Joined: 03 Dec 2005 Posts: 34 Location: lafayette, colorado
Too Depressed to Be Around the Baby Posted: 12-05-05 12:39pm
My daughter is due to have her first baby
in april. She told me she would like me
to snap out of my depression before the
baby comes so my depression and negitivity
doesn't rub off or influence the baby like
it did her while she was growing up. My
husband and I live with my daughter due to
the fact that my husband suffered a stroke
last august and I made a lot of quick
decisions before thinking about the
concequences. Any suggestions she wants
me to watch the baby when she goes back to
work after her maternity leave
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sad_eyes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 96
Posted: 12-06-05 19:37pm
Hi,
i doubt your daughter as ever suffered
from depression herself - since she feels
that depressed people can just snap out of
the illness, when others want them to.
I would say that if she’s not happy with
you being around the baby when you're
depressed, then she should find an
alternative carer for the baby. You can't
just snap out of it and you are only going
to become more depressed if you begin to
stress and feel guilty, about the impact
it might have on the baby.
In what ways are you coping with your
depression?? Are you one medication, or
receiving any counselling at all??
There are many ways to reduce depression
such as a eating a healthy diet, exercise,
doing something creative to express
yourself - but the problem is that it can
be very difficult to motivate yourself to
do these things as they can take alot of
effort for someone who is depressed. You
could try making a list of things which
may reduce depression, and try and make
very small changes little by little so
that it's not such a strain on you.
All the best
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buttons119
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2005 Posts: 34 Location: lafayette, colorado
Depression Posted: 12-07-05 06:03am
Thank you sad eyes for your input. I
will try making a list, and you were right
about feeling guilty because that has
already started. My whole life I have
been so out of control. I overeat, as
food has always been a comfort for me. I
never exercise the will power is just not
there but I will try. Thanks again for
caring enough to respond
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sad_eyes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 96
Posted: 12-08-05 09:15am
That's good that you are going to try
thinking about factors that could help
improve the way you feel. I comfort eat
also sometimes, but it only makes me feel
worse afterwards, because I start worrying
about whether I will gain weight
afterwards.
Anyway i'm trying to make some changes
also -
i have started taking vitamin supplements
a few weeks back now i'm trying to improve
my diet and after that when I feel I have
more energy I will try taking up more
exercise.
Let us know how you get on.
Take good care.
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 12-08-05 09:26am
Maybe the baby will bring you out of the
depression a lil too. Are you on meds?
I am a new mom with a 5 1/2 month old and
had bad depression grwoing up and wa s on
all kinds of meds and stuff, I weaned
myself off of them while I was preggo and
had baby blues for a couple of weeks after
but am totally fine now. I am off all my
meds and am not depressed anymore either.
My son has brought me a lot of happiness.
I am exhausted cause he's a piggy and is
still up every 3-4hours at night to eat
but other than that he's great. I hope
you can work everything out before the
baby comes. My momlives onthe other side
of the country and has not seen my son yet
and that cause me alot of grief so I hope
that does not happen with you all.
Are there reasons behind your depression?
Liek the other poster said, make a list,
see what they are and what you can do to
about them. I wish you all the best of
luck.
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buttons119
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2005 Posts: 34 Location: lafayette, colorado
Depressed Grandma to Be Posted: 12-08-05 09:36am
I am really trying very hard to pull
myself out of depression. I am on
medication lexapro and welbutrin and I
also have other health issues as well. I
am estatic about being a grandmother and I
can't wait to hold the baby we found out
yesterday it is going to be a girl. I am
trying very hard to keep a positive
attiude and a smile when my daughter comes
home from work. Hopefully I will come
out of it before the baby is born
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lil_blaze2004
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Re: Depressed Grandma to Be Posted: 12-08-05 09:51am
buttons119
wrote:
i am really trying very hard
to pull myself out of depression. I am
on medication lexapro and welbutrin and I
also have other health issues as well.
I am estatic about being a grandmother and
I can't wait to hold the baby we found out
yesterday it is going to be a girl. I
am trying very hard to keep a positive
attiude and a smile when my daughter comes
home from work. Hopefully I will come
out of it before the baby is
born
i was on those too and they didn't help.
Have they tried you on paxil? That's
what finally helped me. Congrats on a
girl too!! I wish you the best of luck.
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