Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 3 Location: bishop auckland
Can U Give Me Some Advice Posted: 11-26-05 10:48am
Im in halfs with meself. My bf is 19 but
has told me he dont want our baby and
would like me to get an aboshion I dont
want but love him loads what am I to do we
have tryed talkin about it he said he will
resent the child if I keep it help please
Ask yourself a question... If you abort
your baby because he will resent it, will
you resent yourself for making your
decision based on his feelings and not
what you truly wanted?!?!?!?!
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 11-27-05 03:15am
Dont kill your baby for anyone. Do not
let another man make your decisions for
you, you will regret it terribly. In
fact, anytime we let another make our
decisions for us, we regret it terribly.
We are not being true to ourselves.
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oh_mommy
Supporter
Joined: 04 Sep 2005 Posts: 3727 Location: vancouver island, bc canada
Thanks: 5
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Posted: 11-27-05 03:21am
I agree with the others, choose for
yourself, and if you split up because u
chose to keep the baby then he still has
responsibiltys for it, also chances are if
u keep it and he dosnt leave u and once
the baby is born he will fall in love with
it
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not perfect
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Illinois
Posted: 11-27-05 04:17am
I agree with what everyone else has said.
You make the decision. It is your body
and women go through a lot of problems
when they have abortions. I've even heard
of them making you sterile if anything
goes wrong. Not sure if that's true or
not though.
Whatever you do choose to do, make sure it
is your decision. Because if you choose
to abort the baby because your bf wants
you to.. That thought is in your head for
the rest of your life of what you baby
would've looked like.. What their
personality would've been.. What
achievements they would've made.. And who
knows how long he would've been around.
Boys come and go, but your children are
always there for you. You love him a lot
you say.. Imagine how much you would love
your baby and your baby love you. Words
can't describe that feeling. I personally
could never do that because I think too
much as it is and would hate myself
forever. Lol
any man with a heart would not resent
their child after the first sight of their
baby. Especially after he holds it. Or
even being there for the ultrasound, a
bond will start to grow between them.
Do what is best for you, leave him out of
the picture when deciding. If you decide
to keep the child and he is not happy
about it.. Screw him! Lol he has to be
there anyway when it comes to child
support. Even if he doesn't come around
to see the child, he still has to pay by
law.
Good luck, and remember this is
your decision. You always have
support here on this forum through out
your pregnancy!
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 11-27-05 04:38am
You said that you dont want to have an
abortion... So dont. If he truley loves
you as much as you love him, he will stand
by you and probably love your baby too
once he gets used to the idea..
If he doesnt support you, or if he resents
the baby then you just learned what kind
of man he really is and you are better off
without him!!
Good luck to you sweetie, I know this has
got to be sooo hard for you. I hope that
you have other support people in your life
to help you thru this...If not let us be
here for you...
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lil_blaze2004
Supporter
Joined: 29 Oct 2004 Posts: 6492 Location: ,
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Posted: 11-27-05 09:13am
Don't ever abort for someone else, you
will regret it and him for the rest of
your life. If you want to abort for you
it's diff.
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mtb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 3 Location: bishop auckland
Thanks Posted: 11-27-05 09:39am
Thank you 2 you all it is great advice he
has seen the scan and he still hasnt
changed his mind im torn because I do love
him but I know what is right he aint goin
to change his mind all im gettin is
pressure
