Should I Kick My Hubby Out!!!!???? Posted: 12-03-05 17:23pm
Ok this is how it is my name is tawana i'm
7wks pregnant and at high risk for a
miscarriage.My hubby keeps wanting to
fight and yell,and it's really putting
alot of stress on me.My chest and my back
started hurting really bad,it's like he
wants to make me cry or maybe he does want
this baby.I'm scared because I want my
baby.We have a 22mth old son together who
loves his daddy.But I think i'm falling
out of love with him and starting not to
like him.I don't know if I want him in my
life.I know you say it's going to be hard
to raise 2 kids.But should I go through
this abuse and continue to cry and be
stressed.I'm 22yrs old and his 28yrs old I
met him when I was 16 and we've been
together ever since.But now he thinks he
can say and do all of this hurtful things
and I won't walk out.He thinks he is king
dinga ling.And he thinks i'm whipped or
something i'm not,i'm justing useto
him.But now my baby is at risk
because.Before I even had children we
would fight and yell and menstration would
not be here yet and I would bleed during
our fight and i'm scared if we keep
fighting and stuff I might start bleeding
from all the stress plz if anyone could
give me some advice I would love to hear
it right now.Thxs chanee
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Jennie25
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Ontario
Posted: 12-03-05 17:54pm
I don't really know what to tell you
except you should let him know how you
feel. All this stress can't be good for
the baby...And that should be your main
concern..
Good luck with everything, sugar
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chanee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 124 Location: detroit
Posted: 12-03-05 18:06pm
Thxs alot he's in here trying to make up
but I don't know if that's going to work
so easy for i'm hurt and sad and stressed
my stomach is hurting i'm smoking more
cigarettes and I think my baby might die
i'm scared but thxs for ur kinds words
good luck and god bless u
chanee
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 12-03-05 19:00pm
If you have a safe place you can go to,
you need to go. Leave your husband at
home and under no conditions, tell him
where you are going.
When you feel like you have recovered and
things are ok, call him from either a cell
phone or a pay phone that is in a neutral
place so he cannot find you and try to
hurt you.
You really need to get to a stress free or
at least a lower stress place so that you
can totally quit smoking. Right now you
need to be concerned with your health
first and foremost and a very close second
is the baby's health.
Your husband needs to be aware that his
actions can lead him to a very long stay
in the gray-bar motel, if something
happens to either you or the baby or both
and the fellas in the gray-bar don't like
men that hurt women and children.
Good luck,
-brian
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dlisiouss
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jul 2004 Posts: 107 Location: PA
Posted: 12-03-05 23:34pm
I understand i'm the same way. You need
to escape the stress! Its very important
for u and your baby! And u will be very
happy if u carry ur child full term! It
will be well worth it. Throwing him out
might be stress in itself! Good luck!!!
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chanee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 124 Location: detroit
Thxs All Posted: 12-03-05 23:44pm
Thank you all for all the advice and i'm
taking it he doesn't uderstand he said he
was just mad from a fight yesterday.But
still I almost went to the er I thought I
was having a miscarriage all the pain I
felt was crazy but my mom clamed me down
and I feel ok now and I told him we need
to have a long talk if we are going to be
together if not i'm out and I will survive
and take care of my children at 22yrsold
on my one without the help of a man..Ha ha
how hard could it be ,right .Buts thxs all
and god bless u
chanee
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Chancee Posted: 12-04-05 00:21am
Please do not ever put up with a man's
abuse, pregnant or not and when you are
pregnant your hormones are raging. Kids
are smarter then what you think, they can
tell when mommy and daddy aren't getting
along, it has a big effect on them and
sometimes it can stay with them as they
get older and blame themselves and it
causes a lot of problems for them, I
cannot tellyou to leave him but I hope you
can have a sit down civil conversation and
decide what is best for you and your kids
because now adays there is a lot of places
for you and the kids to go and sometimes
you just need a little breather.
Good luck on whatever you decide to do!
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chanee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 124 Location: detroit
Posted: 12-04-05 00:22am
Thxs u I will
god bless you
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
I Didnt Even See This--i Am Sorry Sweetie Posted: 12-07-05 14:39pm
Hang in there sweetie. It will all be
okay. Your baby will be okay--but stress
does make the body more painful--even when
nothing is wrong. Know what I mean.
Try not to take his stuff too hard. I
know that is easier to say than do. Ask
.God to give you "peace of mind"--ask .Him
not to allow you to be affected by his
actions, like most times, for this is a
delicate time for you.
2 timothy 1:7
wrote:
"for god hath not given us
the spirit of fear; but of power, and of
love, and of a sound mind.'
god bless you--i know .God has and will
bless your whole life.
Luv ya
joanna
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perfectdiamond19
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Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Re: Should I Kick My Hubby Out!!!!???? Posted: 12-07-05 14:54pm
Well you can ask for advice but chances
are you will not listin. You already know
what is the best thing to do, however you
said yourself you are use to him and have
been with him for a while. Instead of
doing what is best for you and your
children, you ask for guidence, when you
in your heart know what you should do. If
you were going to do it you would not be
asking ou would already be gone. I am not
trying ot be mean, but I see this all to
often, you know that you are too good for
him, but you dont have what it takes to
walk away. You feel like you need him, if
not for you for the children. If my
husband ever hurt my or my child ( and he
is hurting your cildren by what he is
doing to you) I would leave him so fast he
would not know what hit him. But my
husband loves and respects me, we may
argue but he would never upset me while I
am pregnant with his child. Just think
you lil boy sees him doing this stuff and
he will grow up and be the same way to the
woman he is with, dont you want to teach
him better than that? I know when my son
gets here, I never want him to hurt woman,
and if his daddy ever lost his damn mind
and thought he could hit me, especially in
frount of cameron, he would have another
thing coming.
chanee
wrote:
ok this is how it is my name
is tawana i'm 7wks pregnant and at high
risk for a miscarriage.My hubby keeps
wanting to fight and yell,and it's really
putting alot of stress on me.My chest and
my back started hurting really bad,it's
like he wants to make me cry or maybe he
does want this baby.I'm scared because I
want my baby.We have a 22mth old son
together who loves his daddy.But I think
i'm falling out of love with him and
starting not to like him.I don't know if I
want him in my life.I know you say it's
going to be hard to raise 2 kids.But
should I go through this abuse and
continue to cry and be stressed.I'm 22yrs
old and his 28yrs old I met him when I was
16 and we've been together ever since.But
now he thinks he can say and do all of
this hurtful things and I won't walk
out.He thinks he is king dinga ling.And he
thinks i'm whipped or something i'm
not,i'm justing useto him.But now my baby
is at risk because.Before I even had
children we would fight and yell and
menstration would not be here yet and I
would bleed during our fight and i'm
scared if we keep fighting and stuff I
might start bleeding from all the stress
plz if anyone could give me some advice I
would love to hear it right now.Thxs
chanee
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Chanee Posted: 12-07-05 15:39pm
Day by day the lord takes care of the
innocent, and they will receive a reward
that lasts forever.
Psalm 37:18 nlt
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chanee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 124 Location: detroit
Posted: 12-07-05 20:16pm
Amen thxs joanna ppl don't understand he's
never hit me but life is hard and he does
his best I will leave him but when i'm
ready I just need advice at the time ppl
don't judge unless ye want to be judged
not u joanna the lady who responded before
you
thxs everyone god bless you all
chanee
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hollie686
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Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 195 Location: USA
Posted: 12-08-05 13:05pm
The best thing to do is sit him down &
have a serious conversation with him.
Tell him how you feel, how he makes you
feel when you guys fight. Let him know
that if this behavior continues, you will
not stand for it. I know i've had to
threaten my husband a time or two:) . I
hope you are able to work out your issues
with him. Keep us posted on how things
go. Everything will work out in the end:)
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 01-02-06 10:09am
Hi chanee,
how are you doing? I havent seen you on
here much lately. They always run the
good ones off, that is why they mess with
me so bad--but I will not go away. I am
on a mission now. Hows that pregnancy
doing?
Did you have happy new years, we forgot it
was even happening until 25 minutes before
the ball dropped.
God bless you and your baby:
always
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Ta-ra
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 97 Location: uk
Posted: 01-02-06 18:35pm
I asked god for a baby, he gave me a
miscarriage.
So I wont be asking god again for
nuffin.
But anyways I wish u the best of luck
chanee in whatever u decide to do and best
of luck in future :)
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 01-02-06 21:30pm
You need to leave him...You are better
than that ...And you need to take care of
you and your children...You can do it
...It might be hard...But not as hard as
it will be to see your baby's dad...Do
damage to your children in the long
run....I think there are many men out
there that would love to be with
you...Seriously ..You need to put some
thought into it and be strong and show him
whose boss :wink:
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 01-03-06 08:42am
ta-ra
wrote:
i asked god for a baby, he
gave me a miscarriage.
So I wont be asking god again for
nuffin.
But anyways I wish u the best of luck
chanee in whatever u decide to do and best
of luck in future
:)
i am sorry for your lost ta-ra , however
have you taken the time to think that
maybe god forsaw that something was wrong
with that child something that would
disable it for life. Someting he di not
thin kyou would be able to handle.
Everything happens for a reason, I know
you hate to hear that, and I know a
miscarrige is hard my mom had one and
still has not recovered,that was 6 years
go. But this is how she thinks of it,
there may have been somthing really wrong,
the child may not have been developing
right, and at least she knows that her
child is in haven above. I am no one to
preach to you. I just do not want you to
give up hope and faith in god. God never
puts anything on someone that he dont
think that they can handle. I lost a
friend over a year ago and I had got
pretty upset with god, but I am slowly
understanding that everything happens for
a reason. All you can do is live life to
the fullest and enjoy what we have of it.
I am positive that when the good lord
feels you are ready he will bless you with
the perfect little boy or girl. Like I
said my mom had a miscarrige 6 years ago
and guess what she is pregnant again. I
will pray for you if thats ok, just please
do not turn away from god, please!
