Young And Pregnant. Bf's Happy But I'm Not

Well first off, I will not tolerate such careless responses on how someone " doesn't want to have this baby". That is no ones responsibly but your own! You should of thought about the chances of becoming pregnant when you first started having sex. Its called something of "birth control". Yea, it is not clearly 100% effective but nothing is besides abstinence's. So do not post on this forum about how you are so unhappy that you are pregnant when there are ones out there that wish they could have a baby. Wish that they could start a family while there are others like you, hatting on the fact that you are a mommy-to-be. That is such an immature act I must say! God bless you!

Its called the double bluff. The condom and the pill but I had to come off the pill due to my beliefs and the side affects. And the fact I had a chemical in balance so I dont think anyone should really use the pill. I'm sorry if it sound I hate my baby I just stress that I will hate my baby because i'll regret it. I dont mean to pick on lil girls who wish to have baby's but I dont think they see the seriousness of having a baby.

Maybe your thinking to much on the negitive sides of a ababy, have u thought about the positive at all! There are some people out there who are infertile and wish nothing but to have a baby and your taking it for granted!. I dont believe in abortion, but if thats why you choose to do, do it, but if your bf says he wants the baby and you wouldnt mind going threw all the pain of having it, maybe you can have the baby and give him all the rights to it. But I hope you just choose what is best for you and the baby. Hope all goes well

Before I became pregnant I never believed in abortion, I thro and still think its wrong and unfair to the baby. But I dont wish to be one of thros mother that regret having a baby and hate it for the rest of my life. I believe that if I do have an abortion that I more then likely will be heading to hell as I dont believe its right to kill people. But I have lil support and pretty much alone.

You know what, I dont come on here often anymore.. And i'm not going to critisize you.. I understand the emotions that you are going through, and I know how they can really throw you and your usually better judgements out of wack. In my feeling, if you are going to get an abortion you better have a really good reason.. There are so many other options. If you feel like you can't care for your child properly, then maybe you could let her get adopted by a family who could. There are things called open adoptions so that you and your bf could watch your child grow up...

When you say " I dont know whether or not I want my baby".. What you really mean is " I dont know whether i'm ready to raise and care for and be responsible for a child"

the situation your in is a tough one. I miscarried a baby girl last year when I was only fifteen. I was absolutely devastated. Not that i'd been trying for a bay when I got pregnant, but it happened and I accepted it as part of my life, and I grew to love the life that was developing inside of me.

Anyways, i'll stop rambling but I think my point was this: only you can make this descion. Dont make a descion because of what your friends think, or parents think and maybe even what your boyfriend thinks(he doesnt have to carry the child). It's your body and your baby.

Good luck, I really hope things work out with you.

I'm sorry i'm not very clear on what I say. I fear more then anything that i'll if I give birth to my baby I will grow to hate her. I would love to be ready for a baby but i'm not sure i'm ready to take care of another life. I wish I was, I wish I had a house and money and steady life for my baby. Adoption is an option but what if I have the baby and fall in love with her then I have to give her up. I've decided to make the right decsion for my baby so either give birth or adoption.

Like I said, I understand.. It's really hard. I truly dont believe you'd ever hate your own child. You might hate the fact that your own adolescence was cut short, or that you werent able to give her everything she deserves. I hope you just follow your heart and do what you feel is best.

Remember, god does not put things is front of you that you cannot handle.

Thax you I hope I do make the right decsion.

I hope you do the right thing. I havea friend who is adopted, and she dosnt mind, she realises her birth mom couldnt handle keeping her because her mom was 16, and my friend has health issues that cost her family around 500 dollers a month on meds. Its sad really, but I hope u make the right distion. Hope all goes well..

I hope I really do make the best descion for my baby

It doesn't matter whether you're 17 or 47 a baby can and will change your life, but only if you let it. It doesn't stop you from achieving your goals, it might put your life on hold for a while, but like I said, it doesn't stop you. One of my friends had her daughter when she was 18, she left her job for a year, now my friend is 23 and her daughter is 5 and she just got her diploma in childcare, yes, if she didn't have a baby she would have completed her diploma a few years b4, but she was dedicated and got there in the end. I'm 23 and have a 1 year old, but don't plan on going back to work 'til hayleys in school, but thats my choice. I hope you do whats best for your situation. Hopefully your relatives and friends are there to help and support you no matter what. Best of luck :)

I understand your fears, youngandpregnant. I'll say right out that I have never been in your situation, but I think I can relate to your feelings. I myself hate children with a burning passion, and I have decided already that i'll do whatever I can to see that I never have children because I know I would not be able to raise them how they should be raised. I know I would probably immediately despise my child and look at it as a plague upon my life; i'm the kind of person who would smack a kid across the head if it does something wrong or annoys me because I have no patience with children of any age.

Now, i'm not at all saying that children are bad and that no one should have them ever again. People who really do not want children will dislike their kids to varying degrees. But no one here can tell you what you should do with your child - it is growing within your body and you may decide what will become of it. You can choose to raise it, put it up for adoption, or abort it. Despite the major controversy over abortion, there is no "wrong" choice here; do what your heart tells you to do. If you feel that you just are not ready for a child at this time in your life, consider adoption.

The only thing I can tell you is to please consider all of your options before making a final decision. Granted, a child will not stop you from ever achieving anything good in life, but you will need to put your education on hold for a while because of it. Do remember...When you have a child, you don't come first anymore. Good luck to you, whatever choice you may make; I hope things will work themselves out for you.

I'm not going to argue with you, mum2bubba - I too pray to god I never get pregnant. I can't help the fact that I dislike children - i'm not good with kids. Some people can make that commitment to another young life, and others just can't - i'm one of those who can't. I'm not saying I would purposely abuse or neglect my child, because, as much as I hate kids, i'd never intentionally hurt one. But I know I could never give a child the love it needs and it would end up neglected, and I would probably choose to go the road of adoption.

I'm not saying having children in general is bad, because I know some people love babies and say it's very rewarding to have a child and raise it - that's their own opinion, just as disliking children is mine.

Anyway, like I said, i'm not going to argue about this - this topic isn't about what I like and don't like, so let's not take away from the original intent of the topic so the author can get the answers she seeks.

Im 7 weeks pregnant and im in my second year at college/university,ive got this year untill june (im due in the end on june) and next year. Nothings chaning except im moving in with my boyfriend before I give birth.
I dont think there should be any problems for you and your education if you really want it!
Xxx

Its your body hun, the only advice I can give is do what you think is best for you and your emotional well being as that is extremely important!!!

Im pregnant with #2 and there have been days I have been terrified and days that im happy about, I have one daughter and I forget how to handle them when they are so small as well as now i'll have two lol!
I'm 21 and their are somedays im afraid can I give elisa the same love I do now as well as baby and what about sibling rivalry, so although I have had one I have another learning expierence to happen but I made that choice and now im walking the path.

No one has any right to tell you what to do like I said its your choice, I didnt like my daughter when first born(baby blues) and no joke took about three months for me to build a bond with her but I love her to death now. If you plan on having it I would help you if you needed someone to chat with or if you have an abortion I would have an open ear, I dont know anything about adoption so I cant really help but I can try.

Im so sick of people on here dissing others when people should be at least somewhat supportive instead of judgemental...............If anyone needs an open ear send me a message!!

Jess