Best Ways to Get Over a a Relationship Posted: 11-13-05 12:36pm
I recently was involved in a relationship
that came to an end after a year and 8
months...I'm starting to get over her but
then someone always manages to say, "oh
yeah I saw so and so with her yesterday"
and I can't help but think about
it....Someone help!
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ashley_18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 36 Location: Florida
Posted: 11-13-05 20:04pm
I have been in that same situation with my
ex of 3 years. We started dating when I
was 15 all the way until I was 18. We
would break up and I would get so jealous
it would make me sick, I would stop eating
for days. And now that I am 18, and we
have been broken up for 8 months and I
have been dating someone else for 6
months. I look back now and I think to
myself "what was I ever thinking". You
can only learn from a realationship..
Take what you have learned and put it
towards your next one. You are going to
date a lot of people in your life before
you find who you will marry. You just
need to forget about it, do not think
about her, no matter how hard it is. And
whatever you do do not call her, that will
make her think you care. If a girl knows
she has a guy upset then that is just fuel
to her fire. If she knows she is getting
to you, and by going out with other guys
is upsetting you, she will keep doing it.
I am a girl just believe me. The more
you act like you do not care, the more she
will.
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ashley_18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 36 Location: Florida
Posted: 11-13-05 20:04pm
I have been in that same situation with my
ex of 3 years. We started dating when I
was 15 all the way until I was 18. We
would break up and I would get so jealous
it would make me sick, I would stop eating
for days. And now that I am 18, and we
have been broken up for 8 months and I
have been dating someone else for 6
months. I look back now and I think to
myself "what was I ever thinking". You
can only learn from a realationship..
Take what you have learned and put it
towards your next one. You are going to
date a lot of people in your life before
you find who you will marry. You just
need to forget about it, do not think
about her, no matter how hard it is. And
whatever you do do not call her, that will
make her think you care. If a girl knows
she has a guy upset then that is just fuel
to her fire. If she knows she is getting
to you, and by going out with other guys
is upsetting you, she will keep doing it.
I am a girl just believe me. The more
you act like you do not care, the more she
will.
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edplisner
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 30
Posted: 11-13-05 21:46pm
Yeah thanks...When I think about her being
with other guys I get sick to my
stomach...
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ashley_18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 36 Location: Florida
Posted: 11-13-05 21:48pm
Just hang in there
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Loki_
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Joined: 20 Sep 2005 Posts: 29
Posted: 11-13-05 21:54pm
I just broke up about 4 days ago as well.
I too would get jealous if he found
someone else even if we were an on and off
couple. The thing is, I know what a great
guy he can be. But other times, he's
completely clueless to my own feelings and
needs. Things seem like they don't or
won't last for long if I even continued,
and each day just seemed like I was
getting more frustrated and angry. I know
he is a great guy and all, and I hope we
can be friends. But I know I will be just
a bit jealous if he finds someone else who
makes him happy. The thing is to be happy
for them. If the relationship wasn't
working, then maybe it's a better
opportunity to meet the person who will
treat you right, and will fufill and
reaffirm your feelings in return.
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Jessica_CF20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 207 Location: NM
Posted: 11-13-05 22:08pm
Time is the best thing good luck to you
all
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 11-18-05 22:40pm
Seriously, the best thing to do hun is
just to cry it out..You're hurting inside
so why keep it inside? Trust me..I broke
up with a guy of about 2 years & I
balled for a few days...Spend lots of time
with my best friend...You will never get
over it, I still cry about this guy every
once in awhile and think what things would
be like if I was still with him or what
hes doing and who hes with...But seriously
the best thing to do is remember the
memories and cry it out..Keeping it inside
isn't going to help any...Every night when
you go to sleep it's still going to be
there...Good luck though!!
<3
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enigmagnetic
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2007 Posts: 8 Location: ,
Be Strong Posted: 05-10-07 17:58pm
It's tough I'm right there with you trust
me. It hurts you to the bones. I know
though that it gets easier. This is the
third time for myself. Find a hobby. I
picked up the guitar.
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 05-12-07 00:13am
don't worry that much because it's pretty
normal to have such reaction espcially
that it's still fresh. You have to address
what you feel right now and entertain it.
After all, a year and 8 months is quite a
long time. If you truly had feelings for
him, then you would feel such. It
reaffirms your feeling that you really
loved her.
Now, how do you cope up with it? Let it
be. You can't do anything about it for
now. You don't have any hold of her any
longer for you're not an item. If you can
cry it out, go on right ahead. It does
help rather than keeping it inside. Let it
out. It's like a therapy to help you with
the loss. Soon enough you'd feel a little
better. Then you can start looking for a
girl.
Make a constant effort to give yourself
some time to heal from the loss. And
someday, even if you see her with a
million men, you can say to youreself, "I
DON'T GIVE A DAMN!!"
