I have just started going to a pyscologist
about some anxiety and I was just
wondering does it ever go away? Like
we're working through it but I want to get
comfortable like how I used to be. I
still get very nervous to go out in malls
or public places or even down the street.
Things feel sureal to me and I really hate
it. So anyone who has over come anxiety
out there?
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trinaoftexas
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Dallas area of Texas
Re: Does Anxiety Go Away? Posted: 11-06-05 18:04pm
Forgive my comparison, but....Anxiety is
like gential warts....It comes and it
goes. You may not see it for a while and
then you may. You can take medicine to
keep in under control but it stays with
you. Everyday you must live your life the
best that you can because it isn't just
going to disappear like a bad dream.
I am 22 and I suffer from anxiety. When I
was 12 I have a nervous breakdown in
school because I was so apprehensive about
passing a math test because I feared I
would fail for the year. When I was 16 I
got on a rollercoaster and nearly lost my
mind because I could not deal with the
ride. When I was 19 I lost it during a
military training exercise and three
people had to hold me just to get me into
the car. At the age of 21 I locked myself
in a bathroom stall at work crying and
screaming to the top of my lungs and
cursing out customers in a drugstore all
because of anxiety.
I hate crowded hallways. I loathe
carnivals. I hate weekends at the mall.
I can't stand clubs. The thought of a
concert turns my stomach and makes me ill.
Yes, I have anxiety. It is my genital
warts, it is not going away and I must
deal with it the best I know how with
prayer and help from friends and maybe
even medicine.
But I will have this to deal with for the
rest of my life, and I plan to manage it
and deal with it the best I can so I can
have a full life.
Hope this helps you.
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pinksalter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 124
Posted: 11-06-05 19:31pm
Hi there
i have had anxiety for a about a year and
yes you really should enjoy your life to
the full, as after worry your still going
to be alive!
I was really bad at the beginning but I do
believe I have changed a corner and don`t
ever give up hope. I know people who have
got better and don`t have a second thought
about being anxious ever again. Yes it
has changed there pathway in life but it
has always been for the better.
I have the surreal feeling you talk of and
the best way to deal with it is ignore it,
I know how hard this is but if you do
something you love so much your mind
should be occupied.
At one point I couldn`t walk out the
house, now I go shopping, I drive my car,
I go to bars with my friends, I go
dancing, I walk the dog everything I never
thought I could do ever again. Take it
one little step at a time you will get
better and I don`t believe it is
necessarily a lifetime experience. The
power of the mind is an amazing thing
which can change how you feel. Anxiety is
a learned behaviour, your doing the best
thing seeing a psychologist.
Good luck with the future
debs
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popprincess
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 46
Posted: 11-13-05 03:12am
I agree, it comes and goes, I have times
where I can go to shops like I did before
it started and feel relaxed, other times I
panic so much, I think I am going to
faint, I am generally a very panicky
person though!
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Lennon
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 81 Location: Canada
Posted: 11-13-05 03:27am
Anxiety was around before you ever had an
episode with it. You just didn't focus on
it and now you do. It doesn't go away the
same way it wasn't started.....Everyone's
born with it. You let one bad time get to
you and you're afraid of it. The fear of
it and focus that you put on it are the
only things that are keeping it scary and
consuming. It never goes away otherwise
you'd just stand there when someone points
a gun at you. Anxiety has a purpose if
you aren't afraid of it.
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popprincess
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 46
Posted: 11-13-05 03:52am
I agree, my life has changed considerably
since I had my first panic attack, because
I live in constant fear!
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truckstophero
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 84 Location: alabama
Posted: 11-15-05 12:13pm
My life has changed immensely. Had my
first panic attack a year ago at the age
of 28.. Felt weird that I have done so
many crazy things in my life, travelled to
rough countries and taken lots of risky
trains busses and cars but never had any
problem until the panic started.
I live with anxietey. Some times I wake
up thinking its going to be my last day,
iwth a really bad premonition that I am
about to die.. Othertimes I can go weeks
without being affected too much.
Its just a matter of dealing with it when
it comes and trying to ejoy every moment
when you dont have it.
It does change your life, it changes your
perspectives, it changes your priorities..
But sometimes thats not such a bad thing!
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junhorde
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Nov 2005 Posts: 5
Posted: 11-16-05 05:46am
Anxiety is a weird deal. I've always had
anxiety even as a child, not constantly
though, usually it was something I was
scared of seeing or doing when I was a
kid. My parents got divorced when I was
young and having to go visit him on the
weekends and be around my wicked step
mother made me very anxious. Over time, I
basically shut myself out of the world as
much as I could. I did this to avoid
anything stressful. I spent alot of time
being alone doing things alone. As I got
older, I started to feel like I missed out
on alot (which I did) but I started to
have cravings for real life. Because I
was in the real world, I had to deal with
things I never had to deal with in the
past. Work, money, driving, sex,
relationships and so on.
Some things weren't so bad while other
things stressed me out to the max. In
1998 I was totally stressed out to the
max, my anxiety at the time (didn't even
know I had it then) made me so sick, I
thought I was going to die. My heart
would skip beats and I would get chest
pains. I couldn't sleep for more than 3
hours at a time, some days I wouldn't
sleep at all. It was really scary, I even
went to the doctors to have my heart
checked because I thought I was going to
die. The doctor couldn't even take my
ecg because I was jumping around so much.
(i couldn't hold still) but she gave me
paxil. That night I got home from the
doctors and was still feeling sick, I took
one paxil pill and it made me feel sick
(it wasn't paxil, it was my brain telling
me this) anyways, I never took anymore
paxil. About 1 week later I felt better.
It's almost as if my anxiety just
disapeared. I started to get sleep and
felt alot better. Over the next 3 years I
did fairly well. The anxiety came back
from time to time, but in the fall of 2001
it hit me very hard again, about the same
as it did in 1998. This time my anxiety
was brought on because of the world trade
center crap and my dad had a heart attack.
Plus my sister was getting married only
weeks away. Needless to say I was
stressed out!
I suffered for about a month or so.
Finally it went away like the other time.
During the spring and summer of 2002 I
started to feel like it was coming back
again, but I tried my best relax and not
let it happen again. Then something
happened that changed everything...I met a
really nice girl. It was almost like
night and day. I had no stress, no
anxiety and felt better than ever in my
entire life. I also lost about 30 pounds
(i was at 245 pounds before I met her)
over the remainder of 2002 and the course
of 2003 to 2004 I felt pretty damn awsome.
Then something bad happened, I broke up
with the girl. This caused me a great
pain, however, I managed to get over it.
Then in august of 2004 I started to feel
anxious again, and slowly the anxiety
started to come back. In january of 2005
I hurt my back and neck and lost my job,
this caused me a great deal of stress and
anxiety. Although the pain kinda took my
mind off my worries to a degree. (sounds
weird, but true) in june of this year my
neck and back got better but the stress
and anxiety has stuck around. I've been
suffering with it all summer long, in the
last two months I have never been so
stressed out and anxious in my entire
life. I haven't had much sleep lately and
my health feels like it is failing.
However, yesterday I went to see the
doctor and he put me on celexa. (hope it
works) last week my girlfriend gave me one
of her xanax to try and it really helped
too, in fact I slept like a baby the night
I took it. She gave me 10 of them, but
are now gone and she won't give me
anymore..But that is understandable. But
it's amazing how well they work. I was
hoping that the doctor would have
prescribed me some yesterday, but he
didn't. It sure would be nice to have
some just in case.
The story doesn't sound like it is going
anywhere, but I will give you and others
some honest to god tips on anxiety relief.
1. Fall in love with someone if you
allready haven't (this is just to make you
laugh) but hey, having someone does help.
(don't be with someone just to make
yourself feel better though)
2. Lose weight and exercise (this is one
of the most important things you can do,
if you can lose weight, you will lose the
anxiety) trust me on this, i'm in the mess
I am now because when I got hurt I gained
lots of weight.
Just make sure you take it slow and think
positive, if you're worried about
exercising you'll fail. Relax!
3. Get out of the house and visit friends
or family. If you can't do that, just go
somewhere period.
4. Eat right, don't drink coffee, cola or
anything with caffeine in it. Worst thing
to do is smoke! You'll never ever get rid
of the anxiety if you smoke. Trust me, I
used to smoke myself. I could never
figure out why I felt so crappy.
5. Get counseling and see a doctor, if
you are really under alot of stress it
requires a doctors visit.
You are probably thinking right now, boy
this guy is talking bullcrap and he
reccomends all this stuff, but is under
anxiety himself. But the truth is, I let
myself fail, I didn't take care of myself
and I gained the weight back and did
everthing I shouldn't have done. And here
I am, sick.
Everything I have said really does work, I
wouldn't have gotten better if it wasn't
for those things. But in order to get
better again, I need to shed some of the
anxiety before I can get back to working
out again. (kinda hard to exercise when
you've only had 2 hours of sleep...Kinda
scary too)
i just can't wait until I can get back to
my old self again, I really miss the old
and real me. It's like night and day.
Good luck!
By the way, I didn't mention it above, but
i'm suffering with panic attacks and all
that good stuff too. (all caused by damn
anxiety!)
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bass
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 1
Anxiety Posted: 11-23-05 16:40pm
Anxiety is a learned behavior. It is not
a mental illness. It is 100%
behavioral. Evrybody has it and the
threshold can be starting from
shyness to panic attacks. In once life ,
you slide from the up and down.
You can get stuck at one point depending
on how you perceiving
things external and internal (like
thoughts). The more you over react
your bench mark will be high , if less
(take it easy policy) then you
will be less. The imp thing is it is not
the events in your life rather
how you reacting to it . Can you control
the world and your mind
thoughts no, but we can how we react.
This is the fundamental difference between
anxious and non anxious people. It is the
worry which fuels
or empowers the thoughts leading to
anxious behavior. You need
to change the perception that something is
wrong, researching.
That itself is anxiety. It is a not
condition coming from outside. Infact
remember " if you do what you used ,you
will get what you always got"
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Jamesab
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 101 Location: UK
Posted: 11-26-05 07:21am
I don't really think that anxiety can go
away, but you can learn to deal with it
better and live your life without having
to worry about anxiety. Its a vicious
circle, e.G. You get a headache after a
stressful days work and it takes you a
while to unwind afterwards, you begin to
get these headaches every evening due to
stress and you begin to worry, this makes
you symptoms worse, which makes you worry,
and this makes your symptoms worse which
makes you worry etc, etc, etc. Your
thoughts have a massive impact on your
physical symptoms. These are called nats
(negative automatic thoughts) these occur
sub-consciously and can just flash through
one's mind, without them even knowing it.
What needs to be done is for them to alter
a part of this vicious circle for the
better, turn negative thoughts into
positive ones and challenge these nats.
I.E. When you have a panic attack
recognize it and say to yourself this is
nothing, im not gonna die, and try to
distract yourself on something positive.
Easier said than done but nevertheless can
be accomplished.
Hope this helps,
james
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monkey87
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Mar 2006 Posts: 1
Anxiety Posted: 03-20-06 10:08am
I suffered really bad panic and anxiety
attacks after I had a seizure,
i was to scare to even leave my bedroom.
But with the support of friends and
family, I have come to cope with it, I
know go to counciling sessions,a nd a
anxiety managemnt course which has really
helped. Yoga and pilates are very good at
helping releave the syptoms of anixety..
It is a very slow process, but if you
stick to it , you will acheieve the goals
you want.
I know can go to pubs, and feel I could go
to cubs, you do have your good days and
bad days, but soon the good days take over
the bad...
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AskDaveAboutHealth
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Dec 2006 Posts: 1 Location: ToBeInformed.com
Anxiety Posted: 12-13-06 08:44am
My friend adam had suffered from social
anxiety. Due to reading a book called
zhuan falun he was able to control his
anxiety and he no longer uses anti-anxiety
medication.
I thought his story might be useful to
someone suffering out there.
