Why Do Men Cheat?

There is a simple answer to all this. Why *most* men and women cheat. They are superficial jerks. They don't go out with people because they love them. They just want to have sex to fill their own desires. That's all there is to it. They know what it will do but they don’t care. They are just that self involved. If they could sacrifice their life to save the world i’m betting they wouldn’t.

I don’t think you should be saying all men are pigs. How would you feel if I said all women are stupid or if I said all women are s***s? That is a dangerous stupid way of thinking and you shouldn’t buy into it. I had a friend who was a really stand up guy. He went out with this girl because he really thought she was someone cool. This was his first girlfriend and she already had another boyfriend way before she was even going out with him. He had already had sex with her for the first time and by the time he found out and it totally screwed him up. It's been years and I know he is still screwed up.

Sorry about your friend.I never cheated on any of my x's but I know how it feels to be screwed over.I don't think all guys are jerks but there are a lot who are,same as women.

I lost faith in girls honestly. Everywhere I look everyone is cheating on everyone. Be it lack of something in their relationships or just sex, it's horrible.

I'm alone now and I just can't understand women too. Being good, sincere and caring is not good enough, you need to have mystery and that slight bad boy thing in order to keep the interest going.

I think the better question to this whole topic would be, why do people cheat and still stay with their partners and not be honest and break it off. Why is that. Same goes for both women and men.


If you are not satisfied and you want to cheat then have enough "balls" to break it off and then go cheat/sleep/do whatever with someone else. It would be much more fair to the other person. Even if it happend by "accident" if something like that can happen, you realize that there's no reason to be with your partner anymore. It's common respect. It's gonna hurt that person, but at least you will be honest.


Again, I lost all faith in girls, even the last girl that I was with from several years ago, I do believe that she sleeps with other guys even though she tells me that she's not. And we were in long-distance relationship. She broke it off.

All I want from a girl is respect and honesty. That's it. And I just can't get that. I think this goes vice versa too.

A lot of it is ego, just like women. They think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
Good luck! Not every cheats!

Stealing and cheating are a lot a like....Why do we steal? Well we steal for the thrill of not being caught even if it's something we dont even like or need. We do it over and over again because once you get away with it, you thinks it's okay to do it again.......Wrong because sooner or later you will be caught. People cheat because they know if they can get away with it then they can do it again. A lot of people believe also that since there girl or guy keeps taking them back after they have cheated on them that they will do it over and over thinking we will take them back in some cases yes we do, but only to a certain extent. This wont last forever. Most the people who cheat just do it because its out there to there advantage even if they dont even like who there cheating with. It's only for the thrill and it's stupid. It's only giving you a bad reputation just like stealing would. You can never go back to that store again well think this way you can never go back to that town again. Once your known as a cheater it spread like butter and soon you will be left with nothing.

So you guys are saying that men cheet because they have no control over their sex drive???I dissagree because if that was the case that would be the reason that women cheet!!! I think that men cheet because they have nothing better to do then make the people they love hurt the most!!!And as this may or may not be men have all the control over their sex lives as us women so there is no excuess

I have never cheated on a girl, they've seemed to all cheat on me, I dated older girls cause I thougth they were more mature about a relationship, guess I was wrong, not to say most men don't cheat, but I find lots of girls also cheat

The reason they prob seem to cheat is maybe because you are to nice of a guy
you say that the older ones are more mature that is not true because if it was you would not have been cheated on
i have never cheated on a guy, but I would not want them to do that to me that is why I have never cheated on a guy

The only advise that I can offer for men cheating is that it's genetic. Just ask an evolutionary psychologist.

The same reason girls do it

The fact of the matter is that both sexes cheat -- not just men. I've had exes cheat on me, and my fiance has had exes cheat on him.

In my experience, the men cheat just because they want more notches in their bedpost along with bragging rights. I've even had one ex bold enough to flaunt this "affair" in my face and then blame the entire situation on me, even though I -was not- to blame.

The same goes for my fiance -- his last ex cheated on him with several males and was bold enough to flaunt it. She had an e-mail account on his server and frequently sent dirty e-mails to these males fully detailing when and where they would meet and what they would do together.

However... People can cheat for any reason, whether it's because they "can't control themselves" (which I happen to think is a load of bull,) or they think that they can do it because their lover will just take them back, or perhaps they have some emotional issue with their partner.

Either way it's wrong and hurtful ... There's a saying that goes 'we hurt the ones we love.' however, there's also a saying that goes, 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you.' so, do people really have an excuse to cheat? No. There is no excuse for cheating, no matter the reason.

If the relationship is so bad, then get out of it. If you "can't" control yourself, then get mental help. Cheating on someone isn't worth it at all -- sure, your lover could take you back, but then you have a breach between you and your significant other. If you've cheated on them, how can you expect them to trust you at all?

Staying faithful to someone who cheats on you isn't exactly worth it either. Sure, you may have put years and years into this particular relationship, but if they cheat on you, how do you know they won't do it again? You don't, because that takes trust -- the trust that they just smashed into a million itty bitty pieces and then threw in your face. They can promise all they want to that they won't do it again -- and they may not. There are some guys (and girls) out there that are actually decent enough to see how much it hurts and then never do it again. But something like that is rare.