Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Posts: 9 Location: The US of A
Advice Needed Posted: 12-09-05 19:45pm
My name is angie and I am 17 years old.
My boyfriends name is donnie and he is 24.
We have been together for a little over 2
years and now we are trying to have a
baby. He already has a little boy who
will be 1 in a few a days,(not mine)!
Yeah I know he cheated but I forgave him
and I love his little boy he is so cute.
I just love him so very much. Anyway
completely got off topic, I wanna know if
I am doing the right thing by trying to
get pregnant now? I love him and I know
that he loves me too and we both want a
baby, but well I dont know. Please give
advice.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 12-09-05 20:00pm
Hi there. Welcome! Why not give it
another year, just to see if he will not
cheat on you again, besides that he might
end up in jail if he was to get you
pregnant before you are 18, waiting
another year might prove a lot to you and
him, after all he does have six years
experience on you and I am not saying that
is bad but I know I cannot tell you what
to do as that is up to you but a year is
not that long and having a baby is a lot
of work especially if things do not work
out for you two.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
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angie06
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Posts: 9 Location: The US of A
Posted: 12-10-05 21:02pm
Thanks alot for your advice sandyallen,
but im not too worried about him getting
locked up for being with me or getting me
pregnant because my mom knows that are we
together and as long as she knows then he
cant get into any trouble but thanks for
the advice anyway, who knows I might even
take it! :d
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
Posted: 12-17-05 20:49pm
Again like sandyallen please dont think im
trying to tell you what to do because it
is ur own choice but 17 is so young for a
baby. I got pregnant at 18 and although I
do not regret my child at all I do wish I
had been more careful and waited alittle
longer. I didnt really take into account
the change it would have on my life. If
your partner has cheated on you why not
wait some more to see if he really is the
one for you, if you already think he is,
then whats the rush?. Why not just enjoy
spending some time together as a couple
like on holidays and nights out e.T.C
before settling down with a baby (you have
the rest of your life for that.)
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 21:19pm
You know what I am sure you want this baby
very much, but you may want to just hold
off on it, make sure you are really ready,
I am 20 and pregnant for the first time, I
think I a little young for this, I wanted
it , but now I am like wow, everything has
to change, I am not a kid anymore, I have
to be a mommy and put him first, no more
putting me first. And what if jsut a what
if but what if he is not faith ful, I am
not saying that he would not be but you
know him better than us, I would have
never forgave my bf or husband if he
conceived a child with someone else, thats
really bad,
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Nasha2Life
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 02-12-06 12:13pm
Hi,
i'm 18 and I was pregnant last year. If
you want to have a baby go ahead but you
should wait because if things dont go
right with you and your friend it aint
gonna be nothing but drama. But its hard.
And believe me pregnancy symptoms suck so
just like chill out and wait.
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*~Bree~*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 77 Location: South, MS
Posted: 02-24-06 23:53pm
Hey,
I know exactly how you feel. Im
only 19 and if I could have a child right
now I would. (having troubles) but the
fact that it hasn't happend yet has
actually paid off. Example, my best
friend got pregnant at 14. She was a
mother before she could even drive she
dropped out in the 8th grade. She missed
prom, graduation, all the normal high
school stuff. And to top it off her child
is handicap. So think how hard that would
be. And she is only one out of the many I
know that have children before they even
finsh high school. (oh and the baby's dad
left before she was born) . Im not
telling you this is how it will be for
you. But just think it over big time.
Have you done all the normal teen things
youve wanted to do? Do you have an
education? A job? Your own place?
Because this baby will need all of that.
If you ready to be someones mommy then
good luck sweetie I wish you the best.
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 02-26-06 11:51am
*~bree~*
wrote:
hey,
I know exactly how you feel. Im
only 19 and if I could have a child right
now I would. (having troubles) but the
fact that it hasn't happend yet has
actually paid off. Example, my best
friend got pregnant at 14. She was a
mother before she could even drive she
dropped out in the 8th grade. She missed
prom, graduation, all the normal high
school stuff. And to top it off her
child is handicap. So think how hard
that would be. And she is only one out
of the many I know that have children
before they even finsh high school. (oh
and the baby's dad left before she was
born) . Im not telling you this is how
it will be for you. But just think it
over big time. Have you done all the
normal teen things youve wanted to do?
Do you have an education? A job? Your
own place? Because this baby will need
all of that. If you ready to be someones
mommy then good luck sweetie I wish you
the best.
that is very good advice and I agree 100 %
, if you have all of the nesisites then
good for you and good luck, but make sure
you have it together before you do, me for
example. I just had my son ,he is my
world. Luckly he has a wonderful dad, and
grandparents to help, but I still am in
college. So therfore it is a little
hard.. I have to limit classes/// next
quarter I can only take 2 classes,,,
because it would be hard to do more thann
that and still be with him like I need to
be... But like I said he does have a gm
who will watch him when ever I need her
too. And my husband /his dad, is so
helpful... You need tis kind of support,
its not a must but it will make it alot
easier for you... And the better
education you have the better job or
career you can have and then your child
will have a better life... But wht ever
you do or whatever happens good luck.. I
remember how bad I wanted my son, I was 19
when I got preganant with him and I had
tried for his since I was 18.... God will
let it happen when it is time... But I
wanted a baby so bad, I looked up all the
ways to conceive,.,, and just to let you
know.. If you can follow you ovulation
days, that really works.. Look up a
ovulation calende/// it will tell you what
days are your most fertile...
