Just wanted to say my boyfriend is asian
too, lol.
People will always pass judgment upon you,
no matter what and depending on how you
look at somone elses opinion depends on if
you think they're pushing it upon you.
When you posted this, you really should
have thought about the fact that not
everyone is going to respond positively.
Everyone has different perspectives. For
instance, some only chose to look at the
fact that you drank alchohol, not the fact
that it was only a small glass and that
you dont do it often. Not many looked at
the fact that this lady was judging you
when she didnt even know you, I think that
was the initial point that you were trying
to get acrost. To that I say, people will
always be ignorant and judjmental. Im
black, so im stereotyped all the time.
Personality wise, im the whitest girl
youve ever met, but people judge me
because of my color, so they dont get to
see the real me because they are blinded
by what they want to belive, or what
society has implanted in their heads about
black people.
I do agree with some of the posts though.
You posted for a reply and you choose to
accept or reject other peoples comments.
The topic caught my eye because people
will always have their opinions and when
you reject them then they get all hostile
and say "well I know im right your wrong
*throws object*"
nothing is right or wrong its just
different, people have a hard time
accepting different. Sure, little suzie
down the road may have fetal alchohol
syndrome because her mom drank a couple of
beers during pregnancy, but little billy
grew up just fine and his mom drank up
until labor. Not everybody is the same.
My friend sarah's cousin has 4 kids and
she smoked weed with every single one of
them, and theyre not retarted, dont have
adhd, theyre perfect little kids her
oldest kid is acutually in ap/ib
classes.
Some people take risks, others dont, but
just because you dont take the risk doesnt
mean that the next person who did is going
to hell or is a horrible person. I dont
smoke or drink because I honestly dont
want to risk it, but im not downing
diamondz because she does. Shes not
puting her child at that much of a risk
with one glass. I can see if she was
downing 24packs everyday, but shes not.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 11-27-05 04:34am
Hi diamonds...
Some of the people on here probably mean
well but their method of communication
comes across way too strong. If you
drink a glass a beer and have a smoke one
night, who cares? If you drank
everynight and smoked a pack a day id say
that you werent trying very hard to take
care of yourself and your baby...
Myself, I smoke and drink sometimes on the
weekends...When I was pregnant I quit
smoking, but it didnt happen overnight, it
took me a couple of weeks to taper off.
Some people dont understand how addictive
nicotine can be! For those who do not
smoke- imagine someone telling you not to
eat anymore!!! Yes you could do it for a
little bit, but you would get very hungry
and you would want some food! For me
that is how smoking feels...I know it is
bad for me and its a love and hate
relationship but it is soo hard!
I remember when I got my first positive
pregnancy test. My husband tried to take
my cigs immediatly and throw them away!
We got in a big argument over this....I
did quit but I needed a minute to let the
news sink in, ya know?? I quit but it
was really difficulot because my husband
continued to smoke! We lost the baby,
but we are ttc again and he promises to
quit with me when we get pregnqnt
again....
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annarella
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Posts: 117 Location: italy
Posted: 11-27-05 05:41am
I agree with the last 2 replies, but I
would like to say that from what I
understand from diamondz post, is that she
wasn't even asking for peoples opinions
about whether it is ok or not to drink or
smoke while pregnant, but simply how she
should handle people and situations like
that stupid piece of @@@@ excuse for a
women (and in that catagory i'd like to
put that person who said her baby should
be taken away from her!!!).
Personally I think diamondz, I think u
should be proud of the way u managed to
keep calm, and not react to her!. I know
most people wouldn't have been able to
just get up and walk away, (me included,
especially with these pregnancy hormones
raging :lol: ).
As for the alcohol discussion, its all
relative!, theres no right and wrong,
unless u go over the top with the drink
etc, in which case its incredibly
irresponsible. But a drink here or there
does not do damage, but its hard saying
that too, because a glass of beer is a
whole world away from 1 glass of vodka for
example!. The 4-5% of alcohol in beer or
wine is nothing compared to 70-80% proof
liquers or even 40%!!, don't forget that
the rest of the beer is mostly made up of
95% water!, added to all the water, tea,
juice etc etc u drink in one day, plus the
filtration process done by the body etc,
means that a very minimal % of alcohol
reaches the baby!.
Saying that i've no doubt that babies are
born with alcohol/smoke related problems
etc etc, but compared to the number of
babies born with no problems at all, its
an incredibly small %.
Don't forget its only recently that theres
alcohol awareness etc, think how many
generations have been born without the
knowledge that alcohol, cigarettes, blue
cheese, some fish, caffiene etc etc etc
can be harmful in pregnancy!, these days
it seems u can't do or eat anything for
fear of harming your baby, when in the end
the risk is so minimal, and often a case
of just 'bad luck' (so to say, meaning
that sometimes these things just happen).
I love drinking, and I must say I do miss
being able to sit outside have a drink or
2, but I do have half a glass of red wine
after dinner nearly every night, but thats
it. Also my doc told me that glass of
good red wine is good for me and baby, as
it enhances the production of red bloods
cells, and theres a natural enzyme (or
something) that has actually been
officially documented and proved that it
helps fight against heart disease and
various other cancers!, there has been
various programs on tv over here (italy)
talking about this, and basically the
verdict over here is that everything is
good in moderation!.
I stopped smoking as soon as I found out I
was pregnant, but I had been waiting for a
good excuse to quit for a while, and it
was easy enough for me because i'd only
been smoking (max 10 a day) for about 2
years max, I can imagine how hard it is
too stop after many years of smoking!,
good on anyone who is trying or how
managed to beat the habit!!.
