Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Marriage Proposal....still Waiting!!! Posted: 11-12-05 08:08am
I feel like I have been waiting for ever
for my partner to be ready to ask me to
marry him!! He's told me that its all
planned out (in his head) and he has to
ask me because its the blokes duty to ask
a womens hand in marriage......That was 4
years ago!!
I'm really worried that when the day comes
(of course I will say yes) I will be
thinking to myself "well its about bloody
time"
has anyone had this experience before and
did it effect your relationship at
all???
Thanks!
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poohbear101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 11-12-05 18:19pm
My friends sister was in the same
situation as you, except she was with her
bf for 10 years before he decided to ask
her to marry him. He was the same way as
your bf though, said that he wanted to and
had it all planned out and they always
talked about marraige, kids etc. He just
wanted to make sure that they were
financially stable and
emotionally/physically ready for
everything that would come with marraige.
He wanted to finish college and get a good
job so he could support her and their
future family, which was a very smart idea
on his part because now they're totally
focus on their kids and not have to worry
about money.
I know it isn't easy but just be patient
it'll happen.
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 11-13-05 01:16am
*sigh* I hear what your saying!!
My partner sounds excatley the same....And
I mean excatly!!!
I just hate how everything seems to be on
his terms. Everything from where we live,
marriage, children etc. I've made alot of
sacrefices to be with him which I have no
regrets doing but it does make me wonder
when is it going to be my turn!!!
Thanks for the advice!! I'm trying!! :-{
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ironmantaylors
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
Posted: 11-14-05 11:17am
Tell him that being married is important
to you. You love him no matter what, but
you have an internal desire to be married.
If he gives you the plan business, try
to set a "deadline" together. Say "i
understand why you have a plan, don't you
think we can be ready to be married by
.........?" if the deadline passes, ask
him, if he says no, follow your heart.
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 11-15-05 01:07am
Well he did once say that if he had his
own way we wouldnt get married till we
we're in our 30's!!! I flat out told him
that I was not willing to wait that long.
I'm 25 and he is 26. Other than that its
always 'maybe in a couple of years'!!!
Thanks for your help ironmantaylors!! :-)
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ironmantaylors
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
Posted: 11-15-05 08:56am
Hey pixma,
a story based on personal experience. I
told my girlfriend in college that we
would get married when she finished
school. I was two years ahead of her.
I got a job teaching school, and we were
long distance for two years. She student
taught in the fall, I was going to ask her
to marry me during the christmas holidays.
She dumped me on oct. 16th. She moved
in with another man in nov. And he asked
her to marry him over the christmas
holidays!!!
Years later, I told her I was planning on
asking her to marry me. She was
devestated. I could tell that it will be
a regret of hers for the rest of her life.
You can read more about this on my post
under "long distance.........." right here
on the dating forum.
My plan is to go broke and die on the same
die, and with no regrets. Try to live
life with no regrets pixma. The best
advice I can give anyone.
Do I regret not asking her? Some, but I
had told her "when you finish school" so
her impatiance cost us both.
Don't let impatience cost you, let him
know how you feel.
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 11-18-05 10:34am
I wont ever leave my stephen! But I can
see where your coming from
ironmantaylors!!
I guess I want it sooo much because I come
from a family (and extended) that doesn't
except pregnancy out of wedlock!! My
biological clock is ticking a hell of a
lot faster than most women my age!! I
would like to be married before I
conceive!! But at the moment i'll take
anything that comes first!!
Thanks for helping!! I'm still very
restless about the whole situation but i'm
not going anywhere!!:-)
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debness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Dec 2005 Posts: 2 Location: HB, CA
Waiting For Proposal Posted: 12-08-05 05:08am
I just turned 50; he's 53. We have 6
kids and 2 previous marriages between us.
He's hinting at marriage in the not too
distant future though there hasn't, as
yet, been a proposal.
It's been almost a year and I haven't met
his friends or kids and feel like he has a
whole secret life when i'm not around.
We're financially ok, live together and
have fun but I don't know if I can marry
him if he asks me because there seem to be
so many unanswered questions. Long
engagements are bad; are short ones worse?
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missbon8
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Dec 2005 Posts: 2
Waiting For Proposal Posted: 12-10-05 03:03am
I too hate waiting. I've been with my
boyfriend for 11 1/2 years and still no
proposal. In 1998 we moved in together
and he told me that we would live together
for a year and then get married, that
still has not happened. 2 years ago he
told me that we would get married this
year in august and now he's says next
august. I don't know how much longer I
can wait.
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nightangel73
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Re: Waiting For Proposal Posted: 12-17-05 01:02am
missbon8
wrote:
i too hate waiting. I've
been with my boyfriend for 11 1/2 years
and still no proposal. In 1998 we moved
in together and he told me that we would
live together for a year and then get
married, that still has not happened. 2
years ago he told me that we would get
married this year in august and now he's
says next august. I don't know how much
longer I can
wait.
if it were me after the year I would have
cut the bootie. If you give the free milk
he won't buy the cow.
