I never really came on here that often but
when I did I got very helpful answers and
I want to thank u all for them.
Unfortunally last week I had a miscarriage
and lost my baby. It was the worst
experience of my life (i dont wanna go
into it of course because there is no need
for me to scare everyone). I just wanted
to let everyone know. Also I was
wondering if anyone on here has ever had a
miscarriage and can give me some advice on
how to get through it. This wasent a
planed pregnancy so I honestly didnt think
losing it would effect me this much, but
it did. Like I said this wasnt planned
but the moment I started bleeding I
realizied I wanted a child more then
anything. I was also wondering how long I
should wait to try agian if I wanted to
get preg. I dont know if I want a child
or if im just thinkin like this because I
just lost one. Anyway if anyone can give
me some advice on any of this I would be
very greatful. Good luck to everyone.
~jess
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m_svinareff
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 33 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 12-15-05 19:42pm
Listen, I am so sorry for your loss...
I'm 18 and have identical twin girls. It
was (kindda) planned. We wanted a baby,
we got two. Before I became pregnant
with them I had a miscarriage. That
pregnancy wasn't "planned." but it
affected me... I was so hurt and upset.
I blamed myself. I thought maybe it was
my fault because when I found out I was
pregnant that time I wasn't exactly
trilled. My miscarriage came when I was 7
weeks along and I was strating to warm up
to the idea of having a baby... I didn't
think it would upset me as muuch as it
did... There were times where I blamed
myself, maybe if I would have done this,
or wouldn't have done that. You know???
I didn't think i'd get threw it. But you
do get threw it. Beleive me. It helped
me to actually keep a diary of my
feelings. How I felt, and why I thought I
miscarried... Or the supposed reasons
why. It will get better. Try to talk to
someone. Take some time for you. You had
to go threw the process of oh my god! I'm
pregnant, then all of a sudden, oh my god,
I had a miscarriage. If you need someone
to talk to, or vent to, or get your
feelings and aggervations out to. Email
me!!!
good luck to you and god bless. I know
that you can get threw this. Just stay
strong!!! Hugs!!!
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dejanee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2005 Posts: 31 Location: Newyork
Posted: 12-17-05 10:57am
I really dont know what to tell you.I have
never experienced this my self..Although I
am 5 weeks pregnant and extremley scared
of miscarrying my self all I can tell you
is wait a little while so you can grieve
and get over your fear of having another
miscarriage before you get pregnant
again..Plus how old are you? Are you sure
a baby is what you want? If you answer
yes to these questions then go ahead. I
wish you the best of luck and sorry for
your loss.
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 01-02-06 20:58pm
Aw that is sad to hear....Although...I
think you should give it time ....And not
jump into things...Because right now you
are probably just really lonely and
wanting a child when in reality you might
want to wait...Just give it time...And
things will be okay...Good luck and sorry
once again!
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss..... I
too have been where you are now.
It gets easier--i promise!
You feel like a part of you is destroyed,
and you'll never get it back..... And you
won't...... Stay positive and I hope that
you'll feel complete someday.
Give it 3 regular cycles before you start
trying. I know it's hard hun, cry when
you need to!
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Ta-ra
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 97 Location: uk
Posted: 01-03-06 18:35pm
I went throught this on 17th dec 05 so I
know how u feel hum. Im giving my body
time to get back to how it was before I
start thinkin of having babies.
So id give it time and then give it a go .
Good luck to you and hope you pull
through. If you need someone to chat to
im here also. Tara82
1@hotmail.Co.Uk
beleive me I could do with some chat
myself as im still struggling.
