Keep your baby. I know it is scary and you may feel unsure about the road that lies ahead, but remember baby t doesn't have a choice. Make the right choice for her. Keep her.

But its hard enough to be pregnant and almost 17. Then a mother and 17. So still scared and unsure and running out of time

How far along are you?

About 19-20 weeks

Find a support group. Whether it's your family, a group of friends, or people from church (if you go). It's going to be scary. Whether you are 17, 24, or 35. It's scary. But if you have a strong support group they can help you weigh your options. They will also be there for emotional support and to help you not feel so alone. From what you wrote I don't believe you want to get rid of her, so don't. Follow that instinct and believe that everything will work out for the best. Just because you have a baby doesn't mean that life around you will stop. Be determined to accomplish your dreams. Even more so because you have a little one to raise.

My family arent behind the pregnancy really. My friends arent very supportive as I through. So maybe the church will be good. My new boyfriend is very supportive. So I have him at least. My ex is supportive too soo I have him as well.

Whatever you decide, do it for you and your baby..... Nobody else.
You don't want to regret what you do so make sure it's what you really want.

Nobody here can tell you whether to keep the baby or not....You'll be the one to change, feed, clothe and love it!

If you need any support we're all here for you hun :d

take care.. And best of luck!

I think you should keep the baby. I know many people who gave their baby's up, and they regret it so much. Every time their birthday passes, christmas, etc. They always wonder what if??

I would keep the baby. But this has to be your decision. Even though your family is not really behind you or your friends, trust me there are people out there that will be behind you. You say your new b/f is supporting you so there is one person right there. It is all frightening trust me. I was 19 when I got pregnant with my little girl and I didn't even have family around. My family lived in guam and I in the us. But I did have the church. I am so happy that I kept my little girl. She lights up my life. She is now two and I am married. Things have a way of happening for a reason. Maybe your little t is here for a certain perpose but she wont have that perpose if you don't keep her. Just think long and hard about it. And remember you always have all of us. Good luck! We all wish you the best.

Your all very supportive. I've decided to see what the people of my church say. I'm glad I join this forum noones been rude or judgemental of my situation. Everyone here is different. My friends have told everyone I know so i'm being called a promiscuous person. So I really need people to be supportive

Hi, I think that you should keep your baby....I know it's hard...I just recently had a miscarriage and I wish that I had him....It's even harder to lose your child I think...Do what you think is best for your child...But I would recommend that you keep her....She is a treasure and even though it is scary and hard because you are so young don't forget your love for her....Having a baby doesn't stop the world....It will keep going...If you remain focused and goal oriented you can still achieve everything that you want to in life....With your baby right there by your side....I wish you all the best of luck....
~brit~

Thax brit what you've said is making me really thinnk

I too had a child when I was young. And my family was not behind me as well. But I decided to keep my son, my family came around and they are all a huge part of his life.

I do not regret my decision at all. Yes it is hard, yes it is trying however it was right for me. And you will have to make the right decision for yourself.

Keep in mind - there are many orgs. Out there to help you with your decision, and they may be able to help you get into touch with other mothers your age to help your decision.

Another thing, if you have already named her, we both know what you want, do what's in your heart, yes it will be hard - but life is hard, if it was easy it wouldn't be so much fun.

Good luck
michelle

I think your idea of being with other mothers to be my age might help. Do you know how I would find young mothers my age, from my area.

This is such a hard dession for anyone, but the first thing I think of when I read your post is it is to late.....Your baby is already a baby at 20 weeks. Legally it is considered a death. This is just hard for me to hear because I am trying to have a baby and I have also lost one. If you decide not to keep your baby please use protection for now on. I no how scared you are right now, and I am sorry for that, but if you decide that you just cannot take care of your baby, there is adoption. It is the best thing you can do for your baby other then abortion. I wish you all the best.........


Love, tammy

I'm sorry you are unable to have a baby. I did use protection, I didnt wish to pregnant so young. I know now my baby is full grown now but being immature as I am, I just put my head in the sand. Now time is growing close and I am unsure I need to make my decsion real soon. I know I sound so ungrateful but iam young and have little support. So i'm scared and I dont know what to do.

I am sorry you feel all alone.....That is the worst feeling in the world. It is a hard dession to make I am sure. It is also hard to be a young mother if you have not got any help. May I ask if the father is in the picture?


Love, tammy

His a good person and wants to be a father and looking forward to it but h'es young and live pretty far away. So he's not much support. My new bf is supportive but its alot to ask him to support me if his not the baby's daddy.

Hey I am 18 and I am also married to a wonderful older guy. You well get throu it youngandpregnant. I know you well.I well also. I remember before I grad from high school this year that I wanted a baby really bad I think it was because I was going to a school that almost all the girls was pregnant.I didnt get pregnant til after I gradulate from high school. I found out I was pregnant august 3rd. I was happy yeah but then we are going throu a money situation. Now I am almost 20weeks and I wish I kinda waited since I am only 18. My hubby is like 11 years older. His family well help if we need it I just wish there was something I could do for you...Hey if you would like to chat sometime feel free to im me..I have yahoo messager:->>>>sweetgirl49022 or damddrewsgirl4ever


hope to hear from you

have a nice day


becky