Finding a Partner For Threesome

Anyone have any feedback at all?...Opinions?....Anything?
Am I the only woman out there that is considering this?

My husband and I have participated in 3somes before. We knew the person and he works with my husband. It was wierd at first for me, being around him - but it gradually got better. There has been no wierd air between my husband and him though. I would recommend you choose someone that you know well enough (diseases) and make sure that you're mentally prepared. There's alot more to it than just sex.

From all i've heard, threesomes and swinging cause way more problems in a marriage than they could ever help. I think its disgusting.

Well..I think you should only go for a stranger for a threesome even better do so while you are on a vacation outside your town. Its really embarrasing if you do that with anyone known to you as things may get complicated later or at least all of you will feel uncomfortable when you meet that person in social gatherings etc.
Regarding safety of stranger, you may have an idea after talking to him or let your husband first meet him and then if looks ok then proceed. Always go for safe sex, tell him to use condoms, so a starnger will be best this way.

I find it a little odd that the husband would be ok with this kind of thing. Personaly if it was me id ditch any girl who would think of doing this kind of stuff. All it shows is that she has lost interest in me and in our relationship. Not worth the trouble.

Why has everyone assumed another man, maybe they are looking for a woman...If it is another man, is this your fantasy or his?

Thanks alice for realizing that. I had about given up on this site and gone to another.
This started out as his "thing", but after many jokes from him I confessed to a same-sex kiss iin my past. It all sprang from there. So to answer your question, it is both of ours.

........And yes we are looking for a woman.

If you think it is so wrong, why come to this section. I have found that it helps if you casually know someone. Not know them on a personal level just a casual friendship. I had my first threesome after jokingly brought it up in a conversation.

You have to know the person really well. I imagine that the only people wanting to be part of a threesome have been with a lot of partners and probably have std's. Unless if you have someone really close to you, it will be very difficult.
Let me add a threesome can destroy a marriage. Learn to enjoy each other and try new things or new places with each other. You don't need to add another person into the mix.

I dont think it is disgusting at all, and if I did, I wouldnt be rude enough to say it. My boyfriend has always dreamed af having a threesome with two girls and I think it would be fun as well. I dont think that wanting to have a threesome means you have lost interest in the relationship, because me and my boyfriend love each other so much. I think that a lot of people dont want to have threesomes because they are insecure. (im not saying everyone) it is very hard to find the right person, because I want someone who is clean, but I dont want someone I know well, because I dont want a friendship to become weird (i wouldnt be weird, but I would be afraid of the other person being weird) I guess the best way to find someone is to look online for someone who lives close to you and get to know them really well first and make sure you click, because if not, they might be a weirdo. Its a hard question-i just wanted to let you know you are not alone, and maybe I helped?!

Pls wat is happening around here? Why r pple doing these?

The zebra lounge is a b movie it may be hard to find. It stars stephen baldwin and the girl from buffy the vampire slayer the movie. It is about a couple that fantasizes about such things and then they get wrapped up with a couple that becomes obsessed with them. If you think you want to try a threesome maybe you should just watch some dirty movies together. I have a friend that did this with her husband with another girl and she ended up crying and getting really jealouse and everyone was emberassed and awkward. Then she couldn't shake the images of what he was doing to the other girl. She was into doing it with the girl too but couldn't enjoy herself for the distraction of his pleasure with her.

Everyone is different. Me and my boyfriend dont have a problem with things like that, because we arent insecure, and I am not a jealous person. Im just saying that what might work for one person might not work for another and vice versa. Dont assume that everything is always one way or set in stone. Open up your mind a little and you might realize that too.

People should really get their experimenting out of the way before they get married or even settle down with a bf/gf.

With an ex bf (ex fiance actually), we tried the whole 3some thing. He always wanted to have one with two other girls and I was curious about it as well.

The day came where we were going to have one. The girl we met, we all had gotten tested together (just to make sure no one had anything). We all went to my fiance's house and went into the bedroom. Well, they started practically pouncing on each other, undressing each other and leaving me out of the equation. I undressed myself, waiting for my fiance ya know. Well, they pretty much ignored me and started having sex with each other! I just stood there in shock. I couldn't believe my eyes. I felt like I was just watching him cheat on me. I started talking, they ignored me. I started to yell after they were ignoring me, still ignored me. So what did I do? I pulled the little prostitute off of him and told her to get the f*ck out.

They were both yelling at me, she just stood there naked. I hurried up and got my clothes back on. She was still standing there naked, and kept trying to go over to the bed where my fiance was. I pushed her back once again. I ended up taking all of her clothes, shoes, and purse and threw it outside. Then I pushed her outside and locked the door. Then my fiance was pissed off and was yelling at me more. So I told him that I just basically stood there watching him cheat on me. He tried apologizing and everything. I later forgave him. Then he said that we should try it once more. I told him there's no way i'm ever going to do that again. I'm not a jealous person, never have been, but that night, I got super jealous (obviously).

Well, a couple months down the road, I find out that he has been having sex with that girl after the "3some". I go over to his house and see a familiar car in the driveway, I walk in (had a key to his place), he's no where to be found. I go to his bedroom and the door is shut and I hear noises. I walk in and see him and her having sex. Again I pull her off of him, but beat the crap out of her this time. I take off my ring and throw it out the window and tell him to never call me again.

I now don't know how anyone in their right mind, that seriously loves someone, would want to bring another person into their relationship. All it does is cause more damage and you lose the love you have for one another. Bringing another woman into the relationship is just going to make him think it's ok to have sex with other women when you're not around.

People who choose not to bring another person into their relationship doesn't mean they're insecure. I believe that when you're with a person, you are only with them, no sex with others. When you're married and you do that, you're breaking your vows that you gave on your wedding day, making your marriage worthless and fall apart.

People can be so judgemental! I feel everyone has their right to lead their own lives as they choose and it is no one's place to tell them that it is wrong or right. That's why we live our own lives. I am happily married and have done a few 3 some's. We actually chose to have another male join us. We went with complete strangers and it was fun. After trying this 3 times we decided it wasn't really what we wanted. We have also experimented with another couple and it was ok. But be prepared when going in to this...It can be quite and emotional and mental shock to see your loved one with someone else. Make sure this is something both parties want 100 percent and if anyone is feeling uncomfortable at any point during the process to stop it immediately.

And oh by the way....It's not always the woman's suggestion to invite another man...And yes my husband is 100 percent straight. Everyone should stay in their own backyard and not jump to conclusions about others.

Wow! I'v never really thought seriously about a threesome with my husband. When I was a little younger I had some crazy times with guys (which I am very ashmed of now) but never with another girl and a guy. I would never have a threesome now because for one, I am a christian and I don't believe that it is right, your body is for your spouse sexually... Nobody else. The other reason is, I don't like the idea of .M.Y husband being inside another women. I mean, I may just be the jealous type but the thought of his hands all over another women and his penis in her really gets to me! Well, that's my opinion! I'm not talking down on any of you who have done it (because I have my self, and regret it now) or any of you who are thinking about doing it.

God bless and good luck,
teresa