I am trying to get preg, but my bf doesn't
think we should yet. He's going away for
3 months as of january. I am trying to
get preg without him knowing. I have
stopped my b/c and we never use a condom,
but he always cums on my tummy. Is it
possible for my to put this cum in me with
my finger or w/e...What about precum?
Nice answers only please, I don't need
people telling me i'm stupid and selfish
and w/e
~faithanne
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Ryansmommy
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Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Alberta, Canada
Posted: 11-24-05 15:44pm
Before I awnser your question how old are
you?
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askara
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Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 229 Location: South East England
Posted: 11-24-05 18:37pm
Not a mean answer.. But..
What happens when you get pregnant and the
realist of your boyfriend not wanting kids
yet is there? The dilisuion that he will
just accept it and be a lovng happy family
is not real.
I he says he isnt ready chances re he
means it and by secretly getting pregnant
you are jepodizing your relationship and
facing the potential of raising a kid by
your self.
Think about it kiddo.
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Surrender
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Joined: 24 Nov 2005 Posts: 128 Location: canada
Reply Posted: 11-24-05 18:45pm
I'm 19, 20 in a month, and my bf is
26..Well, he's actually my fiance. And
its not that he doesn't want kids, he just
wants to wait a while for really stupid
reasons (in my mind). He told me if I was
preg he'd be happy but hed rather wait.
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-24-05 18:48pm
Then maybe u should think about what he
wants and wait. I was like u before
wanting a baby when my bf says he wants to
wait a little. And I was smart. We are
waited.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-24-05 18:59pm
Here the same post as in the other one you
did
depending on your age here an answer
im 21 and married but being in a long
relationship is very similar the rule to
common law/marriage is everything is in
the open, no lies and you have someone to
support you. I kept asking hubby for kids
his words were is it happens it happens, I
have a 15 mths old girl and im 30 weeks
prego but hubby was aware of everything
that went on.
A marriage/relationship is based on trust,
friendship and sex I think without any of
these a relationship would fall apart!!
I would honestly tell bf that you stopped
taking the pill and you want to get prego
and see what he says, yeah he may be abit
angry but you kind of betrayed his trust
but it might also open his eyes and he
decide to want kids. The choice is yours
but honestly he may leave if your not
honest with him or he may feel different
emotions every man is different, if your
man was cheating on you wouldnt you be
upset??? Place yourself in his shoes
before making a decsion im not giving you
hell I just want you to know that this has
a double outcome good or bad.
If you got pregnant he would probaly
support you but how do you think he will
react once he realizes you didnt take your
pill???
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Cambion
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Posted: 11-24-05 20:51pm
You must ask yourself what you love more -
the thought of getting pregnant and having
a baby, or your fiance. He may say he
would be happy if you did conceive, but
how do you think he would feel if you were
to tell him that you purposely stopped
taking birth control in order to get
pregnant when he had specifically told you
he wanted to wait before having children?
It's one thing to discuss such a matter
openly with him, but to deceive him into
thinking you are faithfully taking birth
control to keep you from conceiving when
it wouldn't be the best time is kind of
low, even if you are engaged.
You guys are both still quite young, so
why rush having children? It's not as if
it's going to be paradise to raise a
screaming, colicky infant. Are you guys
financially stable enough to support a
baby? Could you give it everything it
needs to be happy and healthy? Having a
baby cannot be done on impulse - they are
a big responsibility and need constant
care and attention. You must really
consider these things before saying you
want to conceive, especially when you know
your fiance doesn't want to have children
right now.
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not perfect
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Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Illinois
Posted: 11-26-05 01:31am
I don't want to sound mean, but i'm just
stating reality.
If he says you both aren't ready to have a
child, don't try. What you are doing
right now with not taking your birth
control is betraying his trust. Sure he
says he would be fine if you were to get
pregnant out of the blue.. But he knows
there is a very slim chance to get
pregnant while on the pill, so if it were
to happen, it was meant to be. How do you
think he'll react when you'd tell him you
stopped taking your bc just so you could
get pregnant? If you're lucky, he'd stay
with you. In all reality, he would see
you betrayed his trust and hurt him, and
would be hurting your child because of
being sneaky.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3
years now and there's nothing more I would
love but to have a baby with him. We plan
on getting married soon (most likely next
year), and decided to wait until we are
both married or at least financially
stable so the child wouldn't suffer. I
will be 21, he will be 24, and he has a
son who will be 4 from a previous
relationship. She did the same thing to
him as you are doing to your
boyfriend/fiance. But she pulled this
stunt a couple months of dating.
She was on the depo shot, told him she
went to get her shot, then a little over a
month later "oops, i'm pregnant". He
tried staying with her for the babies
sake, but their relationship was beyond
repairable and went their seperate ways.
She is still mad at him to this day
because he wouldn't marry her because of
their son. Dispite their problems, he is
a great father to their son and pays his
child support on time every month.
Ask yourself this.. Why all of a sudden
do you want to get pregnant? Is it
because he's going to be gone for 3
months? Are you insecure? I'm not saying
you are, but there are far too many women
out there trying to get pregnant just so
they can keep a boyfriend. It's just
wrong.
Getting pregnant on purpose, when the man
already says he's not ready will just
bring in disaster. It takes 2 people to
make a relationship work and all is based
on honesty and trust. You are not giving
him what he needs to make the relationship
work.
I'd get back on the pill asap and tell
your boyfriend the truth of what you've
been doing. Hopefully he will forgive
you. Good luck.
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slygirrl
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Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 11-26-05 01:53am
I kinda think you're wrong for that.
You're trying to have a baby based on
deception and that's not cool. What would
he say if you were to get pregnant and
then he found out you've been lying to him
this whole time? Would he stay for the
baby's sake? He might but the reality is
is that he wouldn't. I don't know you or
him but generally speaking people don't
stay with people who lie and deceive them.
Think long and hard about what's
important to you. You could very well
ruin what could be a lifelong realtionship
by lying.
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oh_mommy
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Re: Reply Posted: 11-26-05 03:03am
surrender
wrote:
i'm 19, 20 in a month, and
my bf is 26..Well, he's actually my
fiance. And its not that he doesn't want
kids, he just wants to wait a while for
really stupid reasons (in my mind). He
told me if I was preg he'd be happy but
hed rather
wait.
my bf said he wants to wait for awhile
too so I know what that feels like. But
still be faithful, think about it for
awhile, think about the pros and cons and
dont try to look more on the pros then
anything. I did this and I realised he
was right, and we should wait. So now we
are waiting untill summer
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Lilypad
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 11-26-05 08:24am
Getting pregnant should be consentual.
Please dont manipulate this guy. It is
so unfair.
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Tamadrummer
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Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 11-26-05 09:59am
To answer your original question. No it
is not likly that you will be able to get
the ejaculate from your belly to your
vagina and then have it move from the
outside of your vagina all the way to the
cervix and then on up from there without
most if not all dying.
What he is depositing when you are having
sex before the main release is more than
enough to get you pregnant. You are just
wasting your time trying to put it back in
you. He is wasting his time pulling out.
It wont help protect you.
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Lilypad
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 11-27-05 05:14am
Normal couples ttc only have 25%-30%
chance ea month of conceiving...Your
chance is probably much smaller with the
route you have chosen to take..
Which is terrible by the way!!!!
So so wrong...
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dlisiouss
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jul 2004 Posts: 107 Location: PA
Posted: 11-28-05 16:18pm
My bf didn't want a baby either... I got
pregnant, 3 1/2 months into the pregnancy
we got into a very bad fight... I hit
him, he hit me back and it was bye, bye
baby! I was hospitalized for a week and
the baby really did bad on our
relationship. Some things are worth
waiting for... Trust me!
