I have pretty much always gone for younger
guys...I really don't want to come off
perverted(lol, although I get called that)
or as a pedophile(cuz i'm not) just wanted
to get that outta the way. Anyway, as
said, I have pretty much always gone for
younger people, dating people 2-4 years
younger than me when I was in high school.
It wasn't a big deal to me. I stopped
when I turned 18, but now, being 19, i've
met this really awesome guy. His parents
think I like him and I think they're okay
with it, but really, i'm not going to
persue anything romantically with him.
He's just someone that i'd really like to
get to know and do the whole friends thing
with and who knows, maybe in 3 years,
something else could happen. I guess my
question is, would it be so wrong for me
to try to get to know him and befriend him
right now with him being so much
younger?(i have other younger like him
friends, but none that I think are cute
like him) again, don't get me wrong, if I
would have known how old he is before I
started talking to him, I probably would
have backed off...But he looks at least
17, which threw me off. Sorry if this is
confusing, just needed a little input.
I'll be glad to clarify if you need it.
Thanks,
machala
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 11-06-05 02:51am
Well, how old is he? If he is any younger
than 16 then you should stay away because
he is too young.
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sweetmac
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2005 Posts: 22
Posted: 11-06-05 03:01am
liz26
wrote:
well, how old is he? If he
is any younger than 16 then you should
stay away because he is too
young.
that's what I thought. He's 15. His
parents have no problem with us being
friends. I'm just wondering if it would
be too weird.
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poohbear101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 11-11-05 19:31pm
This is what I don't get. If you were a
guy who was 19 and you were interested in
a girl who was 15 most people wouldn't
have a problem with it. But you reverse
the situation and all of a sudden it's
something that you shouldn't touch. I
know some people that i'm friends with
think it's because girls mature faster
than boys so therefor having an older bf
isn't really a big deal, but having an
older gf is kinda weird cuz the guy still
acts immature. But in some cases that
just isn't so.
To me personally I would feel awkward
dating a guy who was that much younger
then me if I was 19. Actually i'm 21 and
dating a guy who was 4 years younger than
me would still bother me even though he'd
be 17. But then i've always gone for
older guys. I guess as you get older age
doesn't really matter as much because it
doesn't seem that big of a gap like when
you're 24 he'll be 20 and people won't
really think anything of it blah blah
blah.
In the end if you're comfortable with it
and so is he maybe thats all that matters.
Although there will always be people who
aren't so into it and you'll probably get
a lot of sh*t because of it. It's just a
personal choice.
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Tony Williams
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2005 Posts: 52 Location: UK, Liverpool
Posted: 11-12-05 06:35am
Go for it ... You might never get another
chance.
I know someone in the same boat he is male
and 19 and his girlfriend is 15 and they
have had a happy life for 3 full years.
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 11-12-05 08:17am
Nah mate way to young!!!
I friend of mine did that...She was 19 he
was 15. She fell pregnant and although I
do give him credit for standing by her for
as long as he did.....He was just too
young and didn't understand the
conseqences!!
Hopefully that senerio doesn't happen to
you but good luck with your decision!!
:-)
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ironmantaylors
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
Posted: 11-15-05 11:58am
My advice is live life. You are both too
young to really know that you will be
together forever. Now, because you are
older, you assume a certain responsiblity.
You need to be responsible. Do not
forget that. 6 months of fun could cause
you 60 years of regret. He is young, as
are you, be very very careful not to
reduce your chances of being happy later.
Live life, but no regrets.
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Cambion
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Nov 2005 Posts: 747
Thanks: 3
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Posted: 11-15-05 13:27pm
A four-year age difference might seem like
a big deal just because you are so young.
Just think, a 15-year-old dating an
11-year-old - that sounds really weird.
But, if it's a 30-year-old dating a
34-year-old, no one would think anything
of it. It's weird how that works, isn't
it?
This is only my opinion - as odd as it
might seem to date someone who's four
years younger than you, you need to ask
yourself just how much you care about this
guy. If it's just a little crush, then it
would probably be best not to pursue him,
because crushes will fade with time. But
if you tihnk that you really care a lot
about him, perhaps even if you are able to
say that you love him, then you can at
least give it a shot. If things feel
really awkward, then maybe it will be time
to move on, but if you both are happy
together, then don't worry about what
anyone else may think of you - real love
knows no boundaries.
You'll never know if you don't try -
remember, a life without risks is no life
at all. Good luck to you guys as you
decide what path you're going to take.
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-16-05 04:22am
I'm 19 and my bf is 23 and some ppl still
say that's weird. My friends think it's
weird that he's 4 years older than me and
that I can so easily get along with his
friends when we hang out, but really I
don't think it's that much difference...
