Sexual Health - Women Forum - Life After Herpes

Basically I decided that having herpes was the ultimate test. If someone was willing to look beyond this then they might be really special.

So after a 6 month morning in my own sorrow period of staying away from men all together I decided to be brave and look for the love that I deserved. In the mean time I did alot of reading about herpes and informed myself.

After I got herpes I was lonely. I was afraid to reach out for fear of rejection. An old flame who I had kept in touch with from a couple states away was always wanting me back. Since I was over him, although he was really sweet I decided to test this on him. I called him up and told him the news. Immedietly he replied I dont care about that, I would marry you anyway. Unfortunately the right response-wrong person for me, but it did give me a little hope.

I never really had much of a problem meeting guys, not because I am drop dead or anything but because I always had a healthy amount of self confidence. So for awhile I just decided in my head that I would just date for fun, and absolutely not get physical(beyond kissing) with anyone unless I gave them the full story.
Some guys were freaked out and stopped calling. This of course was devastating but I had to remind myself that I might of acted the same way if the situation were reversed.
But there were also quite a few that were pretty cool about it, too. I always had protected sex. Once I met a guy that I knew from high school. I really liked him alot from the beginning and he was alot of fun. I decided to tell him after a couple dates because I could tell he was kind of wanting to move fast and I did too. I thought, I will tell him and if he runs-then at least I got out of this early. I was at his place and I gave him the speil... He walked out of the room. I sat there in horror for a second and then he walked back into the room and threw a small box on my lap with a smile. It was his prescription for valtrex! He had herpes too! I had never felt so relieved. I thought this is so awesome I dont have to feel ashamed now! It was a short-lived high because about a week later I caught him out with some other chick. Oh well.
Eventually I developed more confidence. You see herpes or no herpes dating is a numbers game. Statistics. There are going to be some guys you like and dont like you. Some guys that like you but you dont like them. Some guys dont care if you have herpes because they are so head over heels for you and some guys cant run away fast enough.
When I met chris, (now my husband) I knew immediatly that he was special. After our first date I even told my roommate, "i think I am going to marry this guy!" however I was terrified to tell him about the herpes because I was really falling for him fast. After about a week of dating I sat him down and told him the news...I was crying....I was sure that this would be the deal breaker. But he was so nonchalant about it. He was like. "its okay. I still want to keep seeing you. And it could be alot worse." then he confided in me about how his dad was hiv positive. It really put things in perspective for me.
About a month later we moved in together...After 5 months he proposed...At nine months we were married at a little chapel in the smokey mountains...And we will be celebrating our 2 year anniversary this month. We are still so in love and currently trying to have a baby. (yes you can still have babies! )

if it can happen to me it can happen to you.

I hope this helped some, good luck to you and let me know if you have anymore questions.