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lilsmash87
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Problem Having Sex
Posted: 12-14-05 01:38am
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I am 18 years old. I have been dating
this girl for about 2 years. She is
religeous and just turned 18 so now she
wants to have sex. We have been having
sex for about 4 months and its going
great. Untill a month ago. Lately when
we had sex. I am hard as a rock before
we have sex and when im ready to put my
penis in her it goes limp and I get shakey
and nervous. This has never happend
before. Well a short time after we broke
up and now believe it or not im dating 2
bi girls. Last night they started going
down on eachother. I was so hard. Then
I performed oral on one of them. And she
said get a condom on. I got nervous and
shrunk up. Usually a guy in a situation
with 2 chicks would be like hell yeah and
be hard right? Why am I getting shakkey
in a sexual situation? And shrink up?
I have no problems master bating. Before
with my x girlfriend. I would be hard
with hand jobs or oral or ejackulating
between her boobs id be hard but when it
comes to the vagina I get nervous and she
gets upset. Now last night when they
were laying next to me done with eachother
( this is after the girl told me to have
sex with her ) I was laying there trying
to masterbate and I could I was hard.
But when one of the girls touchedmy penis
it went limp. Please help anything you
can. Im only 18 and usually this isnt
right. Its not me. Usually im like
hell yeah lets do it now I feel
disapointed and its depressing. Any
advice?
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lilsmash87
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No One?
Posted: 12-14-05 09:41am
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Theres no advice? Im goin nuts lol
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mbreeggemann
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Posted: 12-14-05 11:28am
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Maybe you are simply not ready for sex..
Or maybe you havea real medical issue and
you need to see your doctor.. Or maybe
you know that these girls are not ones
that you love and are in love with so you
dont want to waste your time.. I dont
know sorry if I am not much help!
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cd998776
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Posted: 12-14-05 16:27pm
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Just look through the threads on this
site; there are many others with the same
problem..... Considering your age, there
a 99% chance it's nerves.
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Posted: 12-14-05 16:46pm
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Are u sure u like girls?? Jk
ya man its nervers... Had de same problem
a while back.. Jus relax.. Goes fine.
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lilsmash87
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Hey
Posted: 12-14-05 17:31pm
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Thanks for the support really helps
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Pedro
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Posted: 12-15-05 04:30am
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I know this sounds unorthodox, but if your
that desperate you could try drugs to
combat this like viagra or since it sounds
like your nerves, having a little alcohol
can help you relax and increase blood flow
for a short period of time. Or another
thing that I found has worked is using
marijuana before but normally this messes
up things, but it can completely get rid
of all anxiety and help you relax and just
think about sex, again these are all last
resorts if nothing else works
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Pedro
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Posted: 12-15-05 13:34pm
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Yeah ive herd being stoned helps...Because
I think its all in your head adn you ar
ethinking about the time u went limp with
your gf.
Try to be stoned, and another thing is try
to get them (preferably one of them, lol)
to give you head before u put on the
condom. Justa thought sry man...I got
the same problem :(
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mbreeggemann
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Posted: 12-15-05 13:41pm
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Dont be stoned because if something
happens and you end up getting a grl
pregnant then it may cause birth defects
and that wouldnt be good. The only way
to prevent a pregnancy from happening is
to not have sex. Just think about what
kind of damage that may cause!!
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cd998776
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Posted: 12-15-05 15:46pm
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Yeah, don't be stoned (or drunk for that
matter), and when possible stay away from
the use of any sexual drugs.
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lilsmash87
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Hmm
Posted: 12-15-05 16:13pm
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Posted: 12-16-05 01:07am
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I know this is contrary to popular opinion
but here goes.
Alcohol shouldn't effect your erections
much at your age. I personally find
that getting some liquor inside my system
prior to sex helps me relax a lot easier
while having no effect on my erection
quality. In fact I actually prefer
drunk sex to regular sex. In any case
drinking might help you calm your nerves,
it'll get you in that I don't give a damn
state of mind which really helps in
overcoming nervousness issues.
As for weed, well there have been times
when i've smoked and its made me real
horny but in most cases it makes me want
to have less sex rather than more.
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cd998776
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Posted: 12-16-05 16:58pm
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wrote: | | alcohol shouldn't effect
your erections much at your age. I
personally find that getting some liquor
inside my system prior to sex helps me
relax a lot easier while having no effect
on my erection quality.
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as much as I understand that he probably
has access to alcohol at his age, he is
still under the age of 21. Please try to
keep that in perspective.
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