Okay im 19 (20 in april) and I also wanted a child at 17 but i'm not trying to preach at all, take your time! I got married at 18 b/c I wanted a family and I ended up marring the wrong guy. Luckly I didnt get pregnant. I meet my new husband some time back and made sure I was postiive that this was the man I wanted to start a family with. It didnt seem to take any time at all to get pregnant with him. But realisticly look at everything before you jump into something like do you have a high school education? Do you want to go to college? What kind of job skills do you have that you can do to support you, a husband, and a child. A child is such a huge responsiablity expecially at 17. I mean I was on active duty in the army which is a good steady pay check, health insurance for me and any dependents, but mentally ( even though I could go to war) I wasn't ready for a child. And I know that now days mothers and fathers dont always stay together but wouldnt you wanna be positive that hopefully either by being together or not the father would be in your childs life? Some random fresh relationship doesnt always bring that sercuity. Im not judging you in any way becuase for all I know you can be a very very smart, mature, working woman at 17. But for advice sake, take a step back and make sure that atleast 5 out of your 6 ducks are in a row

It is one thing for it to just happen by accident but for you to purposly get pregnant is another thing. Plus if you still haven't found the right guy why would you want a guy that you are not in love with to father your child and how are you going to be so sure he is going to stay around. Watch out some sicko may tell you all the things you want to hear just to get in your pants. I don't know about you but I have watched maury before and there were teens on there that wanted a baby and sleep with tons of guys to acceive it. And .God only knows what kind of stds they have picked up. And then once you are pregnant he is history. I dunno with me I have wanted to be a mommy since I was like 11 but I wasn't that serious about it so I played with my dolls like they were real. I got pregnant at 15 but I had been with the guy since I was 10 so it was not an issue how he felt about being a daddy. I married him and 7 months later gave birth to my son. Also being a mother means a lot you have to care for a whole other human being. It is rough and tough at times I have an 8 month old and I feel like pulling my hair out sometimes. Plus after you have a baby it is all about them you have to put yourself second and believe me it may not seem like a big deal now but once you are going through it, it gets overwelming sometimes. Here is a little bit of hypercritical advice... Stay in school, graduate ,fall in love, get married, then have a baby. Think about the baby and what you will be able to offer it now.

I am going to start college for 2 reasons:

1- to get my mrs degree...

And

2- to study law.


And honey, dont jump into family life just yet.. Theres a whole lot of living to be done first.. I became a mommy at 21, and I know I was too young.. And I dont get child support, and his dads not involved.. My kid has issues that I just cannot fix with a kiss..

I am glad youre looking for a husband.. But find out about your own loves in life first, hun.. And you'll need money, too. Babies dont come cheap. Always have a backup plan.. Please consider yourself a part of that plan.

Go to school, join some clubs, get involved with your community, and have fun.. You'll find mr right when you least expect it, darlin.