Extremely Important Please Answer!!!! Posted: 11-07-05 23:22pm
I had a one night thing with a girl of
unknown hiv status.( I have hpv but I am
not seeing any signs of warts on my
penis.) I had unprotected sex with this
girl for like 7 seconds and than I
stopped. What is my chance of getting
infected with hiv if the girl was
infected. I am on my 16th day so far
after haveing sex with her so my window is
still open and is making me so stressed
that I almost sometimes come to the point
I puke what I eat. I have lost a lot of
weight because of just thinking of the
risks and have done every single search
about hiv on the web to learn more.
I got tested a week ago which came out
negative but I am still at the very
beggining of my window.
How easy hiv transmitted from females to
males?
What is my risk of getting infetced? What
is the risk of me getting infected because
we both did oral sex to each other???
Also I fingered her which I feel really
scared because sometimes I have small cuts
on my cuticles. How fresh should a cut be
to be able to take hiv into your blood
system.
Please tell me what you think I am very
very scared and would respect your honest
opinion.
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kiklis2k
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Regarding Extremely Important Posted: 11-08-05 00:09am
Well, to be positive, whether it is 7 sec
of unprotected sex or 7 mts it doesnt
matter much.. Its just yes or no.
Hiv transmission in an single encounter of
unprotected sex is 1 in 300 to 10,000 as
per medical documents. But that can
surely not encourage one. The only way
to be sure is to get tested.
Though weight loss is one of the symptoms
of a early acute infection happening
during the window period, it is not
consistant symptom. As you said, it can
also happen due to stress and anxiety.
Good that you took the first step to get
tested. Test again after 3 months to get
confirmed.
Oral sex has some effect on transmission,
though low. Female to male transmission
is lower than a male to female
transmission. Female to male
transmission is more positive when the
female has more blood flow and that
happens to get in touch with the male
body.
More than that, protect yourself in the
future. Do not go for unprotected sex.
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jenn_smithson
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Re: Extremely Important Please Answer!!!! Posted: 11-08-05 00:52am
tanguero
wrote:
i had a one night thing with
a girl of unknown hiv status.( I have hpv
but I am not seeing any signs of warts on
my penis.) I had unprotected sex with this
girl for like 7 seconds and than I
stopped. What is my chance of getting
infected with hiv if the girl was
infected. I am on my 16th day so far
after haveing sex with her so my window is
still open and is making me so stressed
that I almost sometimes come to the point
I puke what I eat. I have lost a lot of
weight because of just thinking of the
risks and have done every single search
about hiv on the web to learn more.
I got tested a week ago which came out
negative but I am still at the very
beggining of my
window.
wait another two weeks
and get tested again. And then wait a
month and get tested again. If all of
the three tests come up negative, a test
every six months after that should be
sufficient.
Did you tell her that you have hpv? It
will be important for her to know that so
that she can start being treated because
most women are asymptomatic, meaning she
most likely won't have any symptoms and if
left untreated, can cause problems.
You need to be honest with the people that
you have sex with and hopefully they will
be honest with you as well. From now on,
to truly protect yourself, don't put your
penis into anyone without putting on a
condom first, every single time. If you
are going to have sex, that is the only
way to protect yourself from disease and
infection.
Quote:
how easy hiv
transmitted from females to
males?
it depends. Was this
only vaginal intercourse, anal
intercourse, or oral intercourse? Anal
intercourse is the riskiest, followed by
vaginal, followed by oral. Anytime you
have unprotected intercourse, you run the
risk of exchanging fluids which may carry
disease or infection. From now on,
protect yourself.
Quote:
what is my risk
of getting
infetced?
the risk is always
present when you do not use protection.
Calm down and get yourself tested again in
another couple of weeks. I have to say
that if the issue of hiv scares you this
much, you should really look into
abstaining for a bit longer until you can
handle a sexual relationship but that's
just my opinion.
Quote:
what is the
risk of me getting infected because we
both did oral sex to each
other???
oral sex is the least
risky but the risk still exists. If you
or she had a small cut or sore in or
around your mouth or in your throat, you
could have exchanged infected fluid with
eachother. However, without blood being
present in your mouth, the chance of
contracting a disease or infection through
oral sex is small, small but still
existent.
Quote:
also I fingered
her which I feel really scared because
sometimes I have small cuts on my
cuticles. How fresh should a cut be to
be able to take hiv into your blood
system.
reall, any cut would be
sufficient because it is an opening into
your body for things to be transferred.
However, I don't think you have to worry
very much about that unless she was on her
period or had a cut on/near her vagina.
Quote:
please tell me
what you think I am very very scared and
would respect your honest
opinion.
i think you're alright.
You need to relax, trust your last hiv
test, and just make an appointment for
another one in a couple of weeks. If you
are having sex, you must be prepared for
your sexual encounters so that you do not
become this upset after every single one.
From now on, if you are going to have
sex, practice safer sex with a condom on
every single time from beginning to end.
Peace,
jenn
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Finess150
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Some Facts Posted: 01-20-06 10:44am
It does matter to some extent whether it
was seven seconds or seven minutes - the
longer one is exposed to infection, the
more chance of contracting it. Simple
logic, and recognised fact.
But that isn't so important. A modern
test, after three months from the episode,
is entirely sufficient. Repeat testing
'every six months' from this one episode
is not required.
Chances are very much in your favour that
you will be fine. Ars symptoms are, in
the majority of cases, based around a flu
like illness. Weight loss is rarer, and I
believe that it would occur alongside the
more common symptoms, rather than
exclusively.
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david200587
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Dear Tanguero Posted: 01-20-06 23:11pm
Maybe you should have thought of that
before you had unprotected sex with some
girl that you hardly knew.It's because of
idiots like you that the hiv and aids are
so popular among the world.Maybe you
should learn to keep your dick in your
pants and stop putting it inside of girls
you dont know and then maybe you wont be
feeling so sick.
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Finess150
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Why? Posted: 01-20-06 23:28pm
That sort of comment, david, is neither
necessary or useful.
People make mistakes because that is
human nature - regret is one of our
attributes that we should be thankful for.
If one of those regrets is having
unprotected sex, who is anyone to judge?
But I believe people should be able to
seek help if they have made a mistake, and
if that mistake is a risky encounter, then
all one should do is advise them on the
facts.
What good does it do to admonish them? I
always advise safe, protected sex, but in
the context of good, informed knowledge of
the facts, not simply a rant against it.
Grow up. And by the way, if you look up
the word 'popular', I doubt you could
attribute it to hiv/aids.
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david200587
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Dear Finess150 Posted: 01-20-06 23:58pm
Look here if it wasn't for people like him
making stupid mistakes then maybe the
world wouldn't have so many people in it
with hiv/aids.We need to do something to
stop the spread of it.I don't want my
child growing up in a world that has so
many people with hiv/aids because it
causes a painful death and I wouldn't be
able to stand by and watch my child die of
something so terrible.Maybe you should
open up your eyes and take a look
around,the world sucks but this is how I
chose to deal with it.Thats how the cookie
crumbles
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Finess150
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Hiv Problem Posted: 01-21-06 10:39am
Your children will be fine, so long as
they themselves don't engage in risky
behaviour.
I assure you that admonishing people who
come here because they are worried will
not help.
Giving them sound, informative feedback
on their situation however, does help, I
believe.
You say 'we need to do something to stop
the spread of it'. So what, apart from
coming to the forum and calling people
stupid, are you doing to help solve the
problem?
Remeber, the most powerful weapon against
hiv is education.
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jenn_smithson
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Re: Some Facts Posted: 01-21-06 19:43pm
finess150
wrote:
it does matter to some
extent whether it was seven seconds or
seven minutes - the longer one is exposed
to infection, the more chance of
contracting it. Simple logic, and
recognised fact.
But that isn't so important. A modern
test, after three months from the episode,
is entirely sufficient. Repeat testing
'every six months' from this one episode
is not required.
Chances are very much in your favour that
you will be fine. Ars symptoms are, in
the majority of cases, based around a flu
like illness. Weight loss is rarer, and
I believe that it would occur alongside
the more common symptoms, rather than
exclusively.
I disagree. If he or
anyone else is going to continue having
sex, then regular testing should be worked
into their routine, not just for hiv but
for other sti's as well. That is why I
suggested testing every six months. I
doubt that this will be his only sexual
encounter or that he will remain
completely celibate.
Peace,
jenn
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Finess150
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Ok Posted: 01-23-06 06:58am
That's true jenn. Sorry I was assuming
you meant testing every six months based
on that one encounter.
