Need Some Personal Advice Posted: 11-10-05 12:56pm
Me and my husband have been ttc. But
lately he seems to not want to have sex or
to be able to preform. I thought it was
just cause he didn't really want to have a
baby yet but didn't want to tell me. But
he swears up and down he really does want
to start a family with me. So I guess
my ? Is how can I get him in the mood or
do u really think he's lying to me and
he's trying not sabatose us concieving.
He didn't even want to have sex when I was
supposed to be ovalating. He just says
he's tired or not in the mood. :oops:
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SadMommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 194 Location: California
Posted: 11-10-05 17:52pm
My goodness, I think you just read my
thoughts........ :lol:
i am haveing "some what" the same
probleme. My husband just does not seem
in the mood and he used to be. So at
first I thought, ok is he trying to tell
me something? But then I thought I really
need to talk to him about it, so I did.
From our conversation I got the fact that
he is just tired of ttc.... I have gone
crazy with the idea and basically our love
life has turned into a job.....So I am
working on not making in maditory for him
to put in his work hours and have tried
going back to the way things used to be
before all of this came about. Not easy I
tell ya.....But I am doing it.
I have still gone crazy ttc, but I try and
keep it to myself!!!
Love, tammy
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 11-10-05 22:10pm
I think you're husband is just tired of
sex because instead of it being something
intimate and enjoyable ... It has become
a chore. Instead of telling him that
"it's time ... I'm ovulating" ... Keep
it to yourself.
When you know that it's time for his men
to start marching, do something romantic.
Run a warm bath that you and him can
relax in together. Give each other
massages with baby oil. Maybe even watch
a porn (if it's your thing). But, in the
meantime, be doing the same thing so he
loses track of when and what times you're
ovulating. Most men don't want to hear
about that stuff - they just want you to
handle your business and they'll assist in
any way you need them to.
It's hard not being able to tell him
everything that's going on ... But I
think it would probably help in the long
run. Try to distract him so he can't
even figure out the times and dates of
your ovulating, etc.
Good luck and I hope everything works out
for you ;-)
i think you're husband is
just tired of sex because instead of it
being something intimate and enjoyable ...
It has become a chore. Instead of
telling him that "it's time ... I'm
ovulating" ... Keep it to yourself.
When you know that it's time for his men
to start marching, do something romantic.
Run a warm bath that you and him can
relax in together. Give each other
massages with baby oil. Maybe even
watch a porn (if it's your thing). But,
in the meantime, be doing the same thing
so he loses track of when and what times
you're ovulating. Most men don't want
to hear about that stuff - they just want
you to handle your business and they'll
assist in any way you need them to.
It's hard not being able to tell him
everything that's going on ... But I
think it would probably help in the long
run. Try to distract him so he can't
even figure out the times and dates of
your ovulating, etc.
Good luck and I hope everything works out
for you ;-)
I totally agree with everyone. When sex
becomes a "chore", all the fun is sucked
right out. Sometimes the stress of ttc
makes everything even more stressful -
which can hinder getting pregnant. So let
loose & have some spontaneous fun! !
Hollie
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sbslove
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jul 2005 Posts: 82 Location: Vail, IA
Posted: 11-11-05 12:32pm
Thanks guys for the advice. I will try
that this month and hopefully it will
work. Cause it's pretty hard to concieve
when u don't have sex at the right time.
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SadMommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 194 Location: California
Jennifer23 Posted: 11-11-05 14:26pm
I also agree, well said!!!! And very
true............
Love, tammy
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holliadrienne
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 87 Location: indiana
Ttc Also Posted: 11-13-05 19:18pm
My husband and I went through the same
thing for 2 months, and I finally told him
when I started taking clomid that we had
to be serious about it or give up trying.
This last cycle has been great, we don't
talk about having a baby, we don't think
of it as a chore, we just have fun with
it,...Which is really important. In a
strange way it has brought us closer I
think, we have fun with it and have some
great sex, and then he props me up with
pillows and we talk.
Sometimes I think it just takes guys a
little while to really get passionate
about having a baby. Give him time,
dont' get upset with him, and things will
work out!!
