My fiance and myself will be married in
feb. Weve been chatting for almost 2
years, have met 9 times in that time etc
etc everything is going well.
My only concern is that she is a virgin,
and that is something ive never had to
deal with before (fortunately or
unfortunately)
we are both 42, im a single parent but she
has not ever been with a man, sexually at
least.
Ive heard that its painful for women
....And sometimes men too, when women lose
their virginity, have also heard theres a
lot of bleeding etc, as some skin or
similar need to be broken???
As this will be our first time together
and her first time ever, and as we plan to
be together for life, id like it to be as
pleasant as possible for both of us, and
would appreciate any info at all from
anyone with any other experiences such as
this.
Thanx in advance.
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kt4est123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Florida
Posted: 12-07-05 14:55pm
My husband was my first and as long as
there is a lot of foreplay and she is
pretty turned on there shouldn't be a lot
of pain. As far ad the bleeding goes, it
is minimal. It isn't going to be like a
flood or something. And if she has ever
done anything sexually with anyone before,
the membrane that you are talking about
breaking may already be broken. Don't
worry about it.
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Empress_Divine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2005 Posts: 23
Posted: 12-07-05 15:22pm
To be honest, all depending on your size
will matter on how much pain she'll feel.
The longer she waits, the more pain she'll
feel (42 years old, wow)
just make shes all slippery & wet
& turned on, so her mind wont be on
the pain so much, and if your gentle she
probably wont bleed at all.
Good luck
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nervyoldernewlywedtobe
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 10
Posted: 12-08-05 00:15am
Thnx kt + empress, yeah I know I shouldnt
be worried, I realize people have managed
somehow for centuries with this "problem",
and the population is not under
threat..Lol
good tip though about foreplay and
arousal, im sure we'll know when were
ready.
