Hey guys hope some of you can help me.
I'm 15wks pregnant and hubby is getting
quite pissed off with me taking things to
heart lately and being offended to things
he says, he has always had a habit of
saying things without thinking and not
meaning exactly what he said (if that
makes sense) i'm not usually am emotional
person and I don't normally get upset by
theses things so he is having a few
problems accepting that this is just part
of the parcel. My moods are still quite
up and down (to be expected) and we keep
getting into arguements coz I got annoyed
by something he said and doesn't think it
should get to me which of course ends with
me crying again.
I think you get what I mean here.
Anyone who has been through this with
their hubby please let me know how you
dealt with it.
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3kizz
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Joined: 04 Jun 2005 Posts: 308
Husbands Posted: 11-02-05 20:20pm
Well first off I think all of us go
through this with our husbands when we are
pregnant. You see our hormones are going
wacky worse at times then if if were to
have just our periods. They don't go
through this hormone change.....So they
won't understand what we feel. Maybe you
should have an honest talk with him and
let him understand that what he says and
what he does bothers you. If you love
one another things will be fine and there
is a light at the end of the tunnel once
your hormones reajust themselves.
Honestly when we are pregnanct we are not
the same people untill we give birth and
then some of us even go through
postpartum, which in some cases can be
worse.... Good luck
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Sarah1978
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Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 123 Location: NZ
Re: Husbands Posted: 11-02-05 20:42pm
3kizz
wrote:
well first off I think all
of us go through this with our husbands
when we are pregnant. You see our
hormones are going wacky worse at times
then if if were to have just our periods.
They don't go through this hormone
change.....So they won't understand what
we feel. Maybe you should have an
honest talk with him and let him
understand that what he says and what he
does bothers you. If you love one
another things will be fine and there is a
light at the end of the tunnel once your
hormones reajust themselves. Honestly
when we are pregnanct we are not the same
people untill we give birth and then some
of us even go through postpartum, which in
some cases can be worse.... Good
luck
we have struggled with hormone levels
before, I have had bad pms since turning
13 (thereabouts) which got alot worse when
we were ttc.
I dont expect him to understand how I feel
either, just like I can't understand how
he feels about all this but I can try to
make life easier on us both. Our marriage
is strong we have been through alot
together but living each day argueing and
making up (now that bit I like) is hard on
everyone. I would just like to know how
other women dealt with it.
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3kizz
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Joined: 04 Jun 2005 Posts: 308
Posted: 11-02-05 20:44pm
I just talk to my husband and sometimes I
even ignore him I guess we all have my
human moments.
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Rasberry Ripple
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Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 175 Location: uk
Posted: 11-03-05 08:59am
I find that the best way is to get the
"strop" out of the way and then laugh
about the situation later.
Had one the other lunch time. Went to
find my fella to say i'd meet him at home
for lunch, and he said he would be half an
hour....I flipped and said, "what did he
think I would do...Wait around for half an
hour for him to get his butt in gear?"
after stomping off, he came and found me
and I just gave him a puppy dog look and
we just giggled!
Laughter is a great cure for anything like
that. It's a stage that is all part of
being pregnant, and although at the time I
thought he was being difficult on purpose,
I didn't want it to drag on.....He was
definately wrong though! Lol
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 11-03-05 14:05pm
There are great things for dads to be to
read and try and understand what you are
going through right now. I was super
bitchy while pregnant and
found some site for hubby to read.
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Sarah1978
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Posted: 11-03-05 19:49pm
Thanks ladies
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feltchick
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Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 38 Location: idaho
Posted: 11-07-05 12:22pm
Have him go along w/ you to a prenatal
check up. My doctor's wife had a new baby
6 moths ago. He told my husband that I
can get pretty nuts with all the hormones.
Good thing my husband is pretty tolerant.
I've been married 16 years, and we still
have issues. You have to remind them that
you're hormonally "challenged". Just wait
until you start to get forgetful!
I can stand about in the kitchen and
forget what I am doing for dinner. I am
just at the 5 month mark, and the hormore
deal does level off a bit :)
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 11-07-05 12:31pm
First off let me say when someone strikes
in anger they "do mean exactly what they
say" I believe it hurts you so much right
now, because your more in your heart right
now(cuz of babe) and your heart knows he
really means it.
Sometimes the only way they can get it out
is when they are pissed.
All I can suggest is to try and help him
to understand that this is a part of
pregnancy and it will not go away.
Emotions will be all over the place, and
we will snap at them too. But the
outbursts are only temporary. I dont
ever suggest making life changing
relationship decisions at this time in our
life. Cuz all is subject to change when
hormone levels change back to normal.
Good luck and just try and be patient with
his lack of understanding.
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Sarah1978
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Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 123 Location: NZ
Posted: 11-07-05 14:31pm
fatfamily02
wrote:
first off let me say when
someone strikes in anger they "do mean
exactly what they say" I believe it hurts
you so much right now, because your more
in your heart right now(cuz of babe) and
your heart knows he really means it.
i don't know about you but I certainly
don't mean everything I say when i'm
having an arguement - my mouths just keeps
on going. When I said my hubby says
things without meaning them, thats exactly
what I meant, he has a bad case of foot in
mouth so when we have an arguement we
don't take anything away from that (it
doesn't hurt cause its never meant).
Feltchick - that is another cause for
arguement at the moment - forgetting
everything. I think memory loss found me
early on. :-)
things seem to be going ok at the moment -
I am just ignoring him when he f&*% me
off and he does the same to me. Its
saving a lot of argueing and making up.
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3kizz
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Posted: 11-07-05 16:14pm
In the end we are all human. We all tend
to forget what the other maybe going
through and we all say things that we may
mean or may not. It saves me alot of
argueing and making up when I can ignore
him when I can. B/c a few minutes later
we forget what was said. Sometimes we
need just to walk away before anything
turns ugly.....
