Son Getting a Divorce,is Heartbroken Posted: 11-13-05 00:06am
:( my son is split with his wife of 9
years,he has his 6 year old daughter
living with him.He found out his wife was
cheating on him,she said nothing happen
but talk,but she wanted out of the
marriage,he moved out about a month
ago,but can't get past the fact that he
still loves her and wants to work things
out.She tells him one day that she needs
time,the next day she hates him.He is so
up and down that he has lost 20lbs and
can't get over this.They live in a small
town,and he feels that everyone looks at
him as a failure.I'm worried sick about
him.How can I help him.
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19mommy
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Re: Son Getting a Divorce,is Heartbroken Posted: 11-13-05 00:11am
moms2
wrote:
:( my son is split with his
wife of 9 years,he has his 6 year old
daughter living with him.He found out his
wife was cheating on him,she said nothing
happen but talk,but she wanted out of the
marriage,he moved out about a month
ago,but can't get past the fact that he
still loves her and wants to work things
out.She tells him one day that she needs
time,the next day she hates him.He is so
up and down that he has lost 20lbs and
can't get over this.They live in a small
town,and he feels that everyone looks at
him as a failure.I'm worried sick about
him.How can I help
him.
the only thing I can think to tell you is
just be there for him. You and his child
is pretty much the only thing he has in
his life right now so dont rush him, just
support him. If his wife loves him as
much as she should then things should work
out. Ill pray for your family to get in a
better situation. And who cares what the
town thinks....Everyone has their hidden
skeletons so they should look at
themselves before they judge others
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 11-13-05 01:45am
Not to be mean or anything but I think
your posting in the wrong forum for this.
But my father is going threw divorce and
he was heartbroken because my mom was
having cybersex with people, and then she
left him for our computer guy. Then they
broke up and shes been with a few men now.
My parents cant even talk anymore with
out yelling and screaming. At first my
dad still loved her, it took him a year to
get over it, but sometimes he has
replapses. But you gotta understand my
dad thought nothing was wrong it was a
total surprise and they were married for
22 years.
Not to be mean or anything but I think
oh_mommy needs to shut her mouth and go
play with her barbies, you're too young to
even be talking to an adult about this
kind of situation.
Re: Son Getting a Divorce,is Heartbroken Posted: 11-13-05 11:38am
moms2
wrote:
:( my son is split with his
wife of 9 years,he has his 6 year old
daughter living with him.He found out his
wife was cheating on him,she said nothing
happen but talk,but she wanted out of the
marriage,he moved out about a month
ago,but can't get past the fact that he
still loves her and wants to work things
out.She tells him one day that she needs
time,the next day she hates him.He is so
up and down that he has lost 20lbs and
can't get over this.They live in a small
town,and he feels that everyone looks at
him as a failure.I'm worried sick about
him.How can I help
him.
9 years....That has to be difficult for
him.
He shouldn't feel like a failure....He has
done nothing wrong.....If she did cheat
then she should feel like the failure.
My husband and I have been together for
over 8 years and I can't even imagine if
what happened to him, happened to me. I
would been completely devastated.
Life does go on after this and we're
rooting for him. Tell him to keep his
head up; stay proud!
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 11-13-05 17:05pm
I'm sorry he's having such a rough time.
He definetly needs your support right now.
Was she a good or bad mother? Try and
talk to your son, he may want her back or
he may not. Get him to think things
through and get his life in order and take
care of his child. As for her, if she's
not willing to be mature in this ordeal
and to help him through the divorce, shes
not worh another look. I hope things go
okay, and its great for you being there
for him through this!
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 11-14-05 02:38am
Hah play with my barbies. I havnt played
with them since 2nd grade. Maybe you
should realise ive grown up in a household
that hasnt been the easiest and I
understand how my dad feels. Have you
ever seen your own father cry? No? I
have! Do you know how heartbreaking it is
to see your own grown father cry? My dad
means the world to me! So dont go call me
to young to understand! I know what its
like to feel like your in love and get
your heart smashed not expecting it to
happen to me, but it wasnt nearly as bad
as it could have been if I was with the
guy longer then I was. I can only
immagion what it would be like to be in a
realationship a very long time and then
get my heart broken when I thought all
that was in the past
Oh yeah little girl youve been through so
much and know everything.
You havent seen sh*t.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 11-15-05 13:30pm
Dalicia - you're a 17 year old knocked up
mommy, shut the medical question up you
hypocrite.
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19mommy
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Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-15-05 13:43pm
oh_mommy
wrote:
hah play with my barbies.
I havnt played with them since 2nd grade.
Maybe you should realise ive grown up in
a household that hasnt been the easiest
and I understand how my dad feels. Have
you ever seen your own father cry? No?
I have! Do you know how heartbreaking it
is to see your own grown father cry? My
dad means the world to me! So dont go
call me to young to understand! I know
what its like to feel like your in love
and get your heart smashed not expecting
it to happen to me, but it wasnt nearly as
bad as it could have been if I was with
the guy longer then I was. I can only
immagion what it would be like to be in a
realationship a very long time and then
get my heart broken when I thought all
that was in the
past
i hear what your saying oh_mommy there are
soo many people that grow up faster then
they have to and have more experiences
under their belt then many 30 year olds.
I have had a few expierences where I felt
I had to grow up quickly. Seing your dad
cry is probably like the most
heartbreaking experience because as the
strong one ppl think dads arent suppose to
be weak. But even though your young, you
sound like you have some sense(i dont
agree with everything you say like wanting
a baby now but then again who cares what
others think) kay:)
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mia7
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Joined: 09 Sep 2005 Posts: 378
Posted: 11-15-05 17:35pm
I agree that you don't have to be old to
be wise so many people just never mature
and grow up while others have to grow up
very fast.
You never know what other people have gone
through or how hard life is for them so
you should never judge.
to the original post:
i really think that you should just be
there for your son and grandchild and
support him. I know that it is hard to
see your son like this but you have to be
strong and hold him up when he needs your
help.
Try not to get too involved with the
"wife" as they might want to work things
out (you never know) so never really get
involved in their relationship but do form
a strong bond and relationship with your
son at this point when he is having such a
tough time.
It is normal for people who get cheated on
to blame themselves for the situation
simply because they can't comprehend the
reason why this happened. Sometimes there
is a reason and sometimes the reason in so
childish and selfish on the "wife's" part
that it is good for your son to have found
this out now. It takes time to heal and
get over something like this.
Just be there for him and his child.
That's what's important.
