My Fiance Wants Another Baby? Posted: 12-09-05 14:48pm
We recently had a abortion because my
family didn't approve so now we are living
together and we are trying to conceive
another child. The abortion was 2 months
ago and since then I dont even know if I
had my period and we dont use protection
could I possibly be pregnant? Also is it
easier to become pregnant after an
abortion?
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Lilypad
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 12-12-05 22:06pm
Um the best I can tell ya is this...I had
a still born in july and they had to do a
d & c for the placenta and such, which
I suppose is a similar proccess physically
to an abortion, but much worse because I
wanted my baby. My doctor told me to
wait to try to conceive again until I had
two full periods. If you have not had a
period yet you may still be healing
inside. I guess there is a slim chance
you could be pregnant-just take a hpt
test. But I have heard that sometimes
after something like that you could get
pregnant quicker because sometimes the
body will release more than one egg after
(i guess b/c when you are pregnant its
holding them back) but my doctor told me
that if you get pregnant before two cycles
you are at greater risk for misscariage.
Are you sure that you are ready for
another baby so soon after this abortion?
Have you considered waiting until you two
are married? This is a big decision not
to be jumped into without alot of
consideration...Especially since you just
had an abortion! I hope you take some
time to do some deep soul searching.
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Lilypad
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 12-12-05 22:08pm
P. S. I also was wondering about what
you said. You said you had an abortion
because your family didnt approve. What
is different now , would they still not
approve? If their approval was the
reason I dont understand why you would
want to jump right back in to the same
situation???
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Cambion
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Posted: 12-12-05 22:31pm
Aw hon, it's your life - your family can't
make you have an abortion. Who cares if
they don't approve? They aren't living
your life. I'm sorry to hear you had to
go through such a hard time.
As far as getting pregnant again, I know
it can be a bit more difficult for a woman
to conceive after having an abortion - the
level of difficulty varies with each
woman. Also, as someone else had said,
if you don't wait a while (like until
you've had 2 or 3 cycles), you could put
yourself at a higher risk for miscarriage
than if your body had gone back to
normal.
Also, why do you want to try again?
Would your family still not approve of you
having a baby? Or are you going to
simply tell them to go screw themselves
and live your life as you want? Just
remember - no one can tell you what to do
with your unborn child. If it's an issue
of you and your fiance not being officialy
married, that shouldn't be the problem -
you've both already made the commitment to
become one through marriage and you wish
to start your lives. You needn't tell why
your family doesn't approve of you having
a baby, but only you can live your life.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 12-12-05 22:54pm
I agree that you shouldnt let your family
decide for you if you keep your baby or
not. But that is already done and cant
be undone. Just hoping that you make
sure this is what you really want before
you go thru this again. Good luck to you
sweetie!
