I'm sorry everyone, but I have to vent a
little. I read a couple of posts about
people who didnt know what to do, and in
every post I read people only considered 2
options. Then an older post I read one
girl was saying her mother was going to
force her to do adoption (which you
can't), and some people told her in more
or less words that adoption was a negative
way to go. I want to know why people
think that???? There are more than two
options there are actually four options
available to people now a days.
1) parent the baby
2)abortion
3) open adoption (private adoption)
4) closed adoption (government adoption)
why in the heck do people go the route of
abortion??? Now I ask this from
experience, because I got pregnant at 15
years old, and I didn't have the means to
support a baby. So I instantly thought
of abortion (which I am 100% against), but
sitting talking to an old friend she began
to talk to me about adoption after that I
was curious about it. So I learned alot
about open adoption, closed adoption,
government adoption and private adoption.
I realized there is more options
available than people think. And each
one has different negatives and
positives.
I would also like to say that adoption
isnt a bad thing. Yes it is hard, but
its a lot better than not giving the baby
all that he/she deserves. Especially
when you know you can't do it (not saying
all young girls cant do it). Personally
I went the open adoption route when I was
15. I still see her and she knows who I
am, and the best part is I helped a couple
who couldnt conceive and had been trying
for almost 10 years.
Im not promoting adoption or anything, but
it frustrates me that alot of people don't
consider it.
Everyone is entitled to there opinions,
and I know some people are pro-life and
pro choice, but I am not either of those.
Sorry for the vent everyone..Probably just
cause I am pregnant and I can't stand the
thought of abortion. So thanks for
reading my post :p
nevyn due april 15th, 2006 :)
Last edited by nevermore on 12-08-05 14:59pm; edited 1 time in total
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 12-08-05 14:54pm
You a great to admit u couldnt handle a
baby but u gave another couple such love.
Im so emotional I dont no what to write
(thank you pregnancy hormones! :evil: ) I
totally agree that adoption is much better
than abortion. Hopfully u have informed
someone who needed another option
there is nothing wrong with your vent!
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 12-08-05 19:48pm
People go for abortion in cases of rape,
or when they can't carry the pregnancy for
fear, when they are victims of domestic
violence, when they don't want some
stranger to bring up their child, but
can't offer the child stability and
security
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 12-08-05 21:02pm
The point of an open adoption is you
interview potential parents and you see
your chile regularly you get to know them
before they raise your child so they arent
strangers. And I think if you have a fear
of pregnancy maybe u are to young to b
having sex and in the case of rape its
still you choice but u gotta think that
baby didnt rape you it did nothing.
Babies have heart beats after 18 days.
They are ppl to
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 12-08-05 21:03pm
Unless u mean fear as in medical reasons
because then yes if theres a pretty good
chance the pregnancy could kill you or
something then ok
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 12-09-05 08:00am
I mean fear as in fear for your life, fear
for your childs well-being, fear of abuse
and violence.
Young people having abortions often did
not get pregnant through consentual sex.
There are many reasons to abort and I
would rather some one abort than add
another child to the statistics of neglect
and abuse.
No, the baby didn't rape you but every
time you felt that child move, every time
you looked in it's eyes you are going to
be remnded of the terrible act, you will
always see your rapist. There is on-going
evidence that the part of the mind that
leads people to do these despicable acts
can be apssed onto offspring - regardless
of environmental upbringing.
A very large number of people having sex
are "technically" too young to be having
sex but that really isn't going to stop
them, which is why I would like to see
contraceptives made more easily available
to young people and far advanced sex
education is schools and collages.
As, for myself, pregnancy would be most
welcome and I can assure that at almost 27
years I am definately "old enough" to be
having sex.
