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diamondsz

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People Who Tell You What You Can & Cant Do During Pregna Posted: 11-19-05 17:54pm


Okay as most of you are informed by nurses its a big no no to drink,as to where drs will tell you to have a good 1-2 glass of beer/wine and you will be fine. Anyways I finally got off bedrest and went and had a beer and did I ever incredibly enjoy it, but some meddlesome b#!^& had my beer removed from the table and asked me what my reason was for drinking and smoking during pregnancy. Thanks god I walked away just about knocked her silly, she started going on me being an alcoholic (which im not lol) and about hubby being asian and she was sitting right infront of me talking stuff as if I was deaf. Anyways this chick lives up the street from me and im extremely tempted to do something im going to regret cause I cant stand people who dont mind their own incredibly buisness. Its different when its a friend who is trying to help but I met this woman once before and I never judged her, well now I do judge her but she left a really bad impression. Anyways looking on some feedback on how to cool down as I have a really really bad temper when some one pushes me to my limit any help will do jess

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Posted: 11-19-05 18:20pm


Yoga, anger management classes? I see you are in canada.......In the usa all medical staff says no freakin' alcohol!!! Maybe in canada things are different in that quarter. This lady that acted on your baby's behalf was doing the right thing. Have you ever met any small children with fetal alcohol syndrome? It's scary how mentally challenged they are. Think about the baby, and not your short term self gratification. This is a time to be really careful, almost anal about what you ingest. If you need to relax, try a massage. Also, what will you do when your toddler is screaming at the checkout stand, you have a headache......And are stressed out? Getting anger issues under control now are in your best interest.

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Posted: 11-19-05 18:58pm


You drank during pregnancy wow thats stupid

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Posted: 11-20-05 06:49am


Lets start this off on better terms now here is my question again how do you deal with people who dont mind their edit buisness and if you would have read properly she was going on about husband being asian as well. As for a beer, I was actually prescribed by my dr and 2 ob-gyn to out and enjoy a good glass of wine or beer, so really if im so stupid then what does that make a medical professional and most of them do it down here. 3. I have a toddler huny and shes 100%normal/healthy even though I had a drink here and there with her lol!! On top of it all me and my 5 sibling have no issues either and mom did the same with us. Research is based on people who drink alot and is biased as they only pick certain people to do it which doesnt give the correct answers, research based on stats is edit up. So if you dont like what I did shut your edit mouth and go somewhere else or give me some support seems this board has issues with support where ppl dont help they just sit their and editat everyone else to make them feel better which is really sad, pretty funny how I dont get support about other issues I posted but you guys jump on this one lol!! Feltchick and ryanmommy do some editresearch and maybe read my post, I have no time for people who push their opinions on others, thats not how the world works and since you guys are so smart why not tell everyone how you got a degree above a doctor

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Dont Agree But She Is Right Posted: 11-20-05 07:18am


I saw this post and had to comment, although I do not agree with it I will not judge this person because a dr knows what they are doing. I'm currently finishing my medical school but I do have nursing and the dr I used to work with would recommend/prescribe a drink or two to patients who just need a drink he would say lol!! I dont drink but I will not stop someone else from doing it, so in a way diamondsz you are right that woman shouldnt have gotten involved by any means. It is your body, your choice and what right does anyone have to tell you how to do things I would be upset as well, now just because dr said okay doesnt mean you can do it every weekend either! Diamondsz just ignore people who cant mind their own buisness and if someone ever has a drink removed make them pay for it. I'm happy you walked away shows a sign of maturity as to where the other one has lost it. A message for you two girls a doctor attends school for 7-8 years has one-two years as intern and I do think they know what they are doing, so before calling anyone stupid maybe you should think over what you said. Tepeppa

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Posted: 11-20-05 08:45am


I'm from australia and our dr's say that there is no evidence to say how much alchol is too much. We have a very low rate of fetal alchol syndrom in australia but are told that one drink every so often is not going to adversley affect the baby. They actually recommend a glass of wine after a amnio to relax the uterus. I'm not saying go out and get blotto but the woman had no right to but in. I have to say that I am shocked at how judgemental americans are. Okay maybe she should refrain from alchol but seriously people in glass houses should throw stones. Have you done everything absolutley perfect during your pregnancies?

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Posted: 11-20-05 09:37am

diamondsz wrote:

a beer or 2 will not hurt the baby--dont let them add more fuel to the fire for you hon. I hate it when pple think they can tell you what you can or cannot do. I know exactly how you feel. I would have had a hard time not really loosin it, if I were you. The reason a person dont like that, is it's called domination, and not even .God dominates us, and it feels just totally wrong for someone to treat us this way. We have a free will and when a human tries to impose their will on us, it's domination.

That "spirit" has been around since adam and eve fell. Eve has been trying to be the 'leader' forever since, cuz adam did not do his job when the snake tempted her. That is like the women who tell their husbands what to do. Adam is still trying to find his place as the spiritual leader and eve won't just get off the throne. Any man or woman who would try to impose their will on another is totally wrong, male or female. It is rebellion in .God's eyes. That is why it has an effect on us in such a degree.

I dont know if you understand what I am saying, but im sorry that woman did that to you--and I agree, she should not have done it. Remember anyone who tries to impose their will on you--it is totally wrong. You can suggest it to them, you can tell them how you feel, but to physically remove the beer, or have it removed--wrong, so wrong. It is our right to be governed by "our own will"-- not someone elses. That is what we call "free will"

oohh, and what did your husband being asian have to do with anything?? What was she trying to say--or do you even know?? That it was worse for you to drink if you had asian husband?? Or was she just going completely off the wall on that one?

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Posted: 11-20-05 12:15pm


I'm from canada and my dr said no alcohol at all.

feltchick

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Posted: 11-20-05 13:43pm


If you don't want to see what others opinions are, then don't post here. As for being an outspoken america, we have a first amendment in our constitution, it's called "free speech". Get used to it....... Btw this bboard is based on opinions. What's funny is the originator of this topic has posted many opinions. What's amazing is you can express your opinion, and somehow when you disagree with my position, I can't express mine. How boring a world it would be if we were all the same. Brings to mind the city in the pink floyd movie "the wall". I hear all the time that people don't like my art. Big deal, it's not their bag. I don't hi-jack a plane and crash it into their house. I've learned over the years to take a big breath, count to three and get over it. People also comment on my many tattoo's they somehow think when I reach granny stage i'll be innapropriate. I'll be up there with the rest of the genx crowd, tattooed and proud. Last edited by feltchick on 11-20-05 14:27pm; edited 1 time in total

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Posted: 11-20-05 14:14pm


It's no one's business to tell other women what they should and should not do during their own pregnancy. The intentions of the other woman do not matter. What does matter is that she presumed that she was more intelligent/capable/educated/etc than you and proceeded to arrogantly force her opinions on you. Yes, alcohol should not be touched. However, my mother-in-law who is currently pregnant and is an alcoholic has had a few drinks (though much less than she would normally) and her pregnancy is progressing just fine. When she talked to her doctor, told her of the situation she was facing with this pregnancy, her doctor told her that while they strongly encourage women not to drink at all, in some cases a drink every once in a while is not going to immediately cause damage. As long as the woman scales down quite a bit from her drinking habits prior to the pregnancy, the pregnancy should continue just fine. Most people don't realize that, usually, pregnant women have already been drinking alcohol (some more frequently than others) before they found out that they were pregnant. Does this mean that their pregnancies are going to turn out badly because they didn't know they were pregnant? No, it doesn't. As long as you keep the drinking down as low as possible, there is no reason why it should do any harm. Since we do have some self-righteous, small minded people in the world, though, you might want to think about having a beer every once in a while at home.

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Posted: 11-20-05 17:27pm


[quote="feltchick"] btw this bboard is based on opinions. What's funny is the originator of this topic has posted many opinions. What's amazing is you can express your opinion, and somehow when you disagree with my position, I can't express mine. Really its based on opinions but not once have I ever told someone to go f^% themselves like your post reads, not only were you stating you were higher than me but "you were pushing your opinion on me" i give advice but I do not sit here and tell a teen mom to go get an abortion cause its better for her this is the type of stuff your saying and you really do have issues. Suck you wont drink but different strokes for different folks what im saying if you dont like what I did and have nothing good/supportive about "the whole issues" then dont say anything at all. I am not an alcoholic I have had one drink this whole pregnancy more than last and people flip its like omg shes poison man some ppl have issues>>>prejudice and racist<<< fatfamily this woman rambled about everything and anything she was going on me about being a white woman with an asian guy and that is what really set me off. I'm mixed and ppl assume to incredibly much this lady was going on about biracial dating etc and that is why I wanted to deck her cause my husband was getting upset.

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Posted: 11-21-05 13:37pm


I can't believe what i'm reading. The first situation - about alcohol during pregnancy- that is a no no. Everything that you consume will go to your baby via the umbilical cord. I can't imagine someone actually drinking when they know they are pregnant. That's just wrong in my opinion. But if people want to be stupid like that then they should @ least do it in the privacy of their own home. About the 2nd situation - I think the woman may have gotten a bit too involved in your personal space. Was she drunk? I don't know why she would comment on your husband. You marry who you want to. In today's world it doesn't matter what color you are or what background you have. Maybe she was babbling because of your alcohol incident & was so upset that she said some things that she didn't mean. Just let it go. You don't want the baby feeling the effects of you being stressed about it. (and you don't want the baby feeling the effects of your needing to drink so stay away from the alcohol too. You should not be getting pregnant if you can't take it seriously. There are many couples that want so much to be pregnant & would never even dream of touching alcohol - they're skin is probably crawling after what they've read. Now don't go & be jumping on my case - all I did was state my opinion.

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Posted: 11-21-05 14:13pm


You don't deserve this baby!!! Drinking and smoking?? You deserve to have your child and your unborn child taken away. Just because one of your children is normal doesn't mean this one will be. It is one thing to drink before you find out you are preg, but are willingly putting the baby at risk.

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Posted: 11-21-05 14:46pm

acoles70 wrote:

you don't deserve this baby!!! Drinking and smoking?? You deserve to have your child and your unborn child taken away. Just because one of your children is normal doesn't mean this one will be. It is one thing to drink before you find out you are preg, but are willingly putting the baby at risk.

diamondsz, I cant believe people are so ignorant or rude, I as one understand as I know most drs recommend in cases and some drs are firm believers against it. I dont promote drinking because I do not drink but if someone asked for it I would recommend it based on the person.

She is not putting her baby at risk there is no studies to prove anything before you open your mouth again maybe you should have the schooling to back it up. I just joined this board and have seen nothing but ignorant people, you have no right to say anything of a kind you arent pregnant and to be honest woman that are too incredibly anal editshouldnt be having kids you are the ones who become mentally abusive to their children

diamondsz, listen to me as a medical professional I just recommend that now that you had your drink quiet down abit and honestly if any of these woman say anything just ignore it. The better person is the one who walks head high, these woman are not perfect no one is not even "god' himself, I truly wish you the best but please head my advice.

Acole, you are one sick lady to tell someone they should have their kid taken away, this woman doesnt sound sour to the likes of you, I dont think you should have kids as you seem to bitter. I hope that god will grant you forgiveness for such an evil thing!

If it was such an evil deed that this woman had done her kids would have been removed by now but are you so bright to see your own inner hatred, I really wish the world would be rid of people like you.

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You Are Selfish Posted: 11-21-05 14:51pm


I have a question for you....You say it is ok to drink and smoke during pregnancy?Your doctor told you that so it must be ok to shove a beer in the babies face as soon as it comes to this wonderful world.The smoking issue...The woman who claims to be a nurse....Smoking is never good for a baby and no doctor is going to disagree no matter where they live.It increases the risk of sids.It increases risk of low birth weight. It increases asthma, hearing problems, and much much more. Many reasons not to do the things you do. And I wouldn't let someone who was pregnant order alcohol from any restaraunt or bar I owned.Sorry can't condone it. Otherwise they would think it is appropriate behavior. As for the woman making fun of your relationship. Why worry about what other people think or say.It's time to grow up you have a baby on the way. As long as you know that you love your husband than that's all that matters...Wouldn't you say??? Fighting is never the answer and hello you are pregnant.Your gonna do something you regret yeah.You could lose your baby if you get in a fight one wrong hit and it's gone. Maybe you just needed to talk but it seems that you need to think more about your baby and not about yourself

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Posted: 11-21-05 16:11pm


I agree with kristy22.

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Posted: 11-21-05 16:12pm


Actually peps, I am schooled in the area. I'm a labor and delivery rn. I just gave my opinion. I see babies born daily that have severe problems because their mom drank "occasionally". You are the one who needs schooled. There are babies born with fas whose mothers have barely consumed alcohol, while alcoholic mothers can sometimes have "normal" babies. Alcohol is proven not to be good for the baby in any dose. That is what the doctors tell our patients. Every women and every pregnancy is different, but why would you risk your unborn child for a beer?

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Posted: 11-21-05 17:04pm


Hmmm.Isn't that pretty much what I just stated that you just agreed with doc? Yeah that's what I thought

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Posted: 11-21-05 17:26pm

diamondsz wrote:

lets start this off on better terms

now here is my question again how do you deal with people who dont mind their f$^&*g buisness and if you would have read properly she was going on about husband being asian as well.

As for a beer, I was actually prescribed by my dr and 2 ob-gyn to out and enjoy a good glass of wine or beer, so really if im so stupid then what does that make a medical professional and most of them do it down here.

3. I have a toddler huny and shes 100%normal/healthy even though I had a drink here and there with her lol!! On top of it all me and my 5 sibling have no issues either and mom did the same with us. Research is based on people who drink alot and is biased as they only pick certain people to do it which doesnt give the correct answers, research based on stats is f^&#$& up.

So if you dont like what I did shut your fu^^&$# mouth and go somewhere else or give me some support

seems this board has issues with support where ppl dont help they just sit their and bit#$ at everyone else to make them feel better which is really sad, pretty funny how I dont get support about other issues I posted but you guys jump on this one lol!!

Feltchick and ryanmommy do some f%$&& research and maybe read my post, I have no time for people who push their opinions on others, thats not how the world works and since you guys are so smart why not tell everyone how you got a degree above a doctor

hi.. I just wanted to comment. The dr that delivered my son, was a chief of staff at the iwk childrens hospital, where I am from. He is one of the most well known, well respectful, highly devoted, and professional people I know.

That hospital is known all over, just as the toronto for sick kids...
Anyways...He told me from 20 weeks on...A glass of wine a night or a beer would actually do me good.

So I would have to agree with you...

If someone is gonna go out, and get edit faced everynight..Yeah.. I can see that being a problem, but a glass of beer or wine, here and there is not going to do anything. I actually had a glass of wine, for thanksgiving last year, christmas, dinner, new years eve, and valentine's day dinners...
My son was perfect score 10 on the apgar, weighed almost 10 lbs, and is reached milestones right on schedule. So it didn't hurt him one bit.

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Drinking & Pregnancy Posted: 11-21-05 18:12pm


For all of you that think it's okay to drink while being pregnant; would you give a newborn baby alcohol in a bottle to drink? It's the exact same thing!!! When you drink while being pregnant, the alcohol passes through the baby's tiny body as well!!! I actually have a very young family member who is mentally retarded, has seizures, can't talk, etc... Because his mommy decided to drink while pregnant it kills me to see this. I am a nurse. I studied these things in school! I have seen it first hand! So, for all you pregnant women who think it's okay to drink, please do more research. I'm sure that you will all see some things that will really change your mind!! I wish I could show you my little nephew!