I'm tired of thinking... Please help!!!!
I've been feeling that my gf's feelings
are fading for me... I told her this last
night while we had an argument and I just
found out (i still called her) that she
took in backwards as she thought I said my
feelings are fading for me (not what I
meant). I made sure that she now knows I
said it the other way. She said she has
to go (she works, so do i) which is
totally understandable but now, what do I
expect? She didn't even make the effort
to say "no, my feeling aren't fading" or
anything. I understand she's in work
place and maybe can't talk like that but
what would you do if you bf told you how
he felt and he feels that you're not
paying attention to him and that your
feelings look like fading for him? What
would you do?
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funfearlessfemale
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Columbus Ohio
Trust Your Instincts Posted: 11-16-05 16:11pm
I have been there before. I have always
been the type of woman that when I fall I
fall hard and give 100% to the
relationship. My most recent
relationship has been crazy and I finally
ended it alst night when he showed up
drunk at 330 am after not calling me all
day. This same man before, I asked him
if his feelings were fading and he kind of
let it rub of his shoulders. He asked me
the same thing and I swore it was not
fading at all. I would think that if
your woman is not really trying to talk to
you, and is putting everything back on you
then maybe you are right. If you are a
good guy and there is not that much time
invested, I would move on now before its
harder for you too then it will already
be.
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Follow Yr Heart. Posted: 01-13-06 19:22pm
Sometimes we stay in a relationship
because we know the value we see from the
other partner, so we forgive their wrongs
and overlook some. But when we know that
the future could hold a bitter taste the
we have to be straight up and reason
properly.
I have been there b4 too. I felt I was
fed up and so on but I stayed in bcuz I
knew I might not find such highly valuable
woman;that not withstanding, we broke in
the end, like 8 months now.
Summarily, you just have to own up to
yrself and be real. What do you want?
What do you see? What lies ahead? You
must protect yr happiness in the end.
Never compromise that.
Sam
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1helpme1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 10 Location: PA
Posted: 01-15-06 12:53pm
Im in the same boat. The only diffrence
is the woman im seeing is marryed. She
says she's getting a devoric I beleave her
since I went to the laweryers with her.
Last night we had a big fight and I said
things to her that I really didn't mean.
We talked for a little bit today. Now im
the one that is in the shitter. Us guys
can never get things out the way we mean
it. Thats one of down falls. The only
thing I can say to you if ou feel for each
other then the talk is not over and you
need to talk frm the heart. Send her
flowers and vise a vers. If you love each
other then theres nothing that can get in
the way. You just need to learn how to
talk things out.
