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mum2bubba

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Question??? Posted: 11-02-05 04:46am


To all you teen/young mums. If your daughter or son came to you as a teenager and told you they were expecting how would you react? Would yiu reacted differently then your own parents did? Would it be any different if your son or daughter was 17 or 18 compared to 13 0r 14 (or even younger than that). I had my daughter when I was 22 and I still get people telling me I am too young for a baby and that I should out partying and now that I have a baby I won't be able to travel or anything, but if hayley (my daughter) told me she was pregnant I would help her the best I could (although I think 12 or 13 is far too young, I would prolly point her into the direction of abortion but I would never force her). So what would you girls do???

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Posted: 11-02-05 08:47am


Well the way I act on here to young girls is different than I would to my daughter. Not cuz im a hypocrite or anything, its cuz shes my daughter, and she's my blood. It will always be different with family. I would be like my parents and be accepting of it, but if she was young I know I would be devastated and heartbroken. But there is no way I would kick her to the streets. I'd let her kow full out that I would help her in any choice she made (whether it be keeping the child, aborton, adoption) and i'd help her thru it. But I do hope she doesnt go thru that and she waits until shes older before she becomes pregnant.

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Posted: 11-06-05 04:03am


I would be upset I wouldnt yell, because yelling dosnt get you anywhere. I wouldnt tell her to get an abortion because I dont aprove of abortions but if thats what she wanted to do I wouldnt stop her. If she wanted adoption and I had the money I wouild raise her child because I wouldnt want to loose my grandchild.. Or I would let her know I will help as mucha as I can afford to

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Posted: 11-06-05 13:57pm


I just turned 16 when I found out I was. My mom got pregant with me when she was 30. My mom wanted me to get a aborsion. I resuefed. If my daughter came up to me and told me that she was I would be dissappoint cause I would fell that I failed as a mother cause I got pregant at 16 but I would let her make her own mind up but I would be there for her 100% telling her that I would help her 100% . . Cause my mom did not come around and start helping me until dakota my daughter was two months old.

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Posted: 11-07-05 15:01pm


If my son got a girl pregnant... I would be disappointed... But I would follow in the footsteps of what my mother did to me...Help them out!! Not financially but you know, a house and food and stuff...But most definetly, my son will have to get a job, finish college and be in his baby's life. If not then he needs to get out of my house and stay out till he makes up his mind about what he's gonna do about his family. It hurts me to say that but my baby's dad--his mom has kicked him out like 3 or 4 times saying he needs to straighten out...But she always let him back in...Yes its the whole mom and son relationship but I don't want the girl to go through what I did...The father of their kids going in and out of their lives...Noo!! That's just not an option... But in truth... Knowing my temper...When he tells me...I would proly smack him out of rage...But then cry and then tell him it will be all okay...That she just needs to finish what she started if she's in school... And if she wants an abortion...What can I do?? Force her to have a kid?? I can't do that... I don't force anyone to do something they don't want...If she wants an abortion then its up to my son to support her in that... As far as me... I would support her either way... Its about choices. And that's what my son will have and the girl... I just hope it doesn't happen till he's got his own house, his degree's and his career...

Kristina86

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Posted: 11-07-05 17:52pm


If my daughter came up to me saying that she was pregnant, I would be a lil dissapointed b/c we would have already had the talk, so I would only be mad from her not listening to me and being safe, and if she is going to be sexually active I would want her to come tell me so I could get her on birth control.....Yes I know yall are going to bash me for that but you can't stop your child from having sex, you can't be there with them 24/7 so I would rather be safe then sorry in the end.....But other then that I would help her with everything.....Now for my son if he got some girl pregnant, same thing I would still be a lil dissapointed b/c we would have already had the talk. But I would help him and the girl that he got pregnant

Zengki

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Posted: 11-08-05 10:58am

kristina86 wrote:

if my daughter came up to me saying that she was pregnant, I would be a lil dissapointed b/c we would have already had the talk, so I would only be mad from her not listening to me and being safe, and if she is going to be sexually active I would want her to come tell me so I could get her on birth control.....Yes I know yall are going to bash me for that but you can't stop your child from having sex, you can't be there with them 24/7 so I would rather be safe then sorry in the end.....But other then that I would help her with everything.....Now for my son if he got some girl pregnant, same thing I would still be a lil dissapointed b/c we would have already had the talk. But I would help him and the girl that he got pregnant

i don't think there's anything wrong with putting your daughter on birth control. Its better to be safe than sorry...Right?? I agree with you all the way with what you're gonna do to your daughter. If I had a daughter, I would do the same thing and make sure she takes it everyday! If that's too hard for her, then i'll put her on the patch... You know? Anything to let her be single till she's ready. A lot of people will say, "you're just encouraging her to have sex!" no you're not... I thank the mom's that put their daughters on the pill so it can prevent...Not encourage. Like you said, we are not with them 24/7 and there's only so much we can do. So, don't worry... I support what you're gonna do when you're daughter comes to you and says, "mom, I wanna take the pill." good luck!

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I Agree Posted: 11-08-05 12:35pm


If my daughter was pregnant and she was a teen I wouldnt get mad at all but I would take her child until she finished her education and got a good job I know its not fully realistic but I wouldnt give her money at all just help out with a roof and food. I had my daughter just after turning 20 and im expecting #2 just after turning 22 I have enough I can support them but its going to be hard and I know it (lack of sleep.) mum2be I full understand your position I go through it every day and I have men still bugging me to leave my husband cause they i'm too young but I promised my husband until death do us part and I really love him dont know what I would do without him. I have even had people call me a promiscuous person or ask where I adopted my daughter because she is mixed and somedays I just want to bash their heads in but I dont i believe that being a parent we cant stop everything but I believe information is the key, we are not supposed to yell at our kids but explain to them what they are doing and give them both positives and negatives. B/c is an option I took it even when I wasnt sexually active to help out with cramps etc so yeah I will help my daughter with the pill i'd rather be safe then sorry but hey I still got pregnant of the pill.

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Posted: 11-08-05 21:20pm


I truly have no idea how I would react until I was actually in that situation. I got pregnant at the age of 19 and had my son about a month before I turned 20. My parents didn't go off on me or anything like that but they did tell me they were disappointed. I think they handled it better than most parents I hear about. Plus they had already been through the situation before my brother drew. He and his gf (ex now) had a kid when I was 16 years old, she had just turned 18 and my brother had just turned 19. The only difference with that one though is my parents found out from her parents when she was 7-8 months along so it didn't give them enough time to prepare. I told my parents I was right away, probably a week or two after I found out (and I found out at 6 weeks). I would hope that I would have talked to my son enough about sex and the consequences with it that he would make choices that wouldn't put him in that position that early in life. I also hope that he would feel that he could talk to me about anything and come to me is something like should happen while he was a teen. Yeah I know I would be upset and dissappointed but I would be there for him and guide him as best as I could.