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trinaoftexas

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Boring Sex Has Turned Me to Dildos And Porn...please Help... Posted: 11-04-05 13:31pm


I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. The first 3 months of our relationship were really awesome! We were having wonderful sex and couldn't get enough of each other. Since that time we have both gained weight and our energy levels have slowed down. But though I am able to give him pleasure and make him cum---he loves it when I work my magic lol---sex with him is....Leaving me very bored and uninterested. Every time we try to do it, even in the beginning of our relationship this would happen at times, he would go for not even a minute and then nut all over himself. I got no climax and barely any enjoyment out of this. I was using my dildo like it was a religion and watching porn and masturbating 5 days a week like 3 times a day just to keep myself satisfied. His sex drive is not like mine. He doesn't want to do it often. I love him, but I just wish he could last longer so I didn't feel like I had to go to dildos and porn. Does anyone have any ideas?

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Posted: 11-04-05 13:54pm


When me n my b/f started haven sex he lasted like 2 mins or so .. And he's the only guy that got me off from him being on top (i've had my share of guys) but we tried playlonger gel, n that just didnt help , after that we started using gel for a form of b/c that I insert into me .. He lasted longer from the condom not being on , then we decided to start trying for a baby he nuts like 2 mins still but we continue to have sex till I cum.. Make him go longer .. I still masterbate sometimes .. But usally have sex everyday.. My adivice is use the gel . It feel alot better .. What kind of b/c r u using?

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Posted: 11-07-05 14:49pm


Tell him that you would like to try something different. Try different positions, different locations (maybe that will bring some excitement for you). Before sex try self masturbastion make him watch. That way you can get closer to orgasm and then you can actually have an orgasm during sex (cum if you want to just so you know that you will). Another thing, bring the toys into the masturbation-let him use them on you. If you bring these toys and stuff in during foreplay it may make it more exciting for you and it won't make him feel left out. If you try not to masturbate during the day you may beable to get closer quicker during sex. Try positions that make him last longer (from the back and you on top are not good positions for him). Get him to try some numbing gel, my husband uses that sometimes and it really works. Try talking to him, let him know whats going on and maybe theres something he can change that you can't. Good luck!

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Re: Boring Sex Has Turned Me to Dildos And Porn...please Hel
Posted: 03-15-06 02:45am

trinaoftexas wrote:

i have been with my boyfriend for a year now. The first 3 months of our relationship were !@#^in awesome! We were having wonderful sex and couldn't get enough of each other.

Since that time we have both gained weight and our energy levels have slowed down. But though I am able to give him pleasure and make him cum---he loves it when I work my magic lol---sex with him is....Leaving me very bored and uninterested.

Every time we try to do it, even in the beginning of our relationship this would happen at times, he would go for not even a minute and then nut all over himself. I got no climax and barely any enjoyment out of this.

I was using my dildo like it was a religion and watching porn and masturbating 5 days a week like 3 times a day just to keep myself satisfied. His sex drive is not like mine. He doesn't want to do it often.

I love him, but I just wish he could last longer so I didn't feel like I had to go to dildos and porn.

Does anyone have any ideas?

first if u bth ahve gained weight an dfeel its make low energy levels try some exercise.. And if he is nuttign too fats then u need to start to use the toys which u have judiciously between the two of u show him what u like from the toys and shwo him wat u like being done to u and wat u like feelin make him watch and now comes the patient part.. U have to try to make it slowly cos from fast he is nutting too fast so make slwoly and each tiem he feels to nut tell him to stop and slwoly start in a new position
speed makes the diffreence cos maybe he like fast and u like slow and women take longer to reach satisfaction levels of the same nature. I woudl suggest he goes down on u poiperkly beofre u indulge in intercourse it cud halp attaining higher levels of satisfaction since with his fingers and tongue he can get u off as wella s any other way no? Try it and see hope it works!!
Ciaoo

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Posted: 03-17-06 21:35pm


You might want to try wacthing some porn together. Have more foreplay before you start to have sex. Let him give you oral for a while first to get you really excited. You may also want him to try using a desensitizing cream to help him last longer but my husband and I do not like to use anything that's not natural so we use a lubricant which helps to make him last longer as well as get me off too. You may want to give him oral about 20 min.'s before you want to have sex, this will make hi slow down a bit I think. Sometimes when we women are not that excited at first our man while cum to fast because our vagina is tighter which makes them finish too fast. Try a lube, it's cheap it's easy and they work! Oh yea, the lube we use is called ready lube and you can find it at there site www.Readylube.Com those are a few of my idea's to help you out. I hope this helps you guys!

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Posted: 03-19-06 14:55pm


You might have to try incorporating the toys into sex. That can help. Either that or let him know that he needs to slow things down. A lot of guys have this problem and it helps for them to go at a slower pace, try to think of other things while in the act, change positions frequently to hold it off....

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Use Toys With Your Ready Lubricant! Posted: 03-19-06 15:39pm


You are right on about using sex toys together. That's kinda what I was saying when I offered the suggestion of useing ready lube. It's agreat idea to play with toys and esp. If your man is to fast etc. When you use toys together then your man most likely will not get upset/jealous because he's involved and it makes him feel like he's giving you pleasure, which he is! ;)

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Posted: 03-19-06 16:01pm


Lol that's why girls like toys over boys =) hahaha and put the two together and it's even better!

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Posted: 03-20-06 18:30pm


Toys only stop when you want them too lol but your right on about putting them both together! :p

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Posted: 03-21-06 21:27pm


Hahaha I know I wish girls could operate a boy like he's a toy...