Need Advice From Someone (pref. 20+)

I hate to tell you scary things, but have you considered that you wont be able to deliver alone? What if complications arise and your baby comes breech, or your placenta comes first ( placenta previa). You may be one of the women who require a c-section to safely deliver a baby. Have you thought about once the baby is born that you will have to cut the cord yourself and clean up the afterbirth( delivery is very messy) on your own? You need to talk to your parents, I don't know you or them, but I can't think of a parent I know who wouldn't rather know at 5 or 6 months than when their daughter's screaming in pain and they don't know what's wrong!
What if your water breaks while you are out with them? What if you start premature labor? How are you going to hide how big your belly will be at 8 or 9 months? Nobody's street clothes can hide a bump like that!
Sweetie, your best option is to realize that your parents love you, you were their baby, you need to tell them about yours!

Oh sweetie I am so happy for you! I am have been following this and its been so intense from mey end too, I am sittin ghere with tears in my eyes! I am so pleased for you that your parents are so amzing, thigns will weork out, they will get better, welceomt to eh myrical that is pregnancy, best of luck kiddo, keep us posted!

I am soooo happy you talked to your parents. You are very brave! Being brave doesnt mean you are not scared. Being brave is being scared and having the courage to do it anyway! Its not brave if you are not scared! I am so happy that you told your parents about this. It sounds like they love you alot and will support you. I know this whole experience has been very scary for you. I think now is the time to allow yourself to forgive yourself and embrace this pregnancy with love and thankfulness, not shame. God bless you and your little one! I cant wait to hear more info. When are you due, the sex of the baby, baby names, etc. Keep us posted honey!

Well, I have to go back to school tomorrow. I'm just going to let it go at school and not tell anyone. They're smart, they can figure it out on their own. Earlier today, I went to my bible study youth group and michael (youth pastor) helped me tell the people in my group. It was definetly a relief to get it out in the open. And they took it pretty well. I got some phone calls from parents after group, but they didn't light the torches and come after me with pitchforks like I thought they would. We haven't told anyone who the father is. I called him yesterday afternoon and told him. We agreed that having a relationship for the sake of the baby wasn't going to be a good idea and that it would be too hard for him and for the baby if he tried to be a dad from the outside, so he's going to give up all legal rights to her and we'll just be best friends again. Just like before. No one in town will have to know that he was the father and he can go on with his life and the two of us can still be friends. I have to go into school early tomorrow morning because my dad thinks it would be a good idea to talk to all of my teachers and just let them know what's going on. I agree. I think it sucks that I have to do it, but it's probably a good idea. I'm still staying with michael and jenny. I don't feel like i'm ready to go back home yet. I know that eventually i'll have to face the music and go home, but i'm not ready yet. I don't know if anyone can help me with this but i've come to another problem. I cry all the time now. I mean, I cried a lot before, but now that everyone knows and im being judged all the time, I cry so much more. I feel so unhappy with what i've done to my life and how i've wrecked my future. Do you think this is something I can get over on my own or should I talk to someone? Would a baby honestly be happy living with someone like me? So many doubts are flooding my mind right now. Please help me

Im sure your scared and confused right now and its normal but you need to realize that your parents love you and you love your baby whether you know that now or not. It will be hard and very hard at times but you can get through it but not alone. I know your worried about what people may think about you being pregnant but the truth is that you wont even remember half of them in a few years, no one is perfect and people need to realize that and they will sometime. Once your baby is born and you hold it in your arms and see your baby love you already, alot of the worry and scaredness will go away and your parents will fall in love with thier grandbaby. Keep us posted

Also your emotions are so much stronger during pregnancy. Things will be okay. You are not a bad person! You are doing the best you can.

Hey ariellagrim, you have been on my mind alot. Hopefully you will read this. I am just curious as to how things are working out for you? We haven't heard from you, if you have posted I have missed it. So if you read this please let me know how you are doing.

Sincerely,
stacey

Hi miss grimm ur story made me cry I dont what I would have done in ur shoes u are so strong .To hold the torch all alone with no support.I pray for u and u sound like an amazing person.God knows best and he knew u were going to have this child before u did it was in his plan to make u the strong women u are now.But don't cry k cause that like really stress u and the beautiful baby girl out ok if u need any help let me know I would love to just chat with u btw i'm 22 and pregnant with my second child.
Good luck and god bless u my email is tawanasimpson@sbcglobal.Net
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