Ok so im 18 years old and I am a virgin
and I had 2 chances to lose my virginity.
And both times icouldnt get it up !!!!!
The first time I blame on because I was
nervous, yes and a lot of my friends told
me they had the same problem their first
time too, so I wasnt trippin. But then im
with the same girl, and it happens again!
And this time I wasnt nervous at all and
wanted to have sex with her so bad. We
tried everything except oral, and nothing
worked. A couple times I would be able to
get it hard, bot not hard enough to get it
in. It would be at about 70 % i'd say.
And the thing is , I hadn't masturbated
for 4 days before this, that's why I was
scared. I usually masturbate once a day.
Im starting to get really scared because
im only 18 years old. Please help me
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ergit
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Posts: 41
Posted: 12-11-05 21:43pm
I have the same problem man. Not that
extreme but along the same lines. I can
get it up after a lil bit but it will
variate in size throughout sex. I know
how frustrating it is.
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alex39k
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Dec 2005 Posts: 16
Posted: 12-12-05 00:06am
Can anyone help me ?
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tasha82
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2005 Posts: 112
Posted: 12-12-05 01:13am
Hi alex. Try not to be scared...I really
think you're fine physically. Just one
unpleasant experience can easily get stuck
in your mind, so you were probably (maybe
even subconsciously) worried that since it
happened once, it would happen again. I
know this is easier said than done,
especially since i'm not a man so I don't
really know how you feel, but try to
forget the first couple of times and just
relax. Don't go into it wondering if it
will happen again. Try to completely put
it out of your mind. If she's willing to
try oral on you, that could help, too. I
know I can't exactly relate to your
problem, but women can have similar
problems--for example, difficulty reaching
orgasm--and once you're afraid something
will happen, it will keep happening until
you stop thinking about it. I hope this
helps.
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alex39k
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Dec 2005 Posts: 16
Posted: 12-13-05 03:26am
Thanks tasha, that helped a lot. Any
other advice any1 can give me ? Anything
I can change in my diet or something that
will at least help ya know
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cd998776
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 997 Location: Ohio
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Posted: 12-13-05 22:41pm
It's nerves; it doesn't matter if it's
with the same girl or not; it's nerves.
(yes I know I said that twice.) just try
to prolong it as long as possible with
things like "romantic talk" and foreplay.
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lostdude
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Dec 2005 Posts: 31
Posted: 12-19-05 09:53am
Think of what turns you on and you kissing
that before you take off anything...
Lol... Just an idea...
