raise you, calling you
a prostitute for having sex, that's a bit
much.
I don't think you need to be giving people
advice, because i've been seeing your
"advice" and it sucks.
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CHERYLANNB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 31 Location: MA.
Re: I Talked to My Mom Posted: 11-02-05 20:53pm
kourtney08
wrote:
cherylannb
wrote:
maybamum
wrote:
well I tried to. I
breeched the subject...Like...Mom what
would you do if I got perggs? She
flipped out!!!! She yelled at me,
damn I hadn't even told her I was preggs.
I let the subject drop....She told me
i'd have to give it up for adoption
because she wasn't going to work a hundred
years to support some health questions
child. The first time my parents
found out I had sex they almost kicked me
out, my dad slapped me around a bit,
called me a prostitute, and a health
forum, however the guy was older so we had
to be at the police station in less then
30 min. So I couldn't leave then,
afterwords my parents had calmed down and
my dad apoligized. Do you guys see
why I can't tell them
now?
i'm sorry your parents
don't know how to calmly communicate with
you. My mom was the same way. I'm 35
now, but, got pregnant the first time I
had sex. I didn't go as far as you did,
I knew what her reaction would be, she
would have dragged me by the hair down to
the abortion clinic. Sometimes I wish
she had. My son is 19 now, I love him,
were very close, but honestly now that i'm
married (not to his dad) and I have 3
other kids, the youngest a girl, I think
completly different. I can't change
your mind, I know I was a teenager once, I
knew it all, everything would work out
fine. I can't begin to tell you how
hard it is to care for a child, you have
to give up almost everything(if you want
to be a good mom anyway) your never first
anymore. You'll never sleep again , i'm
not kidding! Please just really think
about it and do some babysitting the next
week or so, make sure you spend some time
alone with a newborn, a long time, at
least 5or6 hours, you'll see. Good
luck.
you'll never sleep again? Lol, that's
impossible. Don't scare the girl with
your horror stories.
I think you have issues, probably because
of how your parents raise you, calling you
a prostitute for having sex, that's a bit
much.
I don't think you need to be giving people
advice, because i've been seeing your
"advice" and it
sucks.
who ever said my mother
called me a prostitute for having sex? I
never discussed that with her and my
mother doesn't even swear, and she would
never speak to me that way. Get your
people straight!They must have done
something right , raising me, I never
touched drugs, I don't drink, smoke etc.I
don't dump my kids in daycare for someone
else to raise, so I can drive a fancy car.
I don't even have cable tv because i'd
rather be reading to my kids, and I don't
want them watching the trash on it
anyways.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 11-02-05 23:22pm
Omg.. U dont dump your kids in daycare
for someone else to raise? Are you
f**ckin stupid? Do you realize there are
people going to school or working their
asses off to feed and clothe their kids?
And here u are saying their bad for not
staying at home, starving them, just so
they dont have to be around other people
and children their age? Your stupid
lady.. No wonder you dont want anyomre
kids.. I dont think you should have
anymore!
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OaTmEaLfAiRy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 192 Location: Iowa
Bad Reaction! Posted: 11-03-05 00:12am
It may have just been a knee-jerk reaction
for them. But I would suggest finding a
birth crisis center near you. They can
help you figure out where you could go if
they do kick you out. Other family
members are also a good resource. I
suggest having something lined up, as to
where to stay (that is available anytime)
just in case they do flip out again. Even
if it's only for the first few weeks.
Hopefully, they'll come around after
letting it sink in for a little bit.
Planned parenthood might be able to help.
Look into your options. (i can't believe
i'm saying this) you have 3 options,
research them thoroughly. Depending on
your age, it's your choice, not your
parents. The only time it's their choice
is if you're way underage and you want an
abortion. But if you're like 16 or 17,
you have a fairly good chance of getting a
judicial bypass for an abortion, should
you choose to. But that's only one
option. You don't have to give up your
baby, they can't make you. There are
plenty of resources to help out a single
mother, no matter what age. You don't
have to depend on your parents.
