Suffering For Years

That whole situation sounds horrible. I really sympathize. I know its hard to be postive when everything looks so negative......But you can't give in or anything. After all, this is your life, and life is just too damn short.

I know its just a dumb saying.....But you really can't love anyone else if you can't love yourself first. You just seem really negative. The problem might be..Maybe you don't see what you have...You just see what you don't have.

As far as the unhappiness goes, if you are unhappy with a situation in your life, than the only thing to do is try to improve it. If you feel like you are overweight, then a diet change or working out is definitely beneficial. And that would do wonders to your self-confidence. If you hate your job, then maybe you should consider going to school or finding another one. I know a lot of this is easier said than done, but a year or 2 of hard work is better than a lifetime of unhappiness.

And about the female situation.....What can I say, women are cruel. Trust me, it happens to everyone. Some women really come off as immature and cruel....Its hard to just forget about it but you have to.....You have to say to yourself its there loss, not yours. It only takes one right woman to make you forget about all of the lousy ones....So don't give up on that.

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Look im not trying to sound mean or rude I have no place to talk about being overweight because I myself have gained 30 pounds but... You make your own choices in life and if you unhappy about the way you look the go on a diet start exercizing and stop thing such bad thoughts number 1 your parents love you no matter what number 2 who cares what others think even skinny people have body issues no one is perfect im not perfect but only you can make the change yes it sucks being over weight girls come and go and the right girl will love wether skinny fat tall short one eye and 2 noses what ever your problems wether big or small they probably turn you down because of you lack of confidence as far as what happened between you and your sister every day is a new day forget about it dont let people rent space in your head for nothing and as far as a strip club goes they are girls that only want your money caca ill give you a lap dance for 50 bucks of course its natural for you parents to want the best for you dont count the time make the time count nobody really judges you on what you look like and if they do trust me its only to make themselves feel better or its because they are self centered pompus suckers with nothing better to do the worst kind of human being is the kind that feel sorry for themselves no one is gonna join your pity party so my advise to you is put your foot down set goals to lose weight try to be more social at work and then concentrateon going back to school and finishing your degree I cant blame anyone for what happens to my body I make the choice to eat something bad or unhealthy and drinking alcohol isnt helping you to lose weight niether is chocolate I could sit here and say awww poor baby but im not that type of person and once again dont take what I write personal its just my opinoin and opnions are like suckers everybody has one as far as taking your own life thats something you need to really sit and look at how selfish is that you can change for the better yet you rather take your own life think about the people that love you thats a devistating thing to do to them you will ruin everyone because your not happy about something you can change god put you here for a reason and he should be the one to take your life when the right time comes you might not realise this but the world needs you your family needs you andyou need to need yourself and love yourself your probably and intellegent caring loving person deep down inside yes you may have issues everyone has issues I have issues but your stronger then that I beleive you are talk to your sister about what happend talk to someone anyone talk to yourself about it there are times when I feel not confident and then I say medical question the world this is me if you like you like me and if you hate me good your one less person I have to worry about or be nice to and please please please do not take anything im saying personal im not here to judge you im not being mean im being honest this is a message bored and im giving my input on what you wrote yes the world is cold and mean but not the whole world some people do care but your the one that needs to care you need to care and take care of yourself you need to be strong and do the right thing I gained weight and yes I must say that I have been lazy sometimes I feel trapped inside this extra weight sometimes I get mad at myself ts hard to look at people that are skinny and have perfect bodies but this is me and you are you and only we can change us I dont know you and you dont now me but if you ever need to talk im here for you I can understand about being over weight I lived my whole life being skinny and then gained weight and its hard sometimes I can remeber years ago when I though I was just perfect saying and I quote" how can people be so fat they should just exercise they are so lazy" I was shallow and I was picky about they way other people looked but now im walking in thier shoes and I realise what a fool I am and how self centered I was a year ago before I gianed weight my email is alotafun7 9@msn.Com and if you want to talk to someone that dosnt know you and will never judge you then you feel free to write tell me whats on your mind im here to listen and im here to give you the best advise I can now take care and be calm things can only get better from here but you have to make it happenwe need you here in this world for what? Maybe we dont know yet but im sure one day we will figure it out
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Are you getting any help for this. If not you need to talk to a doctor. Once you reach this level of depression you need help to get out. My wife has been disabled for the last five years and then I found out I have diabetes, high blood pressure, and high cholesteral. I had lost all interest in my hobbies and work. No appetite and no desire to do anything. I hate to take pills but i'm taking wellbutren and celexa for depression and more pills for the other problems. They have made a world of difference. I had not exercised in years, now I walk three miles five days a week. I cut out all sugar and watch what I eat. I have lost 25 pounds. I know getting started is the hard part but you have to do it. The most powerful sentence has just ten, two letter words. If it is to be, it is up to me.

Nubnprince:
i have spent most of my life (childhood & adult) being overweight and depressed. I do understand where you are coming from. People think it is very easy to lose weight, but I understand how difficult it is. I kept saying that if I lost the weight I would be happy, well I am not. I had my stomach stapled, lost my weight, but still deal with depression. I have a very distorted image of myself and think I still am morbidly obese. People always tell me how pretty and thin I am, but I still see that ugly fat person. I was really scared about being put on medication, because I heard so many of them can make you gain weight. But I have been taking wellbutrin and prozac and I am doing fine. I also think that seeing a therapist might help. I know what it feels like when there is no hope and you want to end it all. There is hope! I never thought I would be the one telling anyone that there is hope. All I ever use to do is pray that I would get into an accident or get cancer, but I could never kill myself. I would spend hours praying for it to end, because I could not imagine a future for myself. Since I have been taking my meds and seeing the therapist, I do feel better. I haven't wished I was dead for almost 2 months. I can't say I feel really happy, just not miserable. I really wish you luck and hope you will seek professional help.