I found out a few days I was pregnant I
thought I had my period coming... It felt
just like period-cramps. My first test
when I took was negative and I had to wait
few more weeks, here I am... 5 postive
tests. It is kind of hard to believe I am
pregnant, doesn't feel like it because of
those period cramps. Good luck....
Next week, I had to make an appt for an
abortion (which I really wish I don't have
to)- but I have to... Because of that I
am in college and I want to give my child
the best place I could give... I am kind
of dissponited I will never give my first
unborn baby life where she/he can grow up.
Unplanned pregnancy is never what I
wanted but it just happened.. My
boyfriend and I gave it a name.... I know
it sounds kind of strange. I truly feel
guilty. I have been crying lot lately
about it and I am kind of senstive about
it too. My boyfriend keeps telling me
that our baby is going to be in the best
place, a better place. Not where a place
we barley can afford the baby, no toys or
so many other reasons. I dont know how
many girls here has went through their
loss of abortion because they just have
to. I have watched many of movies of
young girls who has experiences of those,
I thought myself they shouldnt gotten
themselves in the first place. I hated
what they have done, but look at me.... I
hate myself. I know I have been so
negative about myself. I feel lost and
confused, just really sad but I know this
would be the best right now. I would like
to set up a small coverastion with other
girls who has this experiences.
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Guest
Guest
Re:abortion Posted: 12-02-05 22:57pm
I'm a college sophomore and think I might
be pregnant, too. I don't blame you...
If my tests come out positive i'd
definitely do the same thing... Horiible
as it sounds...
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Guest
Posted: 12-09-05 10:55am
:cry:
yeah, diffcult decsion. Somehow, you
would be making the best decsion of all.
In a way, it is if you are in a sitituion
where you can't afford having a baby right
now.
Well, I just had an abortion yesterday and
they had a diffcult time because of my
celix was too tight. I was really
uncomforable, and it just happened right
there. I know I would never want this to
happen again.. I had it once and I am not
going to have another regret like this
again.
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 12-09-05 12:10pm
Well, if you feel so sad guilty and
disappointed---why are you going to do
it.?? Kill your own baby???
It makes no sense to me ever. If .God
had not intended for you to have a baby
.He would not have allowed you to be come
pregnant.
There is never a reason to kill a
baby---ever. And you really might want
to take this somwhere else--there are
women been on here trying to conceive for
months, years to no avail. Then you come
on talking about getting rid of yours.
It might just strike a sour note.
I miscarried 6 children when I was
"college age" and I had more pain and
sorrow from that, than anyone deserves.
I am now living a promise my .God gave me
for all my loss. I am 44 --just turned,
and I am pregnant with twins--and I have
no uterus. So I know that all baby's are
a blessing from .God. And if your
seeking peace of mind by trying and
talking about this--you will never find
it. For .God is the one who gives you
the baby's and .He does not agree with
abortion. .He is also the one who gives
peace.
I am truly sorry you feel there is no
other way--but there is, think about it!!!
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nanar1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2005 Posts: 48
Abortion Posted: 12-10-05 08:15am
Hi there..Im sure your are scared and
nervous,i kinda understand what your
talking about..I had 2 misscar myself in
the last year ..Me and my husband were
devastated..We have a beautiful 21 month
old and she is handful..Maybe u can think
this over with your boyfriend and see
somehow you can work it out(i know its
gonna be tough to keep the baby but once
they r in ur arms you melt!)maybe again u
can stay home while he finishes school
then u can finish your part..There are
ways u can work it out & yes its going
to be tough but see what u can do.. :d
good luck to you if you need to talk to u
can post it and i'll answer you..
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Guest
Guest
Abortion Posted: 12-19-05 08:39am
Before anyone considers having an abortion
please visit "abortiontv.Com" to get the
absolute truth about what you are doing.
I wish I wouldve seen this site years ago
before I had one. Thanks
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Angel_Who_Crys
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 181 Location: In The Darkness
Posted: 12-19-05 13:13pm
I never even made it out of high school
before I got pregnant...I didnt have the
heart to abort it... I don't really like
when people abort there babys but I
believe if its the best thing to do its
the best thing.
I just never had the guts to do it,
besides it eas my fault I wasnt bing
carful lots of unprotected sex. Im still
with my bf tho.
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Guest
Re: Abortion Posted: 12-20-05 01:28am
i can relate
wrote:
before anyone considers
having an abortion please visit
"abortiontv.Com" to get the absolute truth
about what you are doing. I wish I
wouldve seen this site years ago before I
had one.
Thanks
i just went on the web site that is so sad
and really tore my heart strings think
about it I have come to my desion what I
am doing as my partner isnt keen on
another baby but I am def now if that
whats happen to u I am going to have this
baby :)
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luvnlifewday
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Northern California
Re: Abortion... Posted: 01-03-06 13:12pm
Could you just possibly have the baby...
And really truly give it the best place
you can? A place alive? With an adoptive
family? Lots of people want to adopt. I
have a really hard time getting pregnant
and like the option of being able to adopt
in order to have a child. I know its
hard when in college... But its only 9
months... And you can still study... And
give the baby life....You can even have an
open adoption....And see how your baby
grows up.
Good luck.
my baby
wrote:
i found out a few days I was
pregnant I thought I had my period
coming... It felt just like
period-cramps. My first test when I took
was negative and I had to wait few more
weeks, here I am... 5 postive tests.
It is kind of hard to believe I am
pregnant, doesn't feel like it because of
those period cramps. Good luck....
Next week, I had to make an appt for an
abortion (which I really wish I don't have
to)- but I have to... Because of that I
am in college and I want to give my child
the best place I could give... I am kind
of dissponited I will never give my first
unborn baby life where she/he can grow up.
Unplanned pregnancy is never what I
wanted but it just happened.. My
boyfriend and I gave it a name.... I
know it sounds kind of strange. I truly
feel guilty. I have been crying lot
lately about it and I am kind of senstive
about it too. My boyfriend keeps telling
me that our baby is going to be in the
best place, a better place. Not where a
place we barley can afford the baby, no
toys or so many other reasons. I dont
know how many girls here has went through
their loss of abortion because they just
have to. I have watched many of movies
of young girls who has experiences of
those, I thought myself they shouldnt
gotten themselves in the first place. I
hated what they have done, but look at
me.... I hate myself. I know I have
been so negative about myself. I feel
lost and confused, just really sad but I
know this would be the best right now. I
would like to set up a small coverastion
with other girls who has this
experiences.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-12-06 03:11am
I agree with fatfamily this is not the
best place for this subject. I lost my
baby at five months of pregnancy and it
was the worst thing I have ever
experienced. Now that I am trying to get
pregnant again and its taking awhile I
really have no sympathy for you choosing
to kill your baby because it is
inconvenient for you. Do you know how
many infertile couples out there who would
of been overjoyed to adopt your unwanted
baby? And give him/her a wonderful home?
I just dont understand it.
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kb77
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 100
Think About It! Posted: 01-12-06 03:35am
I had an abortion while I was in
highschool, and I regret it everyday. I
wish I would have been strong, and went
against my family, but I wasn't. All the
talk about not having money, and the "best
place for the baby" was going on too. I
now realize I was the mother, and the best
place for my baby was to be with me, not
dead. It makes no sense. I am now trying
to conceive, and sadly have had no luck.
I would be the proud mother of a beautiful
(almost three year old) baby if I would
have thought this out, and made my own
decision. All I say is think long and
hard about it. To me it was the worst
mistake ever. :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-12-06 03:42am
I just checke dout that abortiontv.Com
site and the act of abortion is so cruel.
I think anyone consodering having an
abortion should be required to watch it.
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kb77
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 100
Posted: 01-12-06 03:54am
I looked too - it makes me feel even
worse, but you know what? It's exactly
what people need to see so they don't make
the same mistake I did!
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-12-06 04:26am
I know its terrible.
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Cambion
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Nov 2005 Posts: 747
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 01-12-06 04:52am
All I can advise is to do what feels right
to you. But please look at your situation
- you are in college and establishing your
future. Would you really want to quit
school to care for a child you may not
even truly want?
If there is any uncertainty at all about
whether or not you want to keep the child,
there's a good chance you will regret
giving birth within the first year of the
child's life. Too many girls and women
keep children they aren't sure they really
wanted and the sprogs end up being
neglected or abused.
I know this is a hard time for you and
your boyfriend, but you are truly making
the right decision. If you know you would
not be able to provide for the child, it
is best to not bring it into the world and
into a life where it couldn't have
everything it needs.
Adoption wouldn't be a much better choice
than giving birth - think about it. There
are so many foster homes chock full of
unwanted kids, and a lot never even find
homes. Would you rather subject a kid to
a childhood without a real family and
without real love, or end its life when
it's partially developed and can't feel
pain in a procedure that lasts less than a
half an hour?
Remember, a fetus is not a "human" - it's
a potential human. Abortion is not the
equivalent of stabbing or shooting
someone, so please don't let people
guilt-trip you into thinking you're
murdering a child.
..People may tell you about how the fetus
will feel pain during the abortion to
change your mind (including doctors), but
from what I have learned, a fetus cannot
register pain in its brain until the third
trimester. Its brain is not developed
enough yet from birth up to about 5 months
to recognize pain. I'm not making this up
- this was in a news article from last
month.
Anytime you need to vent about things, you
can always come here - everyone's here to
listen and to help. If you follow through
with your decision, I wish you luck and I
hope it won't be too difficult for you
afterwards. It's a hard thing to decide,
but you are making the right decision for
yourself and for the child.
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 01-12-06 05:11am
Quote:
remember, a fetus
is not a "human" - it's a potential human.
Abortion is not the equivalent of
stabbing or shooting someone, so please
don't let people guilt-trip you into
thinking you're not a mur/dering a child.
so.....When does it
become a human? When is it a baby?
When does the soul enter it? .Dr's just
use this kind of explaination to make it
easier on their own conscience---im sure
.God would have a bit to say on that
one..."they are not human yet" it is not
homicide---okay you keep telling yourself
that!!!!
Quote:
..People may tell
you about how the fetus will feel pain
during the abortion to change your mind
(including doctors), but from what I have
learned, a fetus cannot register pain in
its brain until the third
trimester.
they are not human, and
feel no pain, well.... Why do they pull
away from the suction tube. Trying to
live, trying to survive???
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Cambion
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Joined: 08 Nov 2005 Posts: 747
Thanks: 3
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Posted: 01-12-06 11:46am
Quote:
they are not
human, and feel no pain, well.... Why do
they pull away from the suction tube.
Trying to live, trying to
survive???
also from the same article...The fetus
pulling away from the suction during an
abortion is an involuntary response. If
you were to open the mother's womb and
gently poke the child with your finger, it
would move around. That's an involuntary
action as well. I'm not saying a fetus
is totally brain-dead, because the brain
is what develops first. I'm saying that
a fetus doesn't feel pain until around the
time of the third trimester.
Quote:
so.....When does
it become a human? When is it a baby?
When does the soul enter it? .Dr's just
use this kind of explaination to make it
easier on their own conscience---im sure
.God would have a bit to say on that
one..."they are not human yet" it is not
homicide---okay you keep telling yourself
that!!!!
a fetus becomes a human when everything is
developed enough that it can survive
outside the mother's body. Until then,
it's merely a blob of cells and genes.
If you cut a fetus out of the womb at
three months, it can't be cared for
outside the body because it's not
developed enough yet. Maybe it can be
incubated by machines, but it can't be
taken care of the "normal" way.
As far as the almighty lord...Well, I may
not be a bible thumper, but I know of a
couple of instances in the bible where god
pretty much condones abortion as well as
infanticide. I won't go into it any
further because I don't want to start a
debate of religion.
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sorry for going off on a tangent, my baby.
I'm not telling you abortion is the
undisputed best and only way to handle
your situation. I'm just trying to tell
you it's not evil, deviant, stupid, etc.
To want to abort. I think most of the
people on these boards are pro-life, and I
think you need some input from those who
are pro-choice as well.
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erogers33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 141 Location: Littleton, CO
Posted: 01-12-06 12:26pm
I think adoption is a wonderful option
that people tend to forget about.
However, it's not up to us whether this
girl gets an abortion or not. It's her
choice, and i'm not going to judge her one
way or another. Personally, I would never
ever get an abortion.
As for saying the fetus "is not human" and
"doesn't feel pain".... I think that's a
load of crap. Who's to say a fetus cannot
feel pain? Have these doctors been in
that situation before? The doctors like
us to believe they don't feel pain for our
own peace of mind. In my opinion, every
living, thriving creature can feel pain,
including an unborn baby (yes, a human).
The only difinitive answer would come from
these aborted babies, but unfortunately we
don't have that option.
Girl, do whatever you think is right. But
think about it for a long time before you
decide to get an abortion. Once it's
done, there's no changing it. You and
your boyfriend are responsible for the
life growing inside your body; do you
think it's fair to abort your baby when
he/she had nothing to do with it?
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luvnlifewday
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Northern California
Lets Talk Life Please Posted: 01-12-06 12:46pm
I'm sorry but this really is not the place
to discuss this. Having a baby is so hard
for us and we've been trying and paying
the Dr. Etc. For months... I cannot
handle listening to people say its okay to
burn your unborn child to death in the
womb or tear it limb from limb. Look at
abortiontv.Com its the truth, it is cruel,
evil, deviant, etc.... It is. Go
someplace else if you want to talk about
death. I want to only think about and
believe in life. And to have a baby.
Each one is a miracle and a gift. To say
otherwise is undeserving of that gift and
the child doesn't deserve to be discarded
in that manner. It is a child. Not a
"non human" its human. Don't kid
yourself! It feels pain early on...
Don't kid yourself! I did a lot of
research in college on this topic and that
is just the simple truth. But we can tell
ourselves and the young women of society
whatever we need to to make it "ok" to
make it acceptable. It isn't ok, it is
killing a human life. End of story. Take
the discussion on death elsewhere
please.
---------------------------
sorry for going off on a tangent, my baby.
I'm not telling you abortion is the
undisputed best and only way to handle
your situation. I'm just trying to tell
you it's not evil, deviant, stupid, etc.
To want to abort. I think most of the
people on these boards are pro-life, and I
think you need some input from those who
are pro-choice as well.[/quote]
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 01-12-06 13:51pm
I realize this was started on 12-2-05 and
I am sure by now she or they have made up
their mind one way or the other. I am
pro-choice and that is what I believe in,
to continue on with the pregnancy, adopt,
or abort. I believe a lot of what
cambion says is correct.
The best of luck to whatever you decide!
No one here is here to judge you!
However their is a abortion forum here
that is supposed to be for support.
I do believe that it is your choice and
yours alone as we are not walking in your
shoes!
