Joined: 10 Jul 2004 Posts: 305 Location: Fort Stockton Texas
Is It Illegal Posted: 11-19-05 13:44pm
Hi for ya that dint remeber me cause I
havent been on in months im 17yrs old not
a mom I guess thats bout it....
Well I have a question if you were to get
preagnet by lets c some whos 6 yrs older
than 17 ok just 23 what would happen to
him?????
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youngandpregnant
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Posts: 62 Location: London, UK
Hey Posted: 11-19-05 14:36pm
In the uk nothing would happen as long as
your not under 16 you fine. I believe
that in america as long as you dont say
that he raped you, that nothing will
happen to you. I was just wondering if
you were planning to get pregnant.
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Ryansmommy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Alberta, Canada
Posted: 11-19-05 15:07pm
In canada unless he raped you nothing
would happen to him
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Pamer
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 11-19-05 16:11pm
Depends on the state. In texas (which is
says you are from) the law is covered by
21.11 it appears and the age of consent is
17. If you were under 17 it would be
considered indecency with a child. But
if you are 17 you are ok.
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sweetangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2004 Posts: 305 Location: Fort Stockton Texas
Posted: 11-19-05 17:20pm
Yea I am 17 so it would be ok... Well I
dont know about planning on getting
preanet I am on bc and everything I just
wanted to know bc u never know what could
happen but thank ya
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Posted: 11-19-05 20:53pm
sweetangel
wrote:
yea I am 17 so it would be
ok... Well I dont know about planning
on getting preanet I am on bc and
everything I just wanted to know bc u
never know what could happen but thank
ya
I am 24. I remember
last year and I do still remember what it
was like to be 17. As mature as I was
at 17, I would not be prepared to handle a
relationship (other than just sex) with
someone who is 23.
Since, at 17, you tend to think of
yourself as grown, adult, sophisticated,
etc., it is up to those who are older than
you, who have grown more as a person, and
who have had more life experience to leave
you be until you are at a point to hold and
maintain a mutually beneficial and
fulfilling relationship, as an adult. I
don't know what this 23 year old is after
or whether he really likes you or not but
I can say that you are probably not
prepared for this relationship and he
should know better.
The only comparison that I can make is -
freshman year in highschool all of the
senior guys suddenly seemed interested in
most of us. They asked us out and we
swooned at the thought of a big, tall,
senior with a car and cool clothes to
drive us to the movies on friday night.
After a short amount of time, these same
guys started pushing for sex and if you
did have sex with them, they broke up
with you because they got what they were
after all along. If you didn't have sex
with them, they eventually became bored
with you (because you were so young,
probably still had a curfew that they
didn't, and did not fully understand some
of the pressures they were personally
going through as an older person). And,
after they did inevitably break up with
you, you were crushed and figured out what
older guys most often really want.
I am afraid for you that this 23 year old
is only after sex and that you are going
to get used and that it will crush you if
it happens. You have a large amount of
time to date guys in their 20's, you will
have ample opportunity to do so.
Enjoy being 17.
I will never be as free as I was at 17.
I will never be as young. Enjoy dating
silly boys while you have the chance.
Enjoy relationships that are simple
(because the older you get and when you
start having sex in all of the
relationships that you have, they become
incredibly complicated). You do not
need to date someone who is 23 to proove
to the world that you are somehow an
adult, that you are mature, sophisticated,
and intelligent. In fact, I would think
of you as being all of those things if you
decided not to date this guy.
Please don't set yourself up for heartache
and sadness.
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Cambion
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Joined: 08 Nov 2005 Posts: 747
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Posted: 11-20-05 15:12pm
I think it really depends on where you
live - the last time I knew, if you're a
minor and have a sexual relationship with
an adult, the adult can be charged with
statuatory rape, even if you gave him
consent to have sex with you.
I can't stress this enough...If you don't
want to get pregnant, utilize as much
protection as possible. Birth control,
condoms, spermicide, intra-uterine device
(well maybe not this one because it's so
expensive), whatever. But it's good that
you are using some protection now...Always
be careful.
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diamondsz
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Joined: 07 Oct 2005 Posts: 3250 Location: , Candyland-Canada
Thanks: 87
Thanked:125
Posted: 11-21-05 08:40am
Me and hubby started dating on my 18th
bday, hubby was 26 and well everyone told
me he was after sex ironically we shared
the same views and if our relationship
worked we would get married and well it
happened.
I have to agree with other post though men
do think about sex and some arent ready to
commit they want sex without strings and I
guess alot of woman fall vuleranble to
this.
Not all men are like this or else I
wouldnt be married, I know alot of ppl
dont get married today so you should have
a heart to heart with bf about what ifs
just to see what his views/morals are.
Im going on 22 next month and well its
been 4 yrs we have been together and 2 1/2
that we have been married but no matter
what we promised each other we would stay
together. Wish you luck and hope that
this somewhat helped!!
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sweetangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2004 Posts: 305 Location: Fort Stockton Texas
Posted: 11-21-05 11:17am
Thanx for yalls help and well weve been
talking since like feb so I dont know ive
just been through a lot with one of my exs
(he beat me) and well this other guy is
not like that all I guess time will just
have to tell but he does know how I feel
that I am not ready for children so
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Sarah1978
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 123 Location: NZ
Posted: 11-21-05 17:43pm
jenn_smithson
wrote:
I am 24. I remember
last year and I do still remember what it
was like to be 17. As mature as I was
at 17, I would not be prepared to handle a
relationship (other than just sex) with
someone who is 23.
Since, at 17, you tend to think of
yourself as grown, adult, sophisticated,
etc., it is up to those who are older than
you, who have grown more as a person, and
who have had more life experience to leave
you be until you are at a point to hold and
maintain a mutually beneficial and
fulfilling relationship, as an adult.
I don't know what this 23 year old is
after or whether he really likes you or
not but I can say that you are probably
not prepared for this relationship and he
should know better.
The only comparison that I can make is -
freshman year in highschool all of the
senior guys suddenly seemed interested in
most of us. They asked us out and we
swooned at the thought of a big, tall,
senior with a car and cool clothes to
drive us to the movies on friday night.
After a short amount of time, these same
guys started pushing for sex and if you
did have sex with them, they broke up
with you because they got what they were
after all along. If you didn't have
sex with them, they eventually became
bored with you (because you were so young,
probably still had a curfew that they
didn't, and did not fully understand some
of the pressures they were personally
going through as an older person).
And, after they did inevitably break up
with you, you were crushed and figured out
what older guys most often really want.
I am afraid for you that this 23 year old
is only after sex and that you are going
to get used and that it will crush you if
it happens. You have a large amount of
time to date guys in their 20's, you will
have ample opportunity to do so.
Enjoy being 17.
I will never be as free as I was at 17.
I will never be as young. Enjoy
dating silly boys while you have the
chance. Enjoy relationships that are
simple (because the older you get and when
you start having sex in all of the
relationships that you have, they become
incredibly complicated). You do not
need to date someone who is 23 to proove
to the world that you are somehow an
adult, that you are mature, sophisticated,
and intelligent. In fact, I would
think of you as being all of those things
if you decided not to date this guy.
Please don't set yourself up for heartache
and sadness.
at 24 I would have though you would be a
little more open minded. I was dating a
23 yr old when I was 16 and now we are
married and expecting our first child in
april 2006. I was mature for my age, I
had a tough few years when I was about 13
and I had to grow up fast to cope with
that. My older brothers and I were also
raised on a farm and were very indepentent
from a young age. Guys my own age never
had any appeal for me, they were to
imature and pathetic so I always got along
better with older guys, and I can assure
you not all of them were after sex (sure
some were). Maybe it had something to do
with being raised in a rural situation
where it is mostly a male community, and
having brothers who were alot older than
me, who knows but all the women in my
family are married to older men (7yrs at
least) so my mum was very supportive of me
and helped me to realise that there was
nothing wrong with preferring older guys
(my brothers weren't so supportive
however)
i can assure you though that I am not the
only person who feels this way about older
men so please don't judge everyone on your
own experences. Maybe you weren't ready
for a relationship at 17 and preferred
dating young guys but not everyone is the
same.
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-21-05 17:56pm
pamer
wrote:
depends on the state. In
texas (which is says you are from) the law
is covered by 21.11 it appears and the age
of consent is 17. If you were under 17
it would be considered indecency with a
child. But if you are 17 you are
ok.
not really, I live in texas, and I started
dating my now husband when I was 14, he
was 21, and we started having sex wheni
was 14 and he was 21, I wrote it in my
journal that we were having sex and
everything, so when I ran away my mom took
my journal up to the court house and
showed the judge and the judge could not
do anything about it unless I stated that
I didn't want it to happen, so nothing
could happen to you.
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sweetangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2004 Posts: 305 Location: Fort Stockton Texas
Kinda Helped Posted: 11-26-05 19:11pm
jenn_smithson
wrote:
i am 24. I remember last year and I do
still remember what it was like to be 17.
As mature as I was at 17, I would not be
prepared to handle a relationship (other
than just sex) with someone who is 23.
Since, at 17, you tend to think of
yourself as grown, adult, sophisticated,
etc., it is up to those who are older than
you, who have grown more as a person, and
who have had more life experience to leave
you be until you are at a point to hold
and maintain a mutually beneficial and
fulfilling relationship, as an adult. I
don't know what this 23 year old is after
or whether he really likes you or not but
I can say that you are probably not
prepared for this relationship and he
should know better.
The only comparison that I can make is -
freshman year in highschool all of the
senior guys suddenly seemed interested in
most of us. They asked us out and we
swooned at the thought of a big, tall,
senior with a car and cool clothes to
drive us to the movies on friday night.
After a short amount of time, these same
guys started pushing for sex and if you
did have sex with them, they broke up with
you because they got what they were after
all along. If you didn't have sex with
them, they eventually became bored with
you (because you were so young, probably
still had a curfew that they didn't, and
did not fully understand some of the
pressures they were personally going
through as an older person). And, after
they did inevitably break up with you, you
were crushed and figured out what older
guys most often really want.
I am afraid for you that this 23 year old
is only after sex and that you are going
to get used and that it will crush you if
it happens. You have a large amount of
time to date guys in their 20's, you will
have ample opportunity to do so. Enjoy
being 17.
I will never be as free as I was at 17. I
will never be as young. Enjoy dating
silly boys while you have the chance.
Enjoy relationships that are simple
(because the older you get and when you
start having sex in all of the
relationships that you have, they become
incredibly complicated). You do not need
to date someone who is 23 to proove to the
world that you are somehow an adult, that
you are mature, sophisticated, and
intelligent. In fact, I would think of
you as being all of those things if you
decided not to date this guy. Please
don't set yourself up for heartache and
sadness.
sarah
wrote:
at 24 I would have though you would be a
little more open minded. I was dating a
23 yr old when I was 16 and now we are
married and expecting our first child in
april 2006. I was mature for my age, I
had a tough few years when I was about 13
and I had to grow up fast to cope with
that. My older brothers and I were also
raised on a farm and were very indepentent
from a young age. Guys my own age never
had any appeal for me, they were to
imature and pathetic so I always got along
better with older guys, and I can assure
you not all of them were after sex (sure
some were). Maybe it had something to do
with being raised in a rural situation
where it is mostly a male community, and
having brothers who were alot older than
me, who knows but all the women in my
family are married to older men (7yrs at
least) so my mum was very supportive of me
and helped me to realise that there was
nothing wrong with preferring older guys
(my brothers weren't so supportive
however)
i can assure you though that I am not the
only person who feels this way about older
men so please don't judge everyone on your
own experences. Maybe you weren't ready
for a relationship at 17 and preferred
dating young guys but not everyone is the
same.
i really appreciate u repling both of you
its just jenn after I read ur reply and it
got me thinking alot and asking
questions.....And sarah you are rite I
guess my life does corespond more to you
because he does love me and hopefully
someday we will be as happy as u..
I apprecitae both of them because I got
the ? I needed answered answered and
sarah u got my hopes up and just made my
day thanks everyone
thanks ill keep yall posted
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Sarah1978
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 123 Location: NZ
Posted: 11-28-05 16:20pm
Good luck with every thing and I hope it
all works out for you.
