K I have a major problem. I am gonna be
19 in a month, and just found out i'm
pregnant. I used a condom and everything
but nothing is 100 percent. I am
supposed to be transferring to a different
college in jan. If I have this baby, I
wont end up going to college (at least not
for a while) and I dont know what I am
gonna do. I have severe depression
problems and I dont want my baby coming
into a world where I cannot provide for
it. Adoption isn't an option either
because if I end up going through with the
pregnancy I know I will want to keep it,
and even if I dont my bf will. He is
having a hard time with the whole
situation because he was almost an
abortion. I am christian too and I dunno
how this is gonna effect me emotionally if
I end up getting the abortion. I know I
am gonna need counseling but I dont want
this to mess me up for the rest of my
life. I used to be anti abortion then I
was pro choice. Now I am pro choice but I
want tto know that I am doing this because
its the best for everyone in the situation
not just me being selfish. My bf isnt
ready to be a dad and I know that. I am
just an emotional wreck right now and any
opinion or advice anyone can give me would
be awesome.
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-07-05 17:45pm
I can really give you any advice seeings
as I disagree with abortions...But I just
want to say good luck with the choice you
make
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lilpattycakes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Vista,california
Hey! Posted: 11-07-05 18:20pm
Well if you need to talk to somebody i'm
here! I'm kinda in the same boat you are
right now!
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BabyGirl05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2005 Posts: 47 Location: NJ
Posted: 11-07-05 19:10pm
Hey I was in the same boat before I was
anti abortion until it happened to me then
I didn't know what I was going to do.
Well I ended up having an abortion, and it
messed me up pretty bad on the emotional
part, I wish everday that I can take it
back. My bf at the time wanted the baby
but the vibe wasn't strong enough and that
messed the relationship up. Now i'm 8
weeks preg again, this time there's no
turning back. I'm going to finish college
and raise my baby. I'm in the process of
trying to transfer too, i'm going to
continue with my plans. You should do
whats in your heart!
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 11-07-05 19:33pm
Hey hun....I was in the same boat you were
a year ago. I just had my little boy a
couple months ago. He's 3 months old
today. They best thing you can do for
your baby is give it life.
Good luck with the choice you make. I am
19 and in my second year of college. I
won't lie...It's tough, but every morning
waking up to him is sooo worth it.
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Zengki
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 10
Posted: 11-08-05 11:50am
Hey! What you're going through is
hard...I had a scholarship to go to
university of texas in dallas, majoring in
pre-med, minor in psychology. I was
going to be on a full ride, but I turned
it down to have my family. I don't
regret having my son, but I do regret not
going for my degree. I had found out that
even tho I had a child, that wasn't going
to stop me from going to school. It
would have been really hard tho, but all
worthid! In whatever you do, I suggest
that you get into a group support, and
tell you're family. They will help, if
not, there are others that will. My
friends have had abortions, 2 of them!
And i'm not going to lie, they did go into
postpartum abortion thing... I think
that's what its called...Anyhow, many
girls go through that, even guys. There
is help tho to get over that. That's
what you should remember, there is always
help out there! Even if its from the
government, its better than suffering,
plus if you're only on it temporarily, its
ok... My son is on medicaid right now and
i'm still on wic. Until I really get
stabled, we will both be private insurance
and wic will proly deny me cause of my
income...I'm not sure... But until then I
will keep being on it cause it helps me
out with my costs. Oh and don't always
trust what you're boyfriend says... You
never know when in the end, he'll run...
I'm not saying all guys do but most of
them do run... I don't know my place
anymore in abortion... I usually tell my
friends, "if you can handle the pain, then
do it, but if you're gonna wonder, think
twice about it." I had a miscarriage once
and it hurt real bad, fortunately I wasn't
sooo depressed. ( the baby was 6 or 7
weeks) another thing, you're depression
may interfere with your newborn baby, but
if you tell the doctor this, he can
prescribe you something or you never know,
you're hormones may change and you'll be a
diff. Person if you choose to keep your
child. Best of luck to you!
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 1089 Location: with my love
Posted: 11-08-05 11:57am
Good luck to u hun . Having a abortion is
hard n if u decide to have one make sure u
have some1 u can talk too ...
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-08-05 13:41pm
Having an abortion is really hard.
Emotionally it drains alot of your
selfrespect, self-esteem and your mind set
gets really messed up. If this is
something you can handle for the rest of
your life! Then do it, but if your doing
this to please your bf then dont even
bother. You can give your child life and
give it up for adotpion. Dont let anyone
force you into it. Counsellors dont do as
much as you think they do. Contemplate
what your giving up before you schedule
the appointment. Dont be afraid to walk
out of the clinic. Be strong for you and
your baby and let you bf know that he laid
down like a man he should act like a man.
But goodluck with your decision and I hope
you make the best one for yourself.
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