I am a twenty-year-old female college
student and I have been with my boyfriend
(age 24) for almost two years in february.
I just recently came back from out of
town for thanksgiving and since I came
back my boyfriend has been acting funny.
This is nothing new to me because there
have been times throughout our
relationship that he will act weird. He
will go some days without calling me or I
will try to call him and he wont return my
call until a few days later. This will
last about a week. When he is not acting
funny everything is fine. He will call
me just about everyday and we will spend a
lot time together. This will last quite
a while. So now he is starting back up
with not calling me. I have not heard
from him in four days. That day that I
had talked to him I had told him that I
got my results from my doctor from an exam
they gave me. I told him that I will
have to get surgery and it was very
serious. He seemed very concerned and
worried. He told me that he was going to
come and see me the next day. When we
got off the phone we said I love you and
everything. I haven't heard from him
since. I tried to call him since then
and his parents will answer the phone and
say he is not there. I am so confused
and he confuses me. Like I said this is
not the first time he has acted like this
but I would think that he wouldn't act
like this at a time like this. Usually
if I were to tell him something about me
that’s serious he would come and see me
and make sure I am okay. It has been a
very long time since he has done this to
me. I told him before that if he acts
like this then I am through with him. He
promised me he wouldn't and he has kept
that promise for a long time until now.
I cry at night and pray to god to get me
through this. I am sort of close to his
parents and they are very nice people. I
am not ready to end this relationship
because we both have been through a lot
with each other. I feel like if we end
this then it will be two years wasted. My
question is if I should stop calling him
or should I talk to his parents about the
situation?
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HealthInsuranceguy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Dec 2003 Posts: 2 Location: Riverside, CA
Broken Hearted... Posted: 12-15-03 16:20pm
I know plenty of guys like this one your
seeing. I'm 20 years old also and I can
relate. 2 years wasted is much better
than 10...20..50! He might not be "the
one", but confront him. Ask him "what's
going on?" and just see what he says.
Don't let him play the game...Keeping you
guessing and running around with your
heart. Just be strong and go with it.
You might be close with his family, but
don't let that keep you from being happy
with someone else. I know you guys have
had a history with one another, but your
20! Go have some fun!
Maybe it's time to keep it casual and take
some time apart. If you is "fooling
around" than you better get going! If he
isn't, give him a chance to realize what
he is loosing, but diffenently try and get
some space between yourselves.
I hope this helps!
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expectingjoshua
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 30 Location: Canada
Posted: 12-15-03 16:47pm
I would have to agree with the last posted
reply...2 years is better than 20 or more!
The longer you wait, the harder it will
be...And I speak from personal experience,
although i'm sure you've been feeling the
difficulty increasing already. I am sorry
to hear that he is acting this way, as no
one deserves to be put on the back burner
like that, especially not during a time
such as this! Please remember that he can
only cause you this pain as long as you
allow him to. It may hurt significantly
to let him go, but that pain will subside.
Try not to look at it as two years wasted,
but as a lesson lived and learned.
Best of luck....
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honeycoco
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2003 Posts: 376 Location: georgia
Posted: 01-02-04 10:51am
I agree with both the people that posted
before me. I have just been in the same
situation you are in. I was pregnant by
the guy and miscarried and had to have a
d&c and he didnt even call to see how
I was doing, but he sweared he cared but I
couldnt keep dealing with it so I ended it
today. It was very hard for me to do but
it was the best thing for myself.
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Munoz1226
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 131 Location: Tucson
Posted: 01-08-04 23:16pm
Ntasha-
i agree as well with the previous posts.
I am in a similar situation. I have been
with my guy for 6 years and we have a 3
year old daughter. He can go days without
calling me too. It's just my daughter and
I living together and he lives with his
mother and sister. I get so confused and
if I ever say anything he gets annoyed
with me and says things like "gosh! I
can't just stay at home and chill without
you bugging me about not calling you every
second?!" it is so dumb! I feel like I am
ready to end this now, but then I start
remembering how in love we were not so
long ago. I replay all these memories in
my head and get sad and hope things will
change. My friends and his sister are
always telling me to leave him alone and
he will come around, but I feel like I am
24 and he is 25, why should I have to play
those stupid games? Any advice is greatly
appreciated!
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weemishka
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Apr 2004 Posts: 16 Location: belleville, Ont
Posted: 04-23-04 05:39am
Why do these guys still live at home???
24, 25?? You girls deserve better.
Especially if you have a baby daughter!
You don't need to babys to look after. I
may be a little insensitive, my ex is
turning 27, he doesn't live at home.. But
I supported us.. Not exclusively, but I
put forth much more effort and didn't quit
jobs when we were poor just because I
didn't like them.
If you have asked yourself why these guys
live at home, listen to your instincts and
let them go so they can finish growing up.
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hotasfrick
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-23-04 10:33am
I totally agree with the above post. If
they are already in there twenties and
cannot support themselves, what makes you
think that they ever will be able to?
And they obviously have not will power or
motivation and who wants to be with
someone like that? Not me, that is for
sure. Been there, done that and will
never do it again!
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