How Do I Help?!!please!!! Posted: 11-03-05 22:23pm
My fiance is bipolar and I need some
advice! We argue alot, but I love him
more than life itself! What should I
do/say to show him that i'm not going to
leave him!! He thinks that because he's
not the easiest person to be with and
because he yells at me alot that i'm gonna
leave him! He is my everything and I
could never leave him/ do anything to hurt
him! Is there any way to ease his fears!
Also when he's angry or upset what should
I say/do to show him that i'm there for
him! If anyone can offer any advice I
would greatly appreciate it! He is an
amazing person and I just want him to be
happy!!!
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 11-04-05 02:24am
Does he take his medication? Is he
mentally/emotionally abusive to you?
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sweetp
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Florida
Posted: 11-11-05 16:17pm
He takes meds ,but they don't seem to be
working!He yells alot! But I love him
more than anything! I just want to help!!
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sweetp
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Florida
Can Anybody Help Me!!! Posted: 11-20-05 09:53am
Can anybody help me things are getting
worse! It seems the harder I try to help
the worse I make things! I love my fiance
with all my heart but we're drifting
apart! I think it would be allot of help
if I knew how to help & if I
understood exactly how he was feeling
everyday!He told his mother the other day
that he felt like no one truly loved him!
I don't know what i'm doing wrong!When
he's not angry we get along great we do
little things like hand make each other
cards and just silly stuff like that! But
when he's angry I feel like he could be
right next to me and miles away at the
same time!!!!If anyone has any advice I
would be so thankful!
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lauren-pope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Scunthorpe
Re: Can Anybody Help Me!!! Posted: 12-21-05 06:00am
sweetp
wrote:
can anybody help me things
are getting worse! It seems the harder I
try to help the worse I make things! I
love my fiance with all my heart but we're
drifting apart! I think it would be
allot of help if I knew how to help &
if I understood exactly how he was feeling
everyday!He told his mother the other day
that he felt like no one truly loved him!
I don't know what i'm doing wrong!When
he's not angry we get along great we do
little things like hand make each other
cards and just silly stuff like that!
But when he's angry I feel like he could
be right next to me and miles away at the
same time!!!!If anyone has any advice I
would be so
thankful!
hi sweetp,
I dont think I have advice for you, but
I am going though exactly the same! I
want him to know to has me, (my boyfriend
had hypomania, a form of bipolar) he says
he feels so lonely and that no one cares,
I love him more than anything in the world
and just want to see him happy. I dont
know what I am doing wrong either. I
havent seen my boyfriend for 4 days now.
Only his sister keeps me updated. I live
with my boyfriend and no one seems to be
letting me know what is happening. Have
you had any usful advice yet? That you
could share with me. I feel so alone and
guilty, even though I am trying to keep
his head above water. He is still
horrible to me!
Lauren
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lauren-pope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Scunthorpe
Re: Can Anybody Help Me!!! Posted: 12-21-05 06:01am
sweetp
wrote:
can anybody help me things
are getting worse! It seems the harder I
try to help the worse I make things! I
love my fiance with all my heart but we're
drifting apart! I think it would be
allot of help if I knew how to help &
if I understood exactly how he was feeling
everyday!He told his mother the other day
that he felt like no one truly loved him!
I don't know what i'm doing wrong!When
he's not angry we get along great we do
little things like hand make each other
cards and just silly stuff like that!
But when he's angry I feel like he could
be right next to me and miles away at the
same time!!!!If anyone has any advice I
would be so
thankful!
hi sweetp,
I dont think I have advice for you, but
I am going though exactly the same! I
want him to know to has me, (my boyfriend
had hypomania, a form of bipolar) he says
he feels so lonely and that no one cares,
I love him more than anything in the world
and just want to see him happy. I dont
know what I am doing wrong either. I
havent seen my boyfriend for 4 days now.
Only his sister keeps me updated. I live
with my boyfriend and no one seems to be
letting me know what is happening. Have
you had any usful advice yet? That you
could share with me. I feel so alone and
guilty, even though I am trying to keep
his head above water. He is still
horrible to me!
Lauren
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marylou001
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Kentucky
Posted: 12-22-05 20:46pm
Sweetp,
hi! I actually have bipolar and I will
honestly tell you there is no right way.
The best thing to remember is not to get
mad at him. He really has no control over
his reactions. Little things set me,
perculiarly with my husband I get angry
over him forgetting things.
The best thing for people with bipolar is
to have medicine correctly adjusted.
However even after awhile of the medicine
working the dosage may need to change.
Like with me I take lamitical and was at
200 mg and it was working great! Then for
no reason things began to get really bad
for me. I had my medicine adjusted to 300
mg and feel much better. Even with
medicine we still have our episodes.
It's a really hard illness to live with.
Everyday I think of leaving my husband
because I feel so horribly guilty for
making him live with me and my illness.
Of course he doesn't want this and when
i'm feeling good I don't either. And we
defiantly say things we don't mean like no
one loves me. That's a big one for me
because again I feel guilty and really
don't want anyone to love me when I feel
bad.
Like I said remember not to get mad. Talk
to him only when he is feeling well about
adjusting his medicine or getting
medicine. Also if he is ranting then
remember that its not directed at you no
matter how it seems. Its something you
must taken into careful consideration
before marrying.
If you need any more advise please don't
hesitate to email me. I would be more
than glad to be a support for you and/or
your fiance.
