Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 53 Location: Amherst VA
Re: Anal Sex And Love Posted: 01-18-06 17:41pm
abde27
wrote:
opinions are tobe discussed,
I suppose. This is what I think and
feel. I m fond on touching a woman s
buttocks. But not insert in . It would
dishoner her to do that. She should be
proud of her vagina and avoid bein taken
by the anus.
She s got someting a man doesent have
.Otherwise, what's a woman for?
Everyone's got a hole behind and we know
what it's for. Think of love sex
affection to put things
right.
okay okay, I understand you. So, are you
telling me that you do not have oral sex
either? I mean, the mouth is not for the
penis... Right? I'm really not trying to
start a fight, just trying to see things
from your point of view. The few times my
husband and I had anal sex, he was in no
way "dis honoring" me. We did it out of
curiousity and both enjoyed it. What is
wrong with that? I am very proud of my
vagina, i'v brought a child into the world
with it, but my anus and my vagina are not
in a contest to see which is best... Ya
know?
Teresa
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jellyfishattack
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jan 2006 Posts: 15 Location: Toronto, Ontario
Ouch. Posted: 01-18-06 20:51pm
If your bf wants to, but you don't, I
recommend you pretend you're very
enthusiastic, tell him what a wonderful
idea it is, that you'd love to try
it...And then say, 'but you have to go
first honey', then get an eggplant (the
big ones), or huge cucumber, or get an
enormous dildo. End of discussion. Then
you can buy him some consolation in the
form of anal sex porn.
If you actually want to do it (and not
just your bf), then slow and gentle is the
rule. And you do need to learn to relax
the internal sphincter, as well as the
external. If it hurts stop. But you have
to be able to trust him to stop as soon as
you say stop.
Use extra-strong condoms and lube designed
for anal use, because the rectum doesn't
provide any lubrication on its own. Also
be very careful with the condoms - they
tend to slip and tear more often than when
used vaginally.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-18-06 23:20pm
I would get really really drunk first.
Lol I tried once a long time ago with an
ex boyfriends and it didnt hurt but he was
hung like a mouse anyway and I was all
drunk but I was not enjoying it because I
was so afraid I was going to poop the
entire time,
then I tried it again once more with my
husband. I ised something called "anal
ease" supposed to numb and lube at same
time. I didnt really hate it or like it
I mainly did it for him because he had
never done it before. He came very fast
(thank god) and when it was over I was
having what I like to call "spasms of
fire" it was like a burning charlie horse
in my rectum. I toofk a bath trying to
"relax" and silently vowed that I would
never do that again! I am not sure what
happened but I think I may of had some
reaction to the "anal ease" that we used.
Every now and then my husband still asked
me if we can do it in the butt again. I
really try to be adventerous but I tell
him "no way you had your chance!" lol
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seventyonedragonflies
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 3 Location: central Florida
Can You Believe How Many People Read This Thread? Posted: 01-19-06 00:42am
Crazy huh?
Slooooooooooooooow I am old, and don't
care for it... But that wasn't the
question.
Seven
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abde27
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2005 Posts: 12
Just a Wrong Habit Posted: 01-19-06 11:09am
Dear teresa , I believe that most of our
wrong habits start with a simple
curiosity, just like smoking cigarettes.
Then it's difficult to abondon. I know a
guy who can't sleep with a woman unless
she accepts to make anal sex with him, the
vagina does not ecxite him. So, it's
wrong and not natural and even dangerous.
This is what I m trying to poit out.
Let's be resonable, we should not defend
it. Not all those who do it are
satisfied. Ok what do u think
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penelope67
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 114 Location: NH
Posted: 01-19-06 12:59pm
We all understand your opinion, but this
is not a thread to hear how it is so
wrong, it is for people who are curious
and want to try it and want to make it the
best experience possible. I think your
friend is weird and its rare that someone
is addicted to anal sex. Its one of those
things that is fun to do once in a while,
and its only dangerous if you do it
carelessly
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 01-19-06 15:15pm
Keep it simple.Relax,don't tighten up and
go slowly.If you are a small person and
your man is big,chances are it will hurt a
lot.
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abde27
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2005 Posts: 12
Posted: 01-19-06 17:03pm
No harm in discussing things . It s not a
fight. I may be convinced myself and do
it sometime with my girlfried.
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Re: No Anal Sex Posted: 01-19-06 18:25pm
abde27
wrote:
i m a male. I just
wondering why they want to change nature.
That hole was and is never for sex .
Sorry to say it's shameful to do .
Kiemester, you're absolutely
right.
this isnt debate...So keep your opinion to
yourself ...If you dont think anal sex is
right then why would you click the
thread...
If someone likes it then so be it ..If you
dont ..Then ..Dont do it!
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wife_and_mom4life
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 53 Location: Amherst VA
Re: Just a Wrong Habit Posted: 01-20-06 15:34pm
abde27
wrote:
dear teresa , I believe that
most of our wrong habits start with a
simple curiosity, just like smoking
cigarettes. Then it's difficult to
abondon. I know a guy who can't sleep
with a woman unless she accepts to make
anal sex with him, the vagina does not
ecxite him. So, it's wrong and not
natural and even dangerous. This is
what I m trying to poit out. Let's be
resonable, we should not defend it. Not
all those who do it are satisfied. Ok
what do u
think
hello abde27... Nice to hear from you
again, I thought you had given up there
for a sec. Lol! Anyways, hmmmm... I am
very sorry to hear that a guy you know
can't live without anal sex, obviously he
needs to seek some prefessional help.
However, not all of us are in that ugly
situation. This is true, alot of bad
habits do start out of curiousity, but
alot of good "habits" also come about out
of curiousty. Do they not? For the
people who do engage in anal sex, this
does not mean that it is a habit for them.
We could argue about this silly subject
forever but the point is, to each his own.
If you are curious about it, then try it.
Sure there are risks envolved, but there
are risks envolved with most everything we
do. Nice debating with you abde! Hear
from you soon i'm sure!
Teresa
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wife_and_mom4life
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 53 Location: Amherst VA
Posted: 01-20-06 15:46pm
abde27
wrote:
no harm in discussing things
. It s not a fight. I may be convinced
myself and do it sometime with my
girlfried.
ha ha! Lol! Lol! Lol! Yep, I knew you
would come round!
Teresa
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erogers33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 141 Location: Littleton, CO
Posted: 01-20-06 16:47pm
So here's the conclusion: some people like
it, and some people don't. Some people
have tried it, some people will never ever
try it. Each and every person is going to
have an opinion on this subject, but it's
really a personal preference. As for me,
me and my fiance have anal sex every so
often. At the most, maybe once a month.
I know he enjoys it, and to be honest I
really enjoy it too. We do it in
moderation and it works for us. There's
no "addiction" to it, no bad habits... We
have an awesome sex life and it just adds
to the excitement.
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liwikiwi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 235 Location: Canada
Posted: 01-20-06 16:56pm
lilypad
wrote:
t I was not enjoying it
because I was so afraid I was going to
poop the entire time,
lmao I have the same fear ahahahahhaha
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wife_and_mom4life
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 53 Location: Amherst VA
Posted: 01-20-06 17:45pm
Lol! Yep, I used to be afriad that when
we were finished, he would have "poop" on
his penis! Embarassing!
Teresa
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Kiemister
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 136 Location: ,
Posted: 01-21-06 00:39am
Haha thats scary yet halarious!
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SHORTY1980
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006 Posts: 14 Location: ILLINOIS
Just Another Opinion Posted: 01-21-06 14:49pm
My fiancee and I both really enjoy anal
sex. I think lubrication and being able
to totally relax are the keys to being
able to enjoy it . Of course you need
could communication and understanding
between you and your partner, so if it
hurts he will stop till you are
comfortable.I find the best psition for me
is laying flat on my stomach and him
entering me that way . Then your whole
bodies are really close and if you like it
hwe can reach around and play with your
clit or you can raise up a little and he
can play with your breasts.Or like and
nibble on your neck and ear.
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abde27
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2005 Posts: 12
Enjoy Your Anal Sex Posted: 01-21-06 15:56pm
Thanks teresa, my aim was really to
discuss, say what I believe and try to
hear what I ignore from others cause I was
about to do it myself as I told. I even
started once and stopped it thinking it
was wrong of me doing. I enjoyed
debating with you. You re nice, at least
you did not reject my opinions. Enjoy
your anal sex everyone
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Kiemister
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 136 Location: ,
Posted: 01-25-06 20:11pm
Anal sex is too much effort for
me...Lol.... My buddy is kinda fat....But
a regular size....So it is more
difficult..But even if...I wont.
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karaokehstess33
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 6 Location: MD
Anal Sex Posted: 01-29-06 22:28pm
Omg, what prudes we have in here. I for
one do not like anal sex, it hurts to
much...May be because I don't do it
enough. The only time I ever enjoyed it
was when I was completely drunk. But, who
are we to tell other people not to try it?
To each their own and people need to
explore what they think they may like. Do
whatever you want but don't let a man
pressure you into it. If you want to try
anal sex, try, if not say no. Do what is
in your heart and don't listen to these
"it's shameful" people in here.
Angie
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selfmade
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Hawaii
Lube...lube...lube Posted: 02-27-06 18:59pm
That's the key!! And you really have to
be in the mood for it. If you are- it's
great!!! You have to relax tho-. Don't
be scared. If you're tense you are making
it worse- and u aren't going to enjoy it.
Millions of people do it. It's not wrong.
It's just a matter of personal arousal.
It can be really good. You might be
surprised. You might even ask him for it.
:d start small. Let him finger the rim
first- with lube. Then let him insert his
finger-then the next time around- start
with the tip of the penis. Then a little
more- untill gradually it's all the way
in. This might take a few sex sessions to
get to this point.
