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People Who Tell You What You Can & Cant Do During Pregna Posted: 11-19-05 17:54pm
Okay as most of you are informed by nurses
its a big no no to drink,as to where drs
will tell you to have a good 1-2 glass of
beer/wine and you will be fine.
Anyways I finally got off bedrest and went
and had a beer and did I ever incredibly
enjoy it, but some meddlesome b#!^&
had my beer removed from the table and
asked me what my reason was for drinking
and smoking during pregnancy.
Thanks god I walked away just about
knocked her silly, she started going on me
being an alcoholic (which im not lol) and
about hubby being asian and she was
sitting right infront of me talking stuff
as if I was deaf.
Anyways this chick lives up the street
from me and im extremely tempted to do
something im going to regret cause I cant
stand people who dont mind their own
incredibly buisness. Its different when
its a friend who is trying to help but I
met this woman once before and I never
judged her, well now I do judge her but
she left a really bad impression.
Anyways looking on some feedback on how to
cool down as I have a really really bad
temper when some one pushes me to my limit
any help will do
jess
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feltchick
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Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 38 Location: idaho
Posted: 11-19-05 18:20pm
Yoga, anger management classes? I see
you are in canada.......In the usa all
medical staff says no freakin' alcohol!!!
Maybe in canada things are different in
that quarter.
This lady that acted on your baby's behalf
was doing the right thing. Have you ever
met any small children with fetal alcohol
syndrome? It's scary how mentally
challenged they are. Think about the
baby, and not your short term self
gratification. This is a time to be
really careful, almost anal about what you
ingest. If you need to relax, try a
massage.
Also, what will you do when your toddler
is screaming at the checkout stand, you
have a headache......And are stressed out?
Getting anger issues under control now
are in your best interest.
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Ryansmommy
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Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Alberta, Canada
Posted: 11-19-05 18:58pm
You drank during pregnancy wow thats
stupid
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-20-05 06:49am
Lets start this off on better terms
now here is my question again how do you
deal with people who dont mind their edit
buisness and if you would have read
properly she was going on about husband
being asian as well.
As for a beer, I was actually prescribed
by my dr and 2 ob-gyn to out and enjoy a
good glass of wine or beer, so really if
im so stupid then what does that make a
medical professional and most of them do
it down here.
3. I have a toddler huny and shes
100%normal/healthy even though I had a
drink here and there with her lol!! On
top of it all me and my 5 sibling have no
issues either and mom did the same with
us. Research is based on people who
drink alot and is biased as they only pick
certain people to do it which doesnt give
the correct answers, research based on
stats is edit up.
So if you dont like what I did shut your
edit mouth and go somewhere else or give
me some support
seems this board has issues with support
where ppl dont help they just sit their
and editat everyone else to make them feel
better which is really sad, pretty funny
how I dont get support about other issues
I posted but you guys jump on this one
lol!!
Feltchick and ryanmommy do some
editresearch and maybe read my post, I
have no time for people who push their
opinions on others, thats not how the
world works and since you guys are so
smart why not tell everyone how you got a
degree above a doctor
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peps
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Dont Agree But She Is Right Posted: 11-20-05 07:18am
I saw this post and had to comment,
although I do not agree with it I will not
judge this person because a dr knows what
they are doing. I'm currently finishing
my medical school but I do have nursing
and the dr I used to work with would
recommend/prescribe a drink or two to
patients who just need a drink he would
say lol!!
I dont drink but I will not stop someone
else from doing it, so in a way diamondsz
you are right that woman shouldnt have
gotten involved by any means. It is your
body, your choice and what right does
anyone have to tell you how to do things I
would be upset as well, now just because
dr said okay doesnt mean you can do it
every weekend either!
Diamondsz just ignore people who cant mind
their own buisness and if someone ever has
a drink removed make them pay for it.
I'm happy you walked away shows a sign of
maturity as to where the other one has
lost it.
A message for you two girls
a doctor attends school for 7-8 years has
one-two years as intern and I do think
they know what they are doing, so before
calling anyone stupid maybe you should
think over what you said.
Tepeppa
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heatherz
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Joined: 20 Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Brisbane
Posted: 11-20-05 08:45am
I'm from australia and our dr's say that
there is no evidence to say how much
alchol is too much. We have a very low
rate of fetal alchol syndrom in australia
but are told that one drink every so often
is not going to adversley affect the baby.
They actually recommend a glass of wine
after a amnio to relax the uterus. I'm
not saying go out and get blotto but the
woman had no right to but in.
I have to say that I am shocked at how
judgemental americans are. Okay maybe she
should refrain from alchol but seriously
people in glass houses should throw
stones. Have you done everything
absolutley perfect during your
pregnancies?
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 11-20-05 09:37am
diamondsz
wrote:
lets start this off on
better terms
now here is my question again how do you
deal with people who dont mind their
f$^&*g buisness and if you would have
read properly she was going on about
husband being asian as well.
As for a beer, I was actually prescribed
by my dr and 2 ob-gyn to out and enjoy a
good glass of wine or beer, so really if
im so stupid then what does that make a
medical professional and most of them do
it down here.
a beer or 2 will not hurt the baby--dont
let them add more fuel to the fire for you
hon. I hate it when pple think they
can tell you what you can or cannot do.
I know exactly how you feel. I would
have had a hard time not really loosin it,
if I were you. The reason a person
dont like that, is it's called domination,
and not even .God dominates us, and it
feels just totally wrong for someone to
treat us this way. We have a free will
and when a human tries to impose their
will on us, it's domination.
That "spirit" has been around since adam
and eve fell. Eve has been trying to
be the 'leader' forever since, cuz adam
did not do his job when the snake tempted
her. That is like the women who tell
their husbands what to do. Adam is
still trying to find his place as the
spiritual leader and eve won't just get
off the throne. Any man or woman who
would try to impose their will on another
is totally wrong, male or female. It is
rebellion in .God's eyes. That is why
it has an effect on us in such a degree.
I dont know if you understand what I am
saying, but im sorry that woman did that
to you--and I agree, she should not have
done it. Remember anyone who tries to
impose their will on you--it is totally
wrong. You can suggest it to them, you
can tell them how you feel, but to
physically remove the beer, or have it
removed--wrong, so wrong. It is our
right to be governed by "our own will"--
not someone elses. That is what we
call "free will"
oohh, and what did your husband being
asian have to do with anything?? What
was she trying to say--or do you even
know?? That it was worse for you to
drink if you had asian husband?? Or was
she just going completely off the wall on
that one?
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Angelfanmom
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Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 121
Posted: 11-20-05 12:15pm
I'm from canada and my dr said no alcohol
at all.
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feltchick
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Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 38 Location: idaho
Posted: 11-20-05 13:43pm
If you don't want to see what others
opinions are, then don't post here.
As for being an outspoken america, we have
a first amendment in our constitution,
it's called "free speech". Get used to
it.......
Btw this bboard is based on opinions.
What's funny is the originator of this
topic has posted many opinions. What's
amazing is you can express your opinion,
and somehow when you disagree with my
position, I can't express mine.
How boring a world it would be if we were
all the same. Brings to mind the city in
the pink floyd movie "the wall". I hear
all the time that people don't like my
art. Big deal, it's not their bag. I
don't hi-jack a plane and crash it into
their house. I've learned over the years
to take a big breath, count to three and
get over it.
People also comment on my many tattoo's
they somehow think when I reach granny
stage i'll be innapropriate. I'll be up
there with the rest of the genx crowd,
tattooed and proud.
Last edited by feltchick on 11-20-05 14:27pm; edited 1 time in total
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jenn_smithson
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Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Posted: 11-20-05 14:14pm
It's no one's business to tell other women
what they should and should not do during
their own pregnancy. The intentions of
the other woman do not matter. What does
matter is that she presumed that she was
more intelligent/capable/educated/etc than
you and proceeded to arrogantly force her
opinions on you.
Yes, alcohol should not be touched.
However, my mother-in-law who is currently
pregnant and *is* an alcoholic has had a
few drinks (though much less than she
would normally) and her pregnancy is
progressing just fine. When she talked
to her doctor, told her of the situation
she was facing with this pregnancy, her
doctor told her that while they strongly
encourage women not to drink at all, in
some cases a drink every once in a while
is not going to immediately cause damage.
As long as the woman scales down quite a
bit from her drinking habits prior to the
pregnancy, the pregnancy should continue
just fine.
Most people don't realize that, usually,
pregnant women have already been drinking
alcohol (some more frequently than others)
before they found out that they were
pregnant. Does this mean that their
pregnancies are going to turn out badly
because they didn't know they were
pregnant? No, it doesn't.
As long as you keep the drinking down as
low as possible, there is no reason why it
should do any harm. Since we do have
some self-righteous, small minded people
in the world, though, you might want to
think about having a beer every once in a
while at home.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-20-05 17:27pm
[quote="feltchick"]
btw this bboard is based on opinions.
What's funny is the originator of this
topic has posted many opinions. What's
amazing is you can express your opinion,
and somehow when you disagree with my
position, I can't express mine.
Really its based on opinions but not once
have I ever told someone to go f^%
themselves like your post reads, not only
were you stating you were higher than me
but "you were pushing your opinion on me"
i give advice but I do not sit here and
tell a teen mom to go get an abortion
cause its better for her this is the type
of stuff your saying and you really do
have issues. Suck you wont drink but
different strokes for different folks what
im saying if you dont like what I did and
have nothing good/supportive about "the
whole issues" then dont say anything at
all.
I am not an alcoholic I have had one drink
this whole pregnancy more than last and
people flip its like omg shes poison man
some ppl have issues>>>prejudice
and racist<<<
fatfamily
this woman rambled about everything and
anything she was going on me about being a
white woman with an asian guy and that is
what really set me off. I'm mixed and
ppl assume to incredibly much this lady
was going on about biracial dating etc and
that is why I wanted to deck her cause my
husband was getting upset.
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hollie686
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Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 195 Location: USA
Posted: 11-21-05 13:37pm
I can't believe what i'm reading. The
first situation - about alcohol during
pregnancy- that is a no no. Everything
that you consume will go to your baby via
the umbilical cord. I can't imagine
someone actually drinking when they know
they are pregnant. That's just wrong in
my opinion. But if people want to be
stupid like that then they should @ least
do it in the privacy of their own home.
About the 2nd situation - I think the
woman may have gotten a bit too involved
in your personal space. Was she drunk? I
don't know why she would comment on your
husband. You marry who you want to. In
today's world it doesn't matter what color
you are or what background you have.
Maybe she was babbling because of your
alcohol incident & was so upset that
she said some things that she didn't mean.
Just let it go. You don't want the baby
feeling the effects of you being stressed
about it. (and you don't want the baby
feeling the effects of your needing to
drink so stay away from the alcohol too.
You should not be getting pregnant if you
can't take it seriously. There are many
couples that want so much to be pregnant
& would never even dream of touching
alcohol - they're skin is probably
crawling after what they've read.
Now don't go & be jumping on my case
- all I did was state my opinion.
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 11-21-05 14:13pm
You don't deserve this baby!!! Drinking
and smoking?? You deserve to have your
child and your unborn child taken away.
Just because one of your children is
normal doesn't mean this one will be. It
is one thing to drink before you find out
you are preg, but are willingly putting
the baby at risk.
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peps
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Joined: 20 Nov 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Ontario
Posted: 11-21-05 14:46pm
acoles70
wrote:
you don't deserve this
baby!!! Drinking and smoking?? You
deserve to have your child and your unborn
child taken away. Just because one of
your children is normal doesn't mean this
one will be. It is one thing to drink
before you find out you are preg, but are
willingly putting the baby at
risk.
diamondsz, I cant believe people are so
ignorant or rude, I as one understand as I
know most drs recommend in cases and some
drs are firm believers against it. I
dont promote drinking because I do not
drink but if someone asked for it I would
recommend it based on the person.
She is not putting her baby at risk there
is no studies to prove anything before you
open your mouth again maybe you should
have the schooling to back it up. I
just joined this board and have seen
nothing but ignorant people, you have no
right to say anything of a kind you arent
pregnant and to be honest woman that are
too incredibly anal editshouldnt be having
kids you are the ones who become mentally
abusive to their children
diamondsz, listen to me as a medical
professional I just recommend that now
that you had your drink quiet down abit
and honestly if any of these woman say
anything just ignore it. The better
person is the one who walks head high,
these woman are not perfect no one is not
even "god' himself, I truly wish you the
best but please head my advice.
Acole, you are one sick lady to tell
someone they should have their kid taken
away, this woman doesnt sound sour to the
likes of you, I dont think you should have
kids as you seem to bitter. I hope that
god will grant you forgiveness for such an
evil thing!
If it was such an evil deed that this
woman had done her kids would have been
removed by now but are you so bright to
see your own inner hatred, I really wish
the world would be rid of people like you.
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kristy22
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Joined: 15 Nov 2005 Posts: 25
You Are Selfish Posted: 11-21-05 14:51pm
I have a question for you....You say it is
ok to drink and smoke during
pregnancy?Your doctor told you that so it
must be ok to shove a beer in the babies
face as soon as it comes to this wonderful
world.The smoking issue...The woman who
claims to be a nurse....Smoking is never
good for a baby and no doctor is going to
disagree no matter where they live.It
increases the risk of sids.It increases
risk of low birth weight. It increases
asthma, hearing problems, and much much
more. Many reasons not to do the things
you do. And I wouldn't let someone who
was pregnant order alcohol from any
restaraunt or bar I owned.Sorry can't
condone it. Otherwise they would think
it is appropriate behavior.
As for the woman making fun of your
relationship. Why worry about what other
people think or say.It's time to grow up
you have a baby on the way. As long as
you know that you love your husband than
that's all that matters...Wouldn't you
say??? Fighting is never the answer and
hello you are pregnant.Your gonna do
something you regret yeah.You could lose
your baby if you get in a fight one wrong
hit and it's gone. Maybe you just needed
to talk but it seems that you need to
think more about your baby and not about
yourself
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hollie686
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 195 Location: USA
Posted: 11-21-05 16:11pm
I agree with kristy22.
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 11-21-05 16:12pm
Actually peps, I am schooled in the area.
I'm a labor and delivery rn. I just
gave my opinion. I see babies born daily
that have severe problems because their
mom drank "occasionally". You are the
one who needs schooled. There are babies
born with fas whose mothers have barely
consumed alcohol, while alcoholic mothers
can sometimes have "normal" babies.
Alcohol is proven not to be good for the
baby in any dose. That is what the
doctors tell our patients. Every women
and every pregnancy is different, but why
would you risk your unborn child for a
beer?
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kristy22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2005 Posts: 25
Posted: 11-21-05 17:04pm
Hmmm.Isn't that pretty much what I just
stated that you just agreed with doc?
Yeah that's what I thought
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Sammy001
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Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 706 Location: ,
I Agree Diamond!! Posted: 11-21-05 17:26pm
diamondsz
wrote:
lets start this off on
better terms
now here is my question again how do you
deal with people who dont mind their
f$^&*g buisness and if you would have
read properly she was going on about
husband being asian as well.
As for a beer, I was actually prescribed
by my dr and 2 ob-gyn to out and enjoy a
good glass of wine or beer, so really if
im so stupid then what does that make a
medical professional and most of them do
it down here.
3. I have a toddler huny and shes
100%normal/healthy even though I had a
drink here and there with her lol!!
On top of it all me and my 5 sibling have
no issues either and mom did the same with
us. Research is based on people who
drink alot and is biased as they only pick
certain people to do it which doesnt give
the correct answers, research based on
stats is f^&#$& up.
So if you dont like what I did shut your
fu^^&$# mouth and go somewhere else or
give me some support
seems this board has issues with support
where ppl dont help they just sit their
and bit#$ at everyone else to make them
feel better which is really sad, pretty
funny how I dont get support about other
issues I posted but you guys jump on this
one lol!!
Feltchick and ryanmommy do some
f%$&& research and maybe read my
post, I have no time for people who push
their opinions on others, thats not how
the world works and since you guys are so
smart why not tell everyone how you got a
degree above a
doctor
hi.. I just wanted to comment. The
dr that delivered my son, was a chief of
staff at the iwk childrens hospital, where
I am from. He is one of the most well
known, well respectful, highly devoted,
and professional people I know.
That hospital is known all over, just as
the toronto for sick kids...
Anyways...He told me from 20 weeks on...A
glass of wine a night or a beer would
actually do me good.
So I would have to agree with you...
If someone is gonna go out, and get edit
faced everynight..Yeah.. I can see that
being a problem, but a glass of beer or
wine, here and there is not going to do
anything. I actually had a glass of
wine, for thanksgiving last year,
christmas, dinner, new years eve, and
valentine's day dinners...
My son was perfect score 10 on the apgar,
weighed almost 10 lbs, and is reached
milestones right on schedule. So it
didn't hurt him one bit.
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kksmith603
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Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 36
Drinking & Pregnancy Posted: 11-21-05 18:12pm
For all of you that think it's okay to
drink while being pregnant; would you give
a newborn baby alcohol in a bottle to
drink? It's the exact same thing!!! When
you drink while being pregnant, the
alcohol passes through the baby's tiny
body as well!!! I actually have a very
young family member who is mentally
retarded, has seizures, can't talk, etc...
Because his mommy decided to drink while
pregnant it kills me to see this. I am a
nurse. I studied these things in school!
I have seen it first hand! So, for all
you pregnant women who think it's okay to
drink, please do more research. I'm sure
that you will all see some things that
will really change your mind!! I wish I
could show you my little nephew!
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