Are Men Without Circumsized Penises Happy With It? Posted: 11-22-05 17:05pm
My husband and I just found out we were
having a boy which brings up the issue of
circumcision. My huband and I are both
leaning towards not having it done, but I
would like to hear from some uncircumsized
men to make sure that sexually, everything
is o.K. Meaning girls dont mind it etc.
Also, were there any merciless teasing
sessions in locker rooms growing up? How
difficult is it to clean before the
foreskin retracts. Also I am nervous
about the condition where the foreskin
doesn't retract and you end up with a
circumcision anyways. Sorry for the
stupid questions but I do not personally
know of any adult males that are
uncircumsized that I can ask. Thanks
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
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Posted: 11-22-05 17:47pm
Hey! Why are you leaning toward not
getting him cirumsized? I mean what are
the reasons? There are alot of positives
and negatives to the surgery. My husband
and I looked at all of them. In the end
we decided to go with the surgery, for
religious reasons. The bible says that
little boys should be circumsized so that
is what we did. At the end of the day
though, it is all up to you and your
husband. I would think that since your
hubby is circumsized, that you would also
want your son to be. You will read lots
of books on how bad the surgery is and
books on how good it is.. Which makes it
hard to decide. I'm sure that you will do
what you think is best for your son. I
wish you the best!!!
God bless and good luck,
teresa
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kt4est123
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Posted: 11-22-05 18:31pm
Hey, thanks for replying. We also looked
into the religious aspect of it, but the
new testament says that circumcision is of
the heart now, not physically as it was
before jesus died. I can give you the
full text if you are interested. -well it
was a concern that with my husband being
circumsized that his son may feel
"different" but, then I think that we
could just explain why he is different.
Also, sons can look completely different
from their fathers in other ways and be ok
with it. We were mainly considering it
because the aap says that there are no
health benefits to having it done so we
said to ourselves "why have it done?" and
I found all sorts of websites of clinics
that do adult circumcisions so I figured
that if he absolutely hated it, that he
could have it done later in life. Plus
like america is the only country that
still does it so mainstream so that makes
me ask myself why you know? Thank you
very much for not being mean about your
disagreement w/ me. So far we have only
talked about w/ 2 people we know and they
have both had like violent negative
reactions to it. Needless to say we
aren't telling any other family members.
I say let them find out if they change his
diapers!
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allenn812
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Posted: 11-22-05 21:01pm
I would say get it done. This is comming
from a 15 year old. In group convos
were weve talked about circumcision, most
of us were circumcised. And everyone
laughed at the person that wasent. And he
said he wish he was after words. So yea,
but its all up to you.
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cd998776
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Posted: 11-22-05 23:20pm
Posities:
-cleaner
-studies show that circumcized men are
relatively less likely to contract std's
including hiv; this might just be
coincidental though.
Negatives:
-some suggest that some sensation is lost,
but this has never been proven.
500th post!
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redzonebikes
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Get It Done For His Wellbeing Posted: 11-24-05 16:59pm
Hey, I saw your question and I strongly
recommend getting the circumsion done.
Take it from me, your son will definitely
get teased and feel embarassed if he is
not circumsized. Reasons are that almost
all kids in america have had it done, and
when he hits that age where all boys
start talking about sex and their penises,
you son will feel left out and guilty and
all guys talk about this and asks all of
their buddys if they are circumsized.
This boy talk happens around 12 yrs of
age. I know personally growing up, all my
friends but one was not circumsized and he
was teazed and cried about it. Not only
that, but uncircumsized penises look odd
and different if you dont know that they
are not circumsized, and your son will
figure that out the first day in the boys
locker room, and that will by a day he'll
never forget. Also, why not get it done?
It helps keep things clean and free of
bacteria and believe me when after a guy
works out all day at the gym or in sports,
things done there can get sweaty, nasty,
and jock itch-or crotch rot happens
easily, and I dont think your son wants
that on his penis. The foreskin makes
for prime breeding grounds for bacteria.
Talk to your husband about jock itch, it
is a red rash that peels skin away, itches
like crazy and takes weeks to get rid of.
Also, I know this is going far down the
line and may offend you, but when your son
hits sexual maturity and begins sexual
intercourse with women, like oral sex,
girls are going to be confused and
possibly disguisted as to how to perform
when the forehead is covered with skin.
Most uncircumsized men have to pull back
the skin during sex to get any sensation,
and during oral sex, the girl is going to
have to pull back the skin to give oral
sex.- by the way iam circumsized and
definitely happy that my parents made the
decision. The option is completely up to
you, but I hope you think about your sons
benefit before making up your mind
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cd998776
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Re: Get It Done For His Wellbeing Posted: 11-24-05 17:36pm
redzonebikes
wrote:
hey, I saw your question and
I strongly recommend getting the
circumsion done.
i'm with ya' on that one!
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guyphx
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Posted: 11-24-05 22:36pm
I'm very dissapointed that some people are
saying to get circumsized just because he
will be made fun of. Seriously your task
as a parent is to explain that it is not
an abnormal thing and that there's a lot
of other people that are not circumsized.
Personally i'm not circumsized and I am
glad that my parents made that decision
simply because it's healthier. You lose
some immunity with circumsion.
I'm no expert, but if a woman finds a
penis disgusting if it's not circumsized
needs to reevaluate themselves. There's
nothing ugly, it's a perception that porno
movies and media creates. I wouldn't
want to be with a woman that would find my
penis abnormal because it has some extra
skin.
Ridiculous! My vote is for leave him
uncircumsized.
Last edited by guyphx on 11-25-05 01:42am; edited 1 time in total
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cd998776
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Posted: 11-24-05 23:47pm
In the end, either way, this is truly a
personal decision based on what you and
your husband and you think is best.
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kt4est123
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Posted: 11-30-05 14:10pm
I certainly appreciate all the comments.
You pro circs should go to a website
called nocirc.Com also check out a website
called doctorsopposingcircumcision.Org.
I love my husbands penis, he is
circumcised but I dont find the natural
male genitalia unappealing. And if you
research it, supposedly, uncirc males have
better sex, (the foreskin has been
compared to the clit in some things I
read). It is a soceity issue. In america
most boys are circumcised but I think that
90% of males worldwide are not. It was
introduced in america as a cure for
masturbation. You guys should watch the
videotape of a newborn being circumcised.
And for what? There is nothing wrong with
the male genitalia and any female who
thinks there is, has issues.
I think that we will probably not do
itand when our son is 12, if he wants it
done we will talk to him and do it. As
far as locker rooms go I am 22 and so
obviouly graduated hs within the past 5
yrs. Anyways, when I went to hs there
were no naked people in the locker rooms-
boys or girls- maybe it is different in
other parts of the country.
I really do appreciate the comments and
despite my obviously biased post we are
still thinking about it. I just feel that
to do that to a child,for no real valid
reason is pointless.
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m3rcuryd3ath
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Posted: 11-30-05 20:15pm
Im a 17yr old male who is uncircumcised
and ive never had a problem at all with
it. I think my parents made the decision
because my dad grew up in europe, didnt
get circumcised and wanted me to be the
same, so when I was younger I wasnt
confused or something...
Anyways, ive never been teased...Ive
played plenty of sports where we showered
together...Never ever a problem. No girl
I have ever been with ever had a problem
with it..And as far as pornos go...Plenty
of porn stars arent circumcised...
Id say do whatever you want, but dont get
this stupid biased steriptype that hell be
made fun of, or its gross or
soemthing...
It does however make sense that he should
be what his dad is...
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kt4est123
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Posted: 12-01-05 17:45pm
m3rcuryd3ath
wrote:
im a 17yr old male who is
uncircumcised and ive never had a problem
at all with it.
thanks that puts my mind at ease. As far
as being like his dad, you are right it
would seem that he should be like his dad
but it also seems like an easy enough
difference to explain. Then again, I
don't have a penis maybe it will warp him
to have one different from his father's.
Any opinions on that?
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allenn812
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Posted: 12-03-05 03:00am
I doubt it will, he will probly just ask
him why. Then it will be over, nothing
thats gunna warp em.
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RMO1975
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Posted: 12-08-05 04:34am
Just wanted to share with you, I am 30yo
uncircumcised male. My wife wouldn't
have it any other way. We are also
having a son, and not having him
circucmised. In the 30 years, I have
been on swimteams, in the showers at
school.....And never been made fun of, and
that should be the last of your worries!!
And it baffels me about some people not
educated enough on the subject to answer
so poorly. My wife and I are in the
medical field, and it has been shown, and
proven by the ama, and the pediatric
assoc. That circumcision isn't
necessary, and it can cause problems later
on. In fact some insurances don't cover
it, its considered a "cosmetic" surgery.
It is mutilation, if we were supposed to
be circumcised then why wern't we born
like that??? Answer that! Born that
way, its not broke, leave it alone. You
can find many websites about the dangers
of circumcision, and I have seen them
first hand, skin bridges, scare tissue,
the glans penis being cut, many issues.
I agree it is all a personal, parents
choice. Just educate yourself and then
go from there. Thank you for allowing
me to share my opinions!
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roflzor6666
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Posted: 12-08-05 11:14am
Do not get it done maybe when he is older
it can be his choice.
I'm 15/uncut wouldn't have it any other
way.
Re religion: stop dancing around the 800
pound gorilla and grow up.
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one_two
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Posted: 12-09-05 17:58pm
A agree with the previous poster. My
parents decided against it and i'm very
glad that they did. I've only been with
two women but neither have complained.
From what i've read, when you take away
the forskin the head becomes somewhat
desensitized, and this makes sense when
you think about it. As for teasing, well,
you could worry about that (it never
happened to me) or you could worry about
performing an unnecessary procedure which
your son may wish you had not done later
on. When he's old enough he can choose to
get circumcised if he likes.
Cleanliness is a red herring. You just
pull back the forskin and wash with soup
and warm water. You also have to pull it
back a little so that the urethra is
exposed before you urinate (when urinating
standing up). That's really it.
Religion. Nothing wrong with it, but this
is the twenty-first century and you
shoudn't be taking medical advice from the
bible any more than you should sacrifice
your son to appease god. And I can't
imagine that it would warp him to have a
different penis than his father. You
could make that case for chest hair,
height, penis size, whatever. Everybody's
different; children are more than capable
of handling this concept.
I hope that helps. Good luck and
congratulations.
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gbusc
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Posted: 12-09-05 22:49pm
Growing up in the religious south, I was
circumcised. Now that i'm grown up, I
partly with the decision would of been
left up to me. I have a smaller penis
than most (6 when erect) and I feel the
extra foreskin would of added a slight
thickness that would make my sexual
confidence higher.
When I have a child, I will leave the
decision up to them when they are old
enough to worry about it.
By the way, I honestly don't believe
religion should have anything to do with
the physical alteration of your child.
That is your decision based on what you
think - not what the ancients thought.
Hope your child grow up healthy and
strong!
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kt4est123
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Posted: 12-09-05 23:51pm
We are probably not getting done.
Actually we are not getting it done. The
questions that I posted in my first post
were not necessarily my personal concerns.
They were just general questions that I
often hear metioned when circ is brought
up.
As far as the religious aspect goes, I am
pentecostal and no christians are required
to get it done. That is biblical. I
never had a question about that. I was
simply answering the lady who said the
bible said boys had to be circumcised.
The new testament says you don't.
Therefore if you believe in the new
testament (ie not jewish) then your son
does not have to be circ. I really
appreciate all the posts from uncirc men
it helped to put my mind at ease. As a
mother, even though I feel like it is the
right decision, I also tend to second
guess myself.
My husband and I are very into doing
things naturally as far as labor and
delivey goes so it didn't seem right to
deny myself pain meds for the benefits to
the baby and then hack off a part of his
penis.You know
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gbusc
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Posted: 12-10-05 00:09am
Glad you've come to a decision. Best of
luck with the birth!
we are probably not getting
done. Actually we are not getting it
done. The questions that I posted in my
first post were not necessarily my
personal concerns. They were just
general questions that I often hear
metioned when circ is brought up.
As far as the religious aspect goes, I am
pentecostal and no christians are required
to get it done. That is biblical. I
never had a question about that. I was
simply answering the lady who said the
bible said boys had to be circumcised.
The new testament says you don't.
Therefore if you believe in the new
testament (ie not jewish) then your son
does not have to be circ. I really
appreciate all the posts from uncirc men
it helped to put my mind at ease. As a
mother, even though I feel like it is the
right decision, I also tend to second
guess myself.
My husband and I are very into doing
things naturally as far as labor and
delivey goes so it didn't seem right to
deny myself pain meds for the benefits to
the baby and then hack off a part of his
penis.You know
he doesnt even remember it for 1.
And for 2, it helps his health in the long
run. I know a lot of guys who are really
embaressed with their uncircumsized
penis's, I even know a couple who hated it
so bad, that they went & got the
procedure done, which is a thousands times
worse.
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