Joined: 28 Nov 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Connecticut
Daughter Problems Help Posted: 11-28-05 18:52pm
Hi I am a single mom of four girls clare
who just turned sixteen been my oldest.
She weights over 200 lbs because of a
metabolic problem and also has health
issues making surgey a problem. She has
size 40dd breasts, is incontinent and her
posture is really poor. The clothes she
wants to wear tight tops straight skirts
jeans etc really look bad on her. I make
her wear longline support bras and support
panty girdles made into diaper pants with
a vinal rubber lineing, I have tried pads
and she is to big for them in her waist
and hips. I also insist she wear only
frilly dresses and skirts to cover up the
bulges and make it easier for myself or
her fourteen year sister to change her.
When she tried to change herself she did
not do it properly and ended up with
diaper rash on her bum so I now insist she
be changed by her sister or myself. She
attends an all girls school which I teach
at and wears a jumper which I had to have
specially made. At the moment she hates
me and I am at my wits end any suggestions
would be welcomed
lisa
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solar001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 82 Location: Weston, FL
Posted: 11-29-05 12:42pm
I'm confused. Why is she in diapers?
As someone who was sixteen not long ago, I
understand that it's hard when you want
one thing and your mother wants the other.
The fact that she "hates" you does not
surprise me. I'm not saying that you're
doing anything wrong, not at all. You're
right in wanting to keep her from looking
ridiculous. I would reccomend telling her
in a nice and delicate manner. Try
something like "it's not very flattering"
or "something else might look better." I
feel that it's important to be honest.
She needs to understand why she shouldn't
wear the tight shirts and the
straight-line skirts. Make her understand
that she doesn't have to look like a
super-model, but other clothing may look
better on her. I'm not sure what you mean
by frilly dresses, but I understand why
she wouldn't like it.
You say she has a metabolic problem. How
is her diet? Feel free to go into
details, because you've just sparked my
interest. Send me a pm if you'd like.
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babymomma
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 28
Posted: 11-29-05 19:17pm
I understand why she may not fancy you her
mother at the moment, most teenager girls
find it hard to take the suggestions of
their mother because she may feel like you
dont really care you are just trying to
keep her from doing what she really wants
to do. As for the tight tops and
straight line skirts, I think that you
should approach it by just taking her to
different stores. I was over 200 lbs and
a friend of mine took me to old navy.
They sell fashionable clothes. Tell her
to jump on that because they are nice and
afforable for you.
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cobrakid
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 29
Posted: 01-30-06 20:38pm
Coming from a 15 year old male, being a
teenager is no breeze. I think the worst
thing to do is force her to wear the
clothes you want her to. I'm no
lightweight, but I wear what looks good to
me, what more matters? And sometimes you
have to stick your hand in the fire to
figure things out. Good luck
