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Masterphone
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Joined: 19 Oct 2005
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Location: North Carolina
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Orgasm Question
Posted: 11-07-05 15:17pm
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I feel like big fool asking this, but I
dont know where else I could ask a
question like this. I've only just
started having sex, but i'm not sure if
i've ever had an orgasm. How long do they
last? Does it just feel insanely good? I
don't have a clue, any advice? Thanx
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jma1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2005
Posts: 85
Location: Alabama
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Posted: 11-07-05 15:34pm
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You haven't had one, if you did you would
know it. Yes they feel great. I can't
explain it really. Sometimes its so good
I can hardly keep my eyes open for it,
sometimes it makes me scream out and
sometimes I can't even make a noise they
are so good. Sometimes they last long,
and sometimes they don't. The best thing
for me to say is masturbate. Learn your
body, find out what it takes for you to
have an orgasm. Once you have one, you
will know! There will be a climax (a
build) and then a release. It feels like
an explosion.
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fortyoztoloudog
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Joined: 30 Oct 2005
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Location: New England
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Posted: 11-07-05 15:44pm
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Oh yes, trust me, you will know if you
have one.
It's hard for me without my boyfriend, but
if you play long enough you can get one
urself.....
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Love Me
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2005
Posts: 1
Location: san jose
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Orgasm...
Posted: 11-07-05 16:49pm
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I think masterbation is the only way I can
even have an orgasm...
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005
Posts: 288
Location: Amherst VA
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Re: Orgasm Question
Posted: 11-07-05 17:07pm
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| masterphone
wrote: | | i feel like big fool asking
this, but I dont know where else I could
ask a question like this. I've only just
started having sex, but i'm not sure if
i've ever had an orgasm. How long do
they last? Does it just feel insanely
good? I don't have a clue, any advice?
Thanx |
buy a vibrator!! It will not tke you long
to find out what an orgasm is all about
:wink:
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Loki_
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Joined: 20 Sep 2005
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Posted: 11-10-05 16:11pm
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Hmm, it really depends. Masterbation and
knowing yourself, you can have an orgasm.
With a partner, for women, the best thing
is foreplay. Maybe there should be more.
Oral sex and just a lot of teasing the
clitoris can stimulate an orgasm, and
maybe getting warmed up before penetration
will make it easier to have an orgasm.
Just see what your body likes, and find
out for yourself. Then you can probably
communicate to your partner what feels
good and what doesn't.
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sippycup
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Joined: 10 Nov 2005
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Posted: 11-10-05 16:18pm
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You can only really have an orgasm from
being fisted.
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coriolus
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Joined: 31 Oct 2005
Posts: 10
Location: Canada
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aprilynn
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Location: Charlotte, NC
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Posted: 11-10-05 16:44pm
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| sippycup
wrote: | | you can only really have an
orgasm from being
fisted. |
sew trew
my motto has always been 5 fingers, no
dingers.
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Kgirl16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005
Posts: 133
Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-13-05 22:42pm
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There are 2 different types of orgasms.
One is clitoral stimulation, the other is
g spot penetration. Rarely will either be
achieved from sex, though many of us will
fake it to make our partners feel better.
But fingering is probably the best way to
go.
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Jessica_CF20
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Joined: 02 Nov 2005
Posts: 207
Location: NM
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Posted: 11-13-05 23:48pm
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You will deffinantly know if you reach
orgasm its unmistakable
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coriolus
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-14-05 13:15pm
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"though many of us will fake it to make
our partners feel better"
this is something I will never understand.
Do you really think your partner would
appreciate it if he knew you were faking
it?
All you have to do is tell him what to do,
or guide him somehow if he is too useless
to make ya squirt...But faking it is just
plain dumb.
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Kgirl16
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-14-05 13:57pm
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Why? I very much enjoy sex with or
without an orgasm, it just makes it better
for him. He said he doesn't care as long
as I don't tell him when I do and do not
fake. I enjoy sex as a whole better than
an orgasm sometimes
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coriolus
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-14-05 16:22pm
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It is just counter-productive really....
Why bother faking it when you could
actually climax? Sure most women enjoy
sex without having to have an orgasm but I
like to give my woman an orgasm before I
even get close to penetrating her,
otherwise things get outa hand ;)
what she does if she thinks it will take
too long or too much effort to get there
is she will decide to just have sex. I
would rather she did that then lie about
it, jsut seems so unnecessary and mildly
immature.
To each their own I guess.. /shrug
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sh5nton
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Joined: 17 Nov 2005
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Location: western australia
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Posted: 11-17-05 09:54am
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I'm 20, I have been with my boyfriend 3
years and no orgasm, not eve close. I
can't even be directly on top because I
find it hurts to much, feels like too much
pressure or something. I can't have an
orgasm through masturbation, it just
doesn't turn me on and I get bored. I
should get a vibrator, haven't tried that
yet.
But after 3 years, shouldn't sex not be
uncomfortable anymore? Is it weird for it
to hurt when I am on top? We have the
most open and comfortable relationship and
there is no pressure on me to have an
orgasm, it would just be nice. Is a
vibrator the sure bet?
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coriolus
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-17-05 11:54am
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Try a combination of masturbation and a
little porn. Downlaod something you may
enjoy that turns you on, there are varying
levels of raunchiness frmo soft porn to
more hardcore depnding on your taste.
The softer ones tend to be more erotic..
I think if you try that you may find you
will be more successful. Also try and
relax and not place too much pressure on
yourself to climax, it will happen.
Another thing you can try that apparently
is very effective is using one of those
extendable shower heads that have the
pulsating effect. My girlfriends tell
me that is the only way to fly ;)
regarding the pressure and discomfort,
many women have this problem, you are not
alone. You can try various positions to
try and find some that you will find more
comfortable and enjoy. Try side to side
for example, that can be fun. Also make
sure you are wet enough, if not, use a
water based lubrication like ky or even
better astroglide, both of these provide
adequate lubrication that may easy some
discomfort.
Make sure your partner knows your
discomfort and get him to be a little more
gentle and not pound you as hard as he
usally does, sometimes doing it so he
doesn't ram into your cervix with each
thrust can be all that is needed to
releive your discomfort. The cervix can
be very sensitive in some women and they
dislike the sensation of the penis hitting
that spot. Other woman absolutely love
that sensation....
But try the porn/masturbation combo and
the pulsating shower head and I am sure
you will find what you are looking for!
No woman should go without the release of
an orgasm ever! ;)
good luck to you....Keep us posted.
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Jessica_CF20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005
Posts: 207
Location: NM
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Posted: 11-17-05 17:01pm
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No porn porn is so fake gives false
expectations a vibrator would be the best
bet and the way your body is put together
can be why it is uncomfortable on top .
It is for me if I face him what helps is
if I face his feet and lean towards them
.... And you get g. R. E. A. T
penetration good luck
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Sassafras
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Location: Perpetually behind
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Posted: 11-17-05 18:27pm
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| coriolus
wrote: | "though many of us will fake
it to make our partners feel better"
this is something I will never understand.
Do you really think your partner would
appreciate it if he knew you were faking
it?
All you have to do is tell him what to do,
or guide him somehow if he is too useless
to make ya squirt...But faking it is just
plain dumb. |
it's always so easy to make this kind of
statement when you've never experienced
the flip side of the coin. I could
explain to my partner all day long how to
get me to orgasm but it wouldn't make a
damn bit of difference. And
unfortunately, when you're with somebody
who takes personal offense to your not
being able to orgasm, it makes the
possibility of orgasm only that much more
elusive. Yes, I explained to him what it
takes for me to climax, I painted him
pictures, we played around, we talked
about it, we did everything imaginable.
I told him that i'd never been able to
orgasm with a partner and that it wasn't
something he was or wasn't doing, it's
just how my body works. Unfortunately,
he wanted to make a huge issue of it. He
was actually getting angry with me about
it! After I began faking it, our sex
life improved ten fold. So while you may
view faking it as 'just plain dumb', there
are those of us who see no other option at
times. Luckily, my current bf
understands the concept of not missing
something you've never had. Just because
I don't have an orgasm doesn't make sex
any less pleasurable for me.
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Jessica_CF20
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Location: NM
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Posted: 11-17-05 18:41pm
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You say it girl (sassafras)
l personaly love sex even without the big
o and I have told my hubby I fake you know
what he told me that there was no way and
that was the end of that lol I found the
only way to get there is by vibration I
just love being close to my hubby I mean
dont we all if you trully love the guy I
think it is ok if you dont orgasm
everytime and if you cant with sex thats
ok too.... Not all women are able to
oorgasm with cunnilingus just as not all
men are able to with fellatio
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