I am now 22 weeks pregnant. I have felt
the baby move, I do know the sex and I
believe I even have the name picked.
Everyone tells me how they felt when they
were pregnant, and although I know
everyone is different, I do not share such
an elated emotion.
The movement isn't a flutter, it is
nausiating, it literally makes me feel
sick. I told someone that and they just
looked at me like I had a horn growing out
of my head. Someone told me that perhaps
my instinct will never kick in. He said,
"it never kicked in for my mother" well
his mother put him up for adoption at the
age of 5.
I am getting scared that motherhood may
not be my thing. Although I will never
abandon my child (that comment quite
offended me) what if this isn't the
happiest thing to ever happen to me. He
will be my life & ultimate priority,
but will he be my happiness? I guess
time will tell.
Has anyone's maternal instinct took a bit
of time to kick in? If so please share.
Let me know I am not alone.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 11-21-05 20:39pm
Well, in my opinion just because the
movement makes you feel sick doesn't mean
you won't have motherly instinct. I've
felt very little pleasure during my
pregnancy. I've been so sick and in pain.
It's not that i'm not excited, but my
mind is pre-occupied more about the pain
in my leg that is constantly there and
won't go away. When I got my ultrasound
I thought for sure i'd cry of joy to see
my baby, but I didn't. Although when I
went with my sister in law, and I saw her
ultrasound (this was a year and a half
ago, before I was preg.) I cried. I don't
understand that, but hormones react
differently with different people.
I hear people tell me all the time they
loved being pregnant. I do not feel that
way at all. I can't wait until my baby is
born. Maybe i'll like being pregnant the
second time around, I guess everytime can
be different too.
But hang in there i'm sure once you see
the bundle of joy your feelings will
change. Cuz right now, to me it doesn't
really feel real that there is a baby in
there....It will come to "life" I think
once you see your baby. Good luck.
-hopefulmjz
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solbaby
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Pittsburgh
Posted: 11-29-05 10:56am
I feel the same way as both of you. I
wouldn't worry about your motherly
instincts. Being pregnant is not easy
and sometimes its not all pretty and
glowing. I'm happy to be pregnant - it
is what I have wanted - but the discomfort
and limitations are frustrating. I can't
wait till the baby is born.
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buttercup_501
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2005 Posts: 63 Location: Oregon
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Posted: 12-01-05 16:03pm
Maternal instinct? I hate pregnacy!! I
am excited about the baby but cant wait
for it all to be over. For the first 6
weeks I throw up 24/7. I am an emotial
rec. The smallest things will make me cry
and I am not an emotional person.
Everyone is different and just because
your pregnancy is not like everyone elses
does not mean anything.
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Rasberry Ripple
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 175 Location: uk
Posted: 12-02-05 10:10am
I think with some pregnancies you kind of
distance yourself from what is going on.
The last appointment I had with my midwife
I said (when she was about to try and find
the heartbeat) I am prepared if you don't
find one and everything has gone
wrong.....Now however, if I have problems,
I know I will fall apart. My baby is
kicking too and I am starting to feel that
this pregnancy isn't in my
imagination...It's really happening.
I know what you mean about feeling icky or
sick when the baby kicks. I have had
those feelings. I have also had slight
panics about the fact that they are going
to get stronger and I don't want to have
to share my body.
I now believe that I have to take each new
step as it comes and when I start to feel
a bit icky or panicy about the latest
change to my body....I need to take a deep
breath and tell myself it isn't forever
and it's normal.
I don't listen to other peoples comments.
I know I can only do my best...And that
is all I need to do!
