I am in love with my boyfriend and we are
having bad times more often than we both
would like. We both seek couseling on our
own but not for couples. We both have
issues with our past and how we were
raised. We been through a lot in the past
year I relocated closer to him moved in
with him and we have had short talks about
possible marriage again. We are very
abusive verbally and emotionally. I am
his first and only relationship ans I have
two kids. I try to be patient and
understanding about that. He thinks a lot
about himself as he's so used to for 30
years. I supprot evrything he does and am
behind him all the way and that's the
problem I am behind him. I want to be at
his side not in front or behind. We were
raised difeerently and it shows. He never
felt the love so he expresses his love
differently and very closed up as to me
always being open and expressive. He
always tells he he wants out and goes back
on it continuously. I know he loves me
because it does show when things are good
but when something happens at work, his
family, money he makes it out to be that
it is us and it's not but the blame gets
put on me. Instead of handling things how
I would like he does it his way and his
way hurts me deeply. My kids feel the
tension and he takes it out on them by
having us walk places me losing jobs him
not being supportive. My kids suffer with
me when he has a bad day. Please help me.
We do loveeach other but things that
happen around us effect us and he allows
it to destroy us. I dont know how much
more I can take of the inconsistency and
not knowing if he truly wants me.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 12-08-05 16:45pm
I would have serious thoughts about
staying with him especially if he is
abusing you and your children. You may
feel like you love him but I will bet that
you have no respect for him. Their are a
lot of places where women can go with
their children now adays until you can get
on your feet. I would seriously sit
ddown and have a discussion with him and
see if he is willing to change for you and
your children because it is not right for
any of you to live this way and then move
on.
Good luck to you and your children, do
what is right for them, it is not there
fault, kids are kids.
